Am I being findommed?

[Ki****]

So I've just started my journey into this lifestyle by being a slave to a woman met through a similar app. We're quite a ways away but she's said she'd be prepared tp relocate, which I appreciate considering I can't.

I'm enjoying my time but something has been seriously bothering me. She's demanding tribute with gift cards totalling £150 (~$200), of which, so far I've put in £50 and told her I'd get her the rest in £20 increments each week. She seems really insistent on getting the rest of her *** to the point of bringing up Bitcoin.

I'm not into findom, and even if I was, I don't have the finances to support it without destroying my life. Have I made a huge blunder?

[Deleted Member]

Pls don't buy her anymore. "Tributes" is absolutely not something your D will ask for in an ordinary dynamic. She is scamming you.

I'm sorry this happened, there are a lot of unscrupulous people out there.

[Deleted Member]

Yep. Don't send her anymore. Sorry love, that is shit 💔

[Sophie58]

I would say yes. Anyone demanding *** is a huge red flag. Don’t do it, especially if it’s putting you in financial trouble. If she cared about you, she would want what’s best for you. If it were me, I would get out.

[Psuedom]

1 minute ago, Lady_Char said:

Pls don't buy her anymore. "Tributes" is absolutely not something your D will ask for in an ordinary dynamic. She is scamming you.

I'm sorry this happened, there are a lot of unscrupulous people out there.

Sadly I completely agree with the above.

[Deleted Member]

Just now, Psuedom said:

Sadly I completely agree with the above.

And lord knows, he hates to agree with me ... 🤣

[Psuedom]

5 minutes ago, Lady_Char said:

And lord knows, he hates to agree with me ... 🤣

I wouldn't know, it hasn't happened before.

[qu****]

Unfortunately yes you have, time to move on and put it down to a lesson learned I'm afraid

[Kar_som]

It is just like paying a prostitute for one night. Do we make relationship with them? No, we will forget whatever happen in night and go to chores in morning. Even worst in this case, these findom not even know how to dominate.

[bi****]

You're not being findommed, but scammed. You'll get nothing out of it except calls for more cash and nothing in return. Hire a prostitute who specialises in domination and you'll get much more for your ***.

[Deleted Member]

It's a scam.

[Mr-Brown]

Sounds like a scammer to me! Loads here wanting only ***.

[sm****]

not a blunder but take it as a lesson learned.  At least you have had those warning signs and asked the community about your concerns.   So many pay up larger sums and get burned bad.  Iv'e known people get scammed for 4 figure sums in the past.

That's what the community is for, asking things that may concern you or just wanting to learn.

 

[Deleted Member]

Have you used Google image to check if they are really who they say they are if they have you sent a photo? Sounds like a scam.This tribute thing is rubbish in BDSM.Never existed until a few years ago.A rule to remember.Never ever send *** to someone you have not met in person,and even then be very careful.

[Antita]

Happened to me and still does, well when I mean it still does I get into a conversation with a domme (so they say) they seem all innocent then say if you want to be a slave to them its £100 in a gift card
In the beginning i did pay it then they started asking for more to which i ended it.
I am looking for someone to take me through my journey, I now believe it will happen when its supposed to. For the foreseeable future I will continue to entertain myself until that person comes by.

I am sure most have got caught in a scam in one way or another, dont stress yourself just enjoy being on this site and chatting with people.

[Du****]

If all you’ve lost so far is £50, you’ve got away relatively unscathed. Block and report the account - and obviously don’t send any more ***. I’m sure any genuine Domme here will agree this is a scam, and judging by everyone’s comments here, your instincts aren’t letting you down. Trust them. X

[Ki****]

Well, didn't take me long to figure it was all a load of horse. Thankfully it's an opportunity to learn. A ***ful one at that.

Hopefully this will serve to warn any newbies who get manipulated by so called "experienced Dommes"

[Sophie58]

7 minutes ago, KinkyKy said:

Well, didn't take me long to figure it was all a load of horse. Thankfully it's an opportunity to learn. A ***ful one at that.

Hopefully this will serve to warn any newbies who get manipulated by so called "experienced Dommes"

I’m glad you asked us. I agree with comments above about this being our community and we watch out for each other. The scammers are weeds in our garden. I hunt them down and report them. I’m sorry this happened to you but don’t despair. There are great people here too.

[Deleted Member]

FinDom is a weird one as it’s obviously a kink but tbh I always feel like it’s most of the time a lazy scam. If possible ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS meet your prospective Dom in the flesh before getting involved and make sure you are on the same page with play, requirements, safety etc.you’ll find the right partner eventually but protecting yourself is paramount for Dom and sub alike.for what we do mutual trust and respect is critical. Best of luck in your search Dark x

[Deleted Member]

13 minutes ago, Darkswitch said:

FinDom is a weird one as it’s obviously a kink but tbh I always feel like it’s most of the time a lazy scam. If possible ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS meet your prospective Dom in the flesh before getting involved and make sure you are on the same page with play, requirements, safety etc.you’ll find the right partner eventually but protecting yourself is paramount for Dom and sub alike.for what we do mutual trust and respect is critical. Best of luck in your search Dark x

I'm not really keen on the idea of findom bc I worry ppl will be taken advantage of, but in this case I got the impression that hadn't been discussed as something that was a kink, but that she was expecting him to tithe her simply for the pleasure of being his Domme. If it's a findom situation that should be discussed at the very outset and both parties should be explicitly clear that that is the arrangement.

[Deleted Member]

(And also that this is not the "norm" in a Ds dynamic)

[BinJuice]

ive been a victim of this recently, she was desperate for ***, saying about bitcoin, paypal and giftcards, i feel like i was catfished, does anyone think the same? have they said anything like i love you or your special within a few days or meeting you or anything? are you confused about the truth?

[Deleted Member]

Dont be fooled.

[Deleted Member]

Remember this is a dating site. If their not willing to meet then theyre 1 fake 2 a catfish 3 another type of scammer. Dont be fooled or pressured to go to other websites. Do this one thing from the start. Tell them to send a live vid saying your name and date. 99.9% wont cause their not who they claim to be. Dont be fooled

[BinJuice]

good tip fetish