Are neurodivergents drawn more toward domination or submission?

[jj****]

8 minutes ago, CastityPleasureGiver said:

ND is an umbrella term for a whole host of conditions, people can be NT or ND diagnosed or otherwise all their lives , under certain circumstances people can move from ND - NT and in some instances back to ND .

This is false. You are born neurodivergent or neurotypical. TBE or Traumatic Brain *** is not the same as being neurodivergent. Neurodivergence is generally understood to include ADHD, Dyslexia, and Autism.

[jj****]

4 minutes ago, QueenSensei9000 said:

Hmm, that makes me wonder... I am undiagnosed but the ND markers are all there. However, what you said about being adhd and a switch has me mentally amending the og question. Perhaps what we should be asking is do different types of nd's lean a direction? Such as, are ADHDers more likely to be switchy, etc.

Tho I may be an AudHD, I'd be curious to hear from other adhds about their preference

This discussion has me wanting to do a survey honestly 😂 I am curious if there are patterns here. It does seem like there might be.

[Qu****]

19 minutes ago, FoxStoleUrKeys said:

As a neuordivergent switch, I dunno if cant make up my mind 😂

Its not greedy or indecisiveness, imo, but a need for variety and change. Many ppl *** change, but my neurospicy brain eats that shit up like a Neverending cheesecake bar 😋 I see you

[Ni****]

4 minutes ago, QueenSensei9000 said:

Its not greedy or indecisiveness, imo, but a need for variety and change. Many ppl *** change, but my neurospicy brain eats that shit up like a Neverending cheesecake bar 😋 I see you

Same with my neurospicy brain probably why I’m so open to trying new things if there’s knowledge I don’t possess and I’m interested in it I want it

[Fo****]

Litterallyyy, I cant have just one, I need things to change up alot

[Ca****]

22 minutes ago, jjbeanbun said:

This is false. You are born neurodivergent or neurotypical. TBE or Traumatic Brain *** is not the same as being neurodivergent. Neurodivergence is generally understood to include ADHD, Dyslexia, and Autism.

Would have discussed this properly but have been blocked. However . The claim that Kassiane Asasumasu coined the term neurodivergent (in contrast to Judy Singer's earlier coining of neurodiversity) is substantiated by multiple credible sources. Kassiane Asasumasu has explicitly stated that she coined the term neurodivergent in the early 2000s to refer to all people whose brains function in ways that diverge from dominant societal norms. She has also affirmed that her usage includes people with mental illness, not just those with congenital conditions like autism or ADHD. Her framing is deliberately inclusive of both innate and acquired divergences.

From her writings and interviews, it's clear that Asasumasu recognises:

Some neurodivergence is innate (e.g., autism).

Some is acquired through life factors, including trauma, mental illness, or brain ***.

The key distinction is not origin, but divergence from neuronormative expectations.

[Qu****]

5 minutes ago, Nickofthemountains said:

Same with my neurospicy brain probably why I’m so open to trying new things if there’s knowledge I don’t possess and I’m interested in it I want it

I want to ask you if you are adhd as well. Just padding my theory 😁

[jj****]

14 minutes ago, CastityPleasureGiver said:

Would have discussed this properly but have been blocked. However . The claim that Kassiane Asasumasu coined the term neurodivergent (in contrast to Judy Singer's earlier coining of neurodiversity) is substantiated by multiple credible sources. Kassiane Asasumasu has explicitly stated that she coined the term neurodivergent in the early 2000s to refer to all people whose brains function in ways that diverge from dominant societal norms. She has also affirmed that her usage includes people with mental illness, not just those with congenital conditions like autism or ADHD. Her framing is deliberately inclusive of both innate and acquired divergences.

From her writings and interviews, it's clear that Asasumasu recognises:

Some neurodivergence is innate (e.g., autism).

Some is acquired through life factors, including trauma, mental illness, or brain ***.

The key distinction is not origin, but divergence from neuronormative expectations.

Still incorrect

[jj****]

12 minutes ago, QueenSensei9000 said:

I want to ask you if you are adhd as well. Just padding my theory 😁

Haha a clear pattern of Switchy ADHDers in the threat at least. We have a hypothesis.

[Qu****]

15 minutes ago, CastityPleasureGiver said:

Would have discussed this properly but have been blocked. However . The claim that Kassiane Asasumasu coined the term neurodivergent (in contrast to Judy Singer's earlier coining of neurodiversity) is substantiated by multiple credible sources. Kassiane Asasumasu has explicitly stated that she coined the term neurodivergent in the early 2000s to refer to all people whose brains function in ways that diverge from dominant societal norms. She has also affirmed that her usage includes people with mental illness, not just those with congenital conditions like autism or ADHD. Her framing is deliberately inclusive of both innate and acquired divergences.

