Popular Post Fi**** Posted June 20 Popular Post Posted June 20 Dear Dominants, Please be more aware on how your actions affect your submissive. I have had no less than four submissives message me in the last week looking for advice. Their dominants had recently dropped them. They had gone from practicing 24/7 at various depths to completely alone. When a submissive gives over that level of control they depend on their dominant for everything. We don’t just exchange power, it becomes a way of life every emotion and decision is filtered through our dominant. Our dominant becomes our reason to keep breathing, we crave their attention, affection and approval. When that is suddenly taken away, the submissive panics. They no longer are able to lean on their dominant, suddenly they are solely responsible for everything about their lives. Which leaves them more prone to allow abusive practices because they just want to be back under the guidance and protection of a dominant. Please stop using silent treatment as a punishment, you are taking away your submissives safe place and the more often you do it the less and less she will come to you with her problems with the fear of being left alone. Please, please don’t take their collar as punishment, it’s devastating to our psyche it destroys our spirit. Be gentle with your sub’s emotional state and understand that you are their everything whether you are upset with them or not.