Would like more ideas on growing as a Dom

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Hi, I would just like to hear different feedback and ideas on more ways on being more of a Dom in that space with your partner. What things do you do? Would like more insights and ideas to further grow as a Dom and provide an even more exciting enjoyable experience for my partner. Not just the physical as in throwing her on the bed, cuffing or spanking, wrestling, pinning, but mental/psychological domination. Taking your attention away when she’s been “bad” for example, or the look in your eye like she’s “gonna get it when we get home” or that harsh, strict tone in your voice let her know you’re not screwing around. I’d like to get more creative and see what other things other doms do that I haven’t thought of. Inputs welcomed. Thanks cheers!

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I find that it's fun to switch things up now and again when it comes to the psychological domination and punishment. It's incredibly fun to punish a sub in the classic ways, how a sub (especially a brat) comes to expect and often times likes it so it's fun to change it by doing things like ignoring them completely or not using pet names etc bc it's get a completely different reaction. I found with my girlfriend if she's often expecting some sort physical punishment to refuse to touch her or pay attention to them while near immediately changes the dynamic and is a more casual sort of domination with the same result.

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So in my experience as a Dom I feel it out. I watch porn and then have a dialog with my sub and get there feeling some it. If it's something we both agree on then I learn as much as I can and we practice it safely. I use a strict color code and safe word system in the event anything doesn't work out.

 

If your just looking for new things make it up. I one time only communicated to my sub through whistles and finger motions. It was hilarious and we now refer to that roleplay Master. Whistle.

 

It's just important to feel it out. See what gets your submissives juice flowing. Then exploit it.