From her writings and interviews, it's clear that Asasumasu recognises:

Some neurodivergence is innate (e.g., autism).

Some is acquired through life factors, including trauma, mental illness, or brain ***.

The key distinction is not origin, but divergence from neuronormative expectations.

If you are into bdsm at all, then clearly you think 'outside the norms'. But that's not what we are discussing here.
The topic is about whether neurospicy's tend toward one role or another. Stay on it.

[Ca****]

2 minutes ago, jjbeanbun said:

Still incorrect

So the creator of the term knows less that you rightio then

[jj****]

1 minute ago, QueenSensei9000 said:

If you are into bdsm at all, then clearly you think 'outside the norms'. But that's not what we are discussing here.
The topic is about whether neurospicy's tend toward one role or another. Stay on it.

This is why I blocked that fool. All over the place. Half nonsense.

[ma****]

I have been almost always been sub. For me, the world is overwhelming. A calming Dom is my bubble where order becomes my focus.

[Ni****]

6 minutes ago, marshmallowonwheels said:

I have been almost always been sub. For me, the world is overwhelming. A calming Dom is my bubble where order becomes my focus.

I can relate a lot to this expect that for me it’s that finding someone date feels a lot like a chess match I just want someone who will take care of me and for a time I don’t have to worry about anything

[Al****]

I am an ND -- AuDHD -- and I am a dom.
Looking back at my life, if I was introduced to BDSM/kink at an earlier age, I could have been a sub or perhaps switch. I don't really know but trying to look at my younger self and gauging my reactions.
In my particular case, age and self image, patience, confidence all played a role.
At this time, I am confident, assertive and patient; all good qualities for a dominant person. Also I tried to see if submission (mine) satisfied me but it did nothing.

My opinion/observation would be that ND people are more likely to become kinky with ADHD people more prone to dominance and autistic people to submission and AuDHD in both sides.

Let me know what you think. This is by no means a definitive view but like I said, my 2 cents and what I saw around.

[me****]

Check out any of Cate Osbourn, aka Catieosaurus' videos on FB and IG. Also her book "the ADHD Field Guide for Adults" is amazing. She is an expert on the relationship between neurodivergence and sex/intimacy and absolutely points out that neurodivergent people often get drawn to kink for various reasons- source of dopamine, rules and structure and majorly important, gives a safe and supportive means of being able to either give up your control and leave decision making to your dom, or someone willingly gives you control of them, which means you are making every decision moving forward in the session which becomes an art in and of itself as you play out the scene.

[Le****]

You relate to male friends by playing Warhammer right? This is like the girlfriend equivalent.

[Ja****]

I'm ADHD and I heavily lean sub.. I don't feel like it has an effect on sub vs Dom. I think my Sub side is more based on several factors of my childhood and some of the values I was raised with.

The idea that people are inherently good, that helping someone or making sure their basic needs are met is a priority, and that these things can come with a cost of self. Kick in some childhood trauma (severe bullying, poor support systems) and you got someone who places their entire value on the praise from others.. to the point of not even expecting a thank you, or able to acknowledge them when they are given. (Yeah I know.. I'm working on it lol)

Kink in general is something, that despite my ADHD, I keep returning to at some level.. it's probably a mixture of the structure and the trauma.. but I don't know if ill ever have that answer.. nor if at 39, I even want it.

[Do****]

The Autism in me needs order, dicipline. The ADHD craves novelty and exploration.

So naturally, I am a bratty switch 😄

[do****]

ADHD and I lean for subby for sure… and adventurous

[Ba****]

ADHD Bratty switch with heavy dom side.

[Asia]

Adhd and I love subbing, like yes I am so good give me dopamine

[Ra****]

I think everybody is on a scale of neurodivergent or everybody’s on the spectrum so I’m not sure if there is more neurodivergent people into kink or just everyone is a little neurodivergent? That is interesting to think about but I would think because neurodivergent people are thinking all the time that they probably lean towards submission? Also same with ADHD people 🤷‍♂️

[ey****]

28 minutes ago, Rardy1114 said:

I think everybody is on a scale of neurodivergent or everybody’s on the spectrum

they're not.

there are genuine real struggles people with ND face that people who are neurotypical do not (sure, there's a whole bunch of stuff anyone can face from time to time, but it's not a daily reality) and the whole "everyone's on the spectrum" kinda invalidates and trivialises genuine issues and minimises those who need support.  

There is also recent research and suggestions the ND traits are not a spectrum after all, there's no single line on which everyone can be placed. 

 

[Ra****]

That is an interesting point of view, I guess I don’t think ND people are disabled or necessarily struggling versus being
People. I get my information from my brother who’s a therapist of 20 years, reading a lot because my 3 *** are ND. Like I said interesting perspective.