Lu**** Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 I've decided to try a vanilla dating app. I'm in two minds whether or not to add a discreet hint or a line to my profile that I'm not vanilla. I'm posting to ask if anyone have ideas or suggestions of discreet hints Those who have done it, what have been the overall response? Good or bad?
Deleted Member Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 I was reading this topic earlier and it has a section about writing a vanilla profile and including little hints:
no**** Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 Oh man I’ve tried this and people don’t get the hint 😅
Deleted Member Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 The people who are into it do get the hint. But it’s hot or miss and maddening. I won’t do it anymore.
mi**** Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 I recently added ‘link’ amongst other interests and it’s had a good response, with some people commenting that they’re into it too. Go for it!
mi**** Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 Just now, mindfulkink said: I recently added ‘link’ amongst other interests and it’s had a good response, with some people commenting that they’re into it too. Go for it! *kink
Mi**** Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 I added something about 'Not Vanilla' or so . I think that should do the trick. That is, assuming they actually read the profile.
Deleted Member Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 Definitely! You’d be surprised at the amount that aren’t vanilla. Definitely add a line with something like ‘not looking for vanilla’ etc. HOWEVER, you do get people who think that means you like to be lightly chocked or after PG dirty talk. You need to do some weeding out, but I think it’s worth it :)
AProperDom Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 Hints have worked for me in the past. Theyve failed as well. I've straight up put that I'm a Dom and women haven't read it and are shocked when I tell them.
jo**** Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 I mean in general good for me but I live in an open-minded place. My only sorts weirdish experiences has only been with another dom who did work as professional and bassicly we just been joking with each other.
sm**** Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 You will be surprised at how many will contact you if you do. You will also get the thirsty looking for a quickie, but sift through the chaff. Sometimes a word or two like "open minded and a little kink" in the profile descriptions helps.
Cheekysub247 Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 I tried it once, a big highlighted sentence along the lines of "P.S, im not vanilla, im submissive. Ask for more details" ... most didnt see it or bother to read, kinda like any site lol
Mi**** Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 “I love ice cream. All flavors. Except vanilla”. If you know, you know.
Th**** Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 I put on mine that I’m not vanilla. I match with someone and get right to exactly what I’m looking for and either they are interested or they run the other way. It helps weed out the vanillas a little faster in my opinion.
Deleted Member Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 Slide in a small D/s in the description(that’s what I have) if people actually read the profile. But for sure most people won’t or understand or ignore it. So you’ll have to do some weeding out. But won’t hurt to try
Ted1567 Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 Okcupid is known for having thousands of questions for members to answer (you don`t have to answer any, but some are quite interesting to think about). One question is simply `are you kinky`? You can answer yes, no or a little. You can also add a comment on your answer, and even stress that this is an important issue for you.
Lu**** Posted February 12, 2023 Author Posted February 12, 2023 21 hours ago, Ranchan95 said: I was reading this topic earlier and it has a section about writing a vanilla profile and including little hints: Where did you see this article?
Lu**** Posted February 12, 2023 Author Posted February 12, 2023 20 hours ago, MichaelR22 said: I added something about 'Not Vanilla' or so . I think that should do the trick. That is, assuming they actually read the profile. That is also very true
Deleted Member Posted February 12, 2023 Posted February 12, 2023 34 minutes ago, LunaMaeve said: Where did you see this article? It was on my news feed
Lu**** Posted February 12, 2023 Author Posted February 12, 2023 I haven't seen anything on mine I'll have a look around in the forum
Lu**** Posted February 12, 2023 Author Posted February 12, 2023 I was thinking of adding one if these Vanilla with extra sprinkles If you know the meaning of D/s, let's have a chat. Kinky /kink friendly
ar**** Posted February 12, 2023 Posted February 12, 2023 Vanilla as a term may be something that's lost in translation and/or ambiguous though. I am not a native English speaker, and the first time I encountered the term on a vanilla dating app, I actually thought they didn't like the flavor. If you're planning on saying "vanilla with extra sprinkles", I would def say that some people will think you're referring to icecream. :)
Lu**** Posted February 12, 2023 Author Posted February 12, 2023 5 hours ago, arnhem961 said: Vanilla as a term may be something that's lost in translation and/or ambiguous though. I am not a native English speaker, and the first time I encountered the term on a vanilla dating app, I actually thought they didn't like the flavor. If you're planning on saying "vanilla with extra sprinkles", I would def say that some people will think you're referring to icecream. :) I would know that if they start telling me their favourite ice cream flavours 😂
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