what qualities makes you devote yourself completely to a confident FemDom?

[Mistressbarbie782]

I'm curious to hear from genuine submissive men. what makes you trust an commit to a dominant woman? is it her confidence, intelligence, strictness, kindness, consistency, or something else?

[Fr****]

Think you got it with the first part of question. Trust. With out that you cant have anything. I would say after that from past experience. Its the confidence to own a sub with understanding of how the sub likes to be owned. My previous dom showed me empathy when i lost parents and showed kindness and love. But also still expected me to carry out my duties with punishment if failed.

[Ib****]

Definitely the confidence and of course strictness.....the sexiness, and for me it's the excitement and craving for the anal stretching and wrecking of the tight little hole by a powerful professional with the inability to be able to control anything to do with the powerstrokes or even the size or rate of my asshole being stretched and destroyed by Mistress

[subb***30]

Trust confidence and intelligence is huge for me to be honest

[Deleted Member]

To answer this excellent question is not simple, there are a number of strands that need to be addressed. However, when it all boils down I want to commit to a woman who has a cohesive plan that I can buy into and the drive to execute her plan. I will stand by her side and support her decisions to help her achieve the goals of her plan. Insodoing, she needs to remove all decision making from my shoulders and give me direction.

[Sa****]

I will note that a femaledom that has just a little bit of mystery combined with trust, confidence and intelligence is something that personally would just make me absolutely melt to her every desire

[Deleted Member]

Trust and communication are huge for me. Intelligence and kindness are also extremely important in building said trust and communication. I don't think people consider the importance of aftercare nearly enough, so a dom that understands that is the best.

[Mi****]

I for one have to click with their attitude first it’s not a one size fits all glove and I’ve had this lesson and failed it over and over Ï for one don’t like to feel like I’m being made fun of but I can love sph if it’s gone about with the right attitude. I like being a dirty girl but I don’t like being made to feel like I’m disgusting, I would happily worship and do things in service of my Domme without expectation, only asking there be the understanding that I do these things as a sign of devotion. I do them as well as I can too. Some people think they deserve that kind of treatment because they are superior, to me it’s something that has to be agreed upon. I want my Domme to be a superior Domme so I am a superior sub not just some slave that can be owned for some feet pics. I have a fundamental belief we are all equal not treated so. Just I n my eyes. It is between both parties involved that one ascends to a pedestal, but it’s me that chooses who I’ll be happy being underneath it. Now I know that’s very specific to me, that’s just what I look for. In a strictly pro Domme situation. Then like any other time I look for sense humor intelligence comfortability and how we communicate. I met a Domme that told me if you are a sub or Dom you should both willing to adapt to you partners style of doing things and every new relationship you have would completely unique. I think I agree with that.

[cellofello]

I consider myself a bottom rather than a psychological submissive, but there was one woman to whom I truly submitted. It was a combination of intelligence and confidence (and the British accent helped as well). Not to boast, just to explain, I am exceptionally intelligent. While I don't need it for top/bottom play, I can only truly psychologically submit to a woman whose intelligence I can respect.

[bornTOserve]

Strength in her leadership and being humble about it and not arrogant.

Being human 😂… by that I mean that she has weaknesses and vulnerabilities just like the rest of us and I don’t like when a Dom hides behind that Dom persona, never allowing me to really get to know her on a deeper level as she essentially dehumanizes herself.

And practices what she preaches, not just expecting it out of me. Things like self-awareness, growth, honesty, respect, etc. All these things need to be a two-way street

[sc****]

Communication respect trust consistency
One who understands the one in control is the sub they set the limits they set the scenes.
I may be a sub but my dom has to earn respect from me understanding that i am not just willingly going to obey commands from the start the connection is needed build from that and the skys the limit (no pun intended)
Theres a fine line between arrogance and confidence

[Rhuie]

It was trust. I knew she had my best interest in her heart. She made sure I got sleep, stayed hydrated, finished my school work, went to the gym / exercised and made sure these things came before she got to play and had her fun with me.  She would check in to make sure I was always okay physically and mentally. She made sure I never over did it and took breaks (Subbys tend to say yes no matter which can get us in trouble). She would make sure all limits were honored and while she would hurt me at times, she would never harm me. 

[lu****]

Everybody has a nice safe answers why me totally sexual but no lingerie I get so excited I can't stand it been told about sexy woman it's so exciting I almost come right there