MY BIGGEST FEAR REGARDING MY FETISHES IS...

[el****]

Judgemental pricks

[Deleted Member]

That this is as far as it gets.

[32****]

Not finding someone who is going to be there for me and help me with the details. Ending up alone no kids no family and no friends left

[sc****]

I'll become addicted to them and won't be able to control myself

[jo****]

That people get grossed out by them or laugh and ridicule me once they know how deeply affected i am by the way my fetish makes me feel. In fact, unless i am lucky enough to come across someone that makes it completely apparent without a doubt that they are the same or are interested in someone like me, i will never bring it up or even ever show my interests and resist my urges to conceal it

[Nocturne]

Losing a connection where I feel comfortable sharing everything about my desires. I don't tend to tell people I'm kinky right off the bat, though the ones who know about kink can notice that I am easily. Even with people I do get into kink with I don't always inform of everything I'm into, though, I rarely tell people I meet in person that I'm into CBT. If I were to find someone I have a deep emotional connection to that I also can engage in CBT with, which usually is not all that accessible, I would fear to lose them.

More than that, I have often had the fear of accidentally harming a sub, treading onto some trigger of theirs, physical or emotional. It's inevitable that it will happen at some point, whether during kink or not, that people will do or say things that trigger each other, but I do everything in my power to prevent from acting in such a way that a sub would be upset due to something I could have prevented. I used to react much more strongly if I thought I'd upset a sub, and while now it still causes me anxious feelings if I believe I have gotten too close to one of their boundaries, I have grown since I started out and now react more clear headed, though preventing a response of guilt that is visible to them and might cause them to feel a need to comfort me is still something I'm working on. I've had times where I've said particular things that seemed innocuous to me but that to them were some sort of trigger, and in such a moment I need to take a breath so I can forgive myself, given I know I did nothing out of malice. I simply don't want my upset with myself to make it difficult for anyone to communicate with me. Thankfully with the people I have engaged with they have told me that they do indeed feel as safe about informing me about these things as they need to to be able to do so.

[Sh****]

My biggest fear is being judged for my kinks/fetishes, or worse mocked because of them.

[bi****]

I’ll never find another match, I’ll never “feel fulfilled again”
Being a primal Hunter looking for another primal Hunter who also enjoys the power exchange dynamic. I’ve had so many years of being in the wrong type of relationship that I’ve given up on ever finding someone

[pr****]

That a genuinely good, kind hearted person couldnt hurt me in the way I love. That Ill only ever be not intimately fulfilled but with a good person or partially fulfilled with a bad one. That Something is wrong with me.