Deschaine Posted June 12, 2018 So i found out about a month ago that i’m very much into the dom lifestyle. I want a 24/7 role as much as possible and have certain rules that are defined by my sub to stimulate mental games. as far as sexual acts i love ropes, clamps ties and floggs, as well as “minor” toys i suppose. The thing is, i’m not sure how much my wife is into this scene. When i was first introduced into the BDSM scene, (by her) my mind exploded, I had ideas, scenarios and every day rules (mainly things for her) flooding my head and revealing a new side of myself. I couldn’t stop talking or reading about fantasies and roles i can remember that sex between is all of a sudden skyrocketed. I was beyond cloud nine and i was completely drunk off of her. And she was me, As the days went by, she kept asking for more and more vanilla time, vanilla conversation and to, what felt like to me, go back to vanilla “fun” Before my discovery of BDSM shes always told me she needed more “connection” when it came to sex. She’d say it felt like she was being used because my attention wasn’t on fulfilling her which led to a low sexual self esteem. But once i tried new things (mostely my mental state and attention on her) she was conpletely enthralled. Id have her completely engaged and euphoric to the point she needed immediate sleep after fun. now that a couple months have gone by, we barely have sex and she still tells me that sexually, i’m not adaquate (not her words but definately the way i feel) i’m now at a point where i try to just avoid sex. But i have this new passion where i really need someone to explore this side with. I love my wife, but are we compatible?