Getting into sub/brat space tips

[Deleted Member]

I’m actually a switch, but never had experienced been real brat in a dynamic. But I’m feeling more of my brat side this days. I really want to explore this side but when I’m talking with someone, no matter how attractive they seem to be I keep having some problems to actually let them dominate me even in a conversation.

Is it normal? What could I do? Cuz I really want to explore this side of spectrum.

[lolli-leigh]

First of all I feel you, I went through a similar experience on my journey. I am a naturally dominate person in my life and job. I questioned whether I was D/s, switch.

For me it is finding the right person that fits you and you them. Take time to explore you, if you say you Dominate in conversations. Think about what it is that triggers this, is they are trying to dom you too quickly, are they being aggressive, or too soft with you.

In regards to bratting, finding the right D is important for them as much as it is for you. Devoping that relationship will help you explore that side of your self safely.

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, lolli-leigh said:

First of all I feel you, I went through a similar experience on my journey. I am a naturally dominate person in my life and job. I questioned whether I was D/s, switch.

For me it is finding the right person that fits you and you them. Take time to explore you, if you say you Dominate in conversations. Think about what it is that triggers this, is they are trying to dom you too quickly, are they being aggressive, or too soft with you.

In regards to bratting, finding the right D is important for them as much as it is for you. Devoping that relationship will help you explore that side of your self safely.

Thank you so much 💜🙏
I’m taking notes rn

[Deleted Member]

Typically I tend to play and communicate better with a pleasure dominants or someone along them lines, harder Dominants tend to see us as 'trouble' or being to aggressive, when we're actually not, there is a reason why we are bratting.. My best advice is to carry your dominant energy when you go on vetting dates...let them earn your submissive side.. Set clear boundaries by letting them know they cannot speak to you in that manner as they are NOT your dominant.. Yet.. Respect is earned not given.. I hope this helps. 😘

[ch****]

You are what you are you can't turn it off it's not a choice it's in you to be dominant you are really going to have to try hard to turn it off. I know from experience that any time I try to sub I'd doesn't last my Dom comes out because that's who I am

[Ch****]

I'm not a brat I'm a sub. Although master as said iv been a brat the odd times.

 

Masters tone of voice puts me in sub space alot of times. Or when he goes I'm not asking you I'm telling you.

 

Master sticks to our rules of play always 

Edited April 1, 2022 by Charms

[Ch****]

For me personally, I’m 100% a switch however I am not often submissive simply because it takes a certain kind of man for me to submit to. Sounds like you simply haven’t found that person.

I’ll never be a sub to a sub of mine.
I’ll never be a sub to a switch
He has to be fully in his masculinity.
Extremely dominant.
The misconception about switches is that we are like a light switch and can turn our dominance on and off.


Wrong.

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, PurpleMoon666 said:

Typically I tend to play and communicate better with a pleasure dominants or someone along them lines, harder Dominants tend to see us as 'trouble' or being to aggressive, when we're actually not, there is a reason why we are bratting.. My best advice is to carry your dominant energy when you go on vetting dates...let them earn your submissive side.. Set clear boundaries by letting them know they cannot speak to you in that manner as they are NOT your dominant.. Yet.. Respect is earned not given.. I hope this helps. 😘

Wow, I totally agree and it is something that I normally think either. I love it and I will try!

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, chicago952 said:

You are what you are you can't turn it off it's not a choice it's in you to be dominant you are really going to have to try hard to turn it off. I know from experience that any time I try to sub I'd doesn't last my Dom comes out because that's who I am

Hmmm, you got a point. I will think about it

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, Charms said:

I'm not a brat I'm a sub. Although master as said iv been a brat the odd times.

 

Masters tone of voice puts me in sub space alot of times. Or when he goes I'm not asking you I'm telling you.

 

Master sticks to our rules of play always 

My problem it’s that I never found someone like that. Idk, I feel like a lot of them just give up on me in the beginning and I don’t feel like showing them my sub side, cuz they don’t deserve or don’t treat well enough

[Deleted Member]

35 minutes ago, snowcherrysw said:

Wow, I totally agree and it is something that I normally think either. I love it and I will try!

😘 😘

[Deleted Member]

39 minutes ago, ChavaReign said:

For me personally, I’m 100% a switch however I am not often submissive simply because it takes a certain kind of man for me to submit to. Sounds like you simply haven’t found that person.

I’ll never be a sub to a sub of mine.
I’ll never be a sub to a switch
He has to be fully in his masculinity.
Extremely dominant.
The misconception about switches is that we are like a light switch and can turn our dominance on and off.


Wrong.

IK RIGHT, and people don’t get it. I really feel the same way and yes, maybe I haven’t found the right person. But I totally agree about man dom

[Deleted Member]

This is quite an interesting conversation

[LittleVictory]

Nothing should be just one thing. No one is the same day to day. I am 99% sub, but cycle through Brat, Masochist, servy slave as the weather/man provokes. Fluidity and interactions prompt this naturally. If you replace Bratty with Sassy maybe you can see a redefined 'friendlier' image. Be You, first and foremost 😍. Dont be something to someone unless You want it babes! Now that's Sassy + Attitude = subtle Bratting ❤️💋x

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, LittleVictory said:

Nothing should be just one thing. No one is the same day to day. I am 99% sub, but cycle through Brat, Masochist, servy slave as the weather/man provokes. Fluidity and interactions prompt this naturally. If you replace Bratty with Sassy maybe you can see a redefined 'friendlier' image. Be You, first and foremost 😍. Dont be something to someone unless You want it babes! Now that's Sassy + Attitude = subtle Bratting ❤️💋x

You’re so sweet!! I will definitely try this tip. 💖💖💖💖

[de****]

I find it hard to be submissive when I clearly vibe that they’re not super dominate to the core. If your subby side isn’t coming out it’s because they’re not doing anything to put you in the headspace. It’s all about the vibes.

[ro****]

As a Dom I kind of love a brat. It makes me angry when they disobey me and I punish them harder. This is why we have safe words