How do you discuss kinks with a partner?

[xX****]

Just be like hey wouldn't be a fun to do xyz... Or hey crazy idea xyz... they'll either be like oh yeah that sounds fun or communicate to u and be like yeah thats not my thing

[Fr****]

Have it all setup in the bedroom and see how he responds.

[Pd****]

Straight and forward, you mentioned you broached the subject. I would just return to it, discuss safety, sanity, safe words, green, yellow, red. Discuss expectations, set limits for all parties, I’ve always thought communication is key.

[Sk****]

Imo, its best to give them time to think about it. If they never considered it, or its been a while, let them digest it internally for 2-3 days before having a discussion. This way they can put their thoughts together.

[me****]

Be forthcoming, open, and respectful. Let them know what you're wanting from them, see if they are into what it is that you want. If not find some sort of common ground, or if possible try to find Compromises that compliment/benefits each others wants/needs. Don't shame them for whatever they are into or make them have consciousness issues about it. Be open to experiencing different things

[tu****]

Honestly life is too short to walk on egg shells. You can approach it any way you see fit. "You knew what this was before you got into it..." or "i really like you and want to understand..." bottom line is where you want it to go from this point forward

[Th****]

Does this partner align with your brat energy and do you have the ability to make him understand the power of the kinks you’re being trusted to do to you?

Maybe he was vanilla for a reason?
Maybe he was lying to get what he wanted and not being genuine?

[Deleted Member]

Just be honest and open, let him know what you want to explore/try, what excites you. Ask him what interests him.

Best advise i can give after 30 years of marriage.

[Si****]

Be direct, open & honest.