Unicorns

[pu****]

I have a question for all the women out there seeking a unicorn? Why is it so hard?So many responses are represented as my husband just looking for a threesome with another woman when it is me just looking for a woman to fulfill my needs as a bi woman looking for pleasure. I have my manly man and I just want that girly girl to fit in. Any thoughts?

[Deleted Member]

Honestly, just pay someone. There’s legitimate websites you can go on and find one either local or far away that you both find attractive

[Ch****]

Likely... he will want you to share. The men which can ACTUALLY be ENM are very few. Many act, but dudes want theirs too..... so I wish you luck.

[ja****]

This is my dilemma as well. My husband dosent even have to be involved but I find it’s hard to meet other women without being shut down as trying to please my husband.

[na****]

Try a F+F couple… we are already committed to someone else and looking for some safe and clean fun with as much transparency and communication as possible.

[ge****]

Having a couples profile won't be helping you OP - any prospective connections will suspect, rightly or wrongly, that hubby will be involved in some way, and that adds a different perspective.
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If you're looking to meet other women on your own, my advice would be to set up a single profile making it clear you're looking for other women only and that it'll just be you they're meeting.
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Beyond that it then comes down to attraction, connection etc just the same as it does for any other user.
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If however you're looking to meet other women *with* your husband, then that's another perspective altogether and a little harder to achieve as any prospective partner has to be attracted etc to both of you which includes putting details/pics of you both on your profile, along with some profile text explaining what you're looking for.
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An easier way to achieve this is in person at local swingers/kink events - so you may want to consider that as an option.

[Mo****]

Theres a reason we call em Unicorns.  You're looking forna pretty rare combination of traits.  She needs to be bi. She needs to be attracted to both you and your husband. She needs to be willing to submit to you both. (Or whatever combo of sub/dom you want.)  And, this is a deal breaker for many, she needs to accept that she'll never be the priority. She'll always be the less important partner.  Girls happy with this arrangement are few and far between.

[x_****]

Maybe because unicorn's don't exist.

[Ha****]

In a couple of groups of FB I'm in, some jump to the conclusion that it's unicorn hunting whenever someone raises this question. It is going to be very hard to find a female willing to be a 3rd, agree to keep it casual n not develop feelings for either of you. It's a little easier if you state you're poly n you're open to a more permanent agreement if everyone's vibe meshes you're open to both you n your partner going on solo dates but some women still steer clear of couples because of bad experiences with past couples.

[So****]

I have the same issue too. Exactly just want a girl for me.

[fu****]

That’s why it’s called the unicorn.

[Da****]

It’s pretty simple actually…
First many women have been sought after under the guise of just for her, then later approached, what do u think about him…
Second what happens is women start out thinking this idea of being a unicorn is so great…
But the reality sets in that they are a toy, and can be tossed aside at any moment for the person you are actually with. In the end they get tired of being the side dish with all the feelings that comes with. In the end, those genitals are connected to a heart, one that decides it’s not worth to invest that kinda time to something that’s more than likely going away. So most of them have been jaded, you may find some here and there, but odds are they are so damaged they will take whatever they can get, and that I say enter at your own risk. Or you may catch a lucky bounce on a rebound, you need to find a way to be active in your kink community, and hope it happens organically.

[ey****]

I think one of the problems is that a lot of women either

a) feel like you're bait on behalf of a male partner

b) aren't poly so don't what a relationship where they're not the main priority

I definitely wouldn't use a term like unicorn if you're not looking for someone who will be in a relationship or threesome with both you and your partner as that's going to be off-putting to many

it may be better deliberately seeking out women who are possibly already in a relationship and are clearly not monogamous 

[ki****]

As a male in a open relationship looking for our 1st 3rd lady to play with us is is hard, from the women I've spoke to they think it's some kind of ruse,(like it actually helps) so I've not had to resort to proving I have a gf who I live with before we even have a convo...its ridiculous imo lol that or I'm just fugly ha :/

[Je****]

@Littlered92

Just right after our discussion 😆 thought you might like a tag in this, apologies if not.

[Muso83]

I’m a unicorn but feel damaged by experienced as previously mentioned here I would probably just feel like a spare wheel. I am very bi but do have a preference for men.

[Je****]

7 hours ago, purplelily8 said:

I have a question for all the women out there seeking a unicorn? Why is it so hard?So many responses are represented as my husband just looking for a threesome with another woman when it is me just looking for a woman to fulfill my needs as a bi woman looking for pleasure. I have my manly man and I just want that girly girl to fit in. Any thoughts?

It is hard because it is rare. 

I am unsure why people you've asked are responding as it's You asking and not Him.

 

If you are seeking alone,  would they even still be a unicorn? Could she simply be another partner? 

Depends if you want someone alone,  together or for what, such as sex only or relationship. 

 

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Me and my partner are poly, however due to a few factors things were put on hold, and then we discussed when ready where we wanted to go and how we wanted to do it.

I feel bad saying this, but I reached out to the women, as I personally would be feeling awkward if a male approached me expressing interest, alone or with a partner. I prefer female approaches and feel more comfy approaching ladies. 

(I'm slightly afraid of men (when approaching) due to some shit so..)

 

But yeh we tried on here but where we live,  not a lot of people on site and if there is, they're out of our age range. 

So I took to feeld, hinge and tinder. 

First two were crap. Tinder surprisingly, wasn't as bad. 

We set our profile on there to pics of us both with a good bio, based on what we seek. 6 months ish of looking on it by chance matched with a real pretty local girl, been chatting just over a week, and we both meet her tomoro at the pub for some cocktails n stuff to see how we get on. 

Shes asked to meet with me first, as she's also a bit weary around guys and doesn't want to get overwhelmed, so we are working with her as much as possible. We just keep the conversation flowing naturally,  letting her know we aren't just gonna use her for sexual needs and actually want a connection.  I think it helped her relax.

 

Some people seek out unicorns,  who have no rights in the relationship,  just them til they don't wish to see them anymore and discard them.  And the unicorn has no say. 

It can be a bit cruel depending on how it's done, but this is my understanding so far.

[Je****]

3 hours ago, jajones said:

This is my dilemma as well. My husband dosent even have to be involved but I find it’s hard to meet other women without being shut down as trying to please my husband.

Make a bio.  Make it clear. 

 

I seek a lady for "dates, fun etc etc", I am married, however he will NOT be involved. 

Seeking a lady for only myself long/short term. Any questions, just ask. 

 

That's if you seek solo. 

If you seek with him, yeh you're gonna have the trouble but again, just listing something clear as day on profile,  might help one appear xx 

[Vi****]

@Funburlingtonmale best answer 😂

[Deleted Member]

I think seeking a unicorn is the poly equivalent of the foot fetish. There are a lot of negative associations and assumptions about genuine intentions. Are you sure you have the labeling right? If it's someone for you to date solo, then it's not a unicorn and using that term will put ppl off. Also, as someone said, you'd do better on an individual acc than couple.

If it is for you and your husband to play with, then the op is a bit misleading as he will have a role. I personally wouldn't engage with a couple as a lone female unless we were friends first and I felt good about the situation and what my role it in would be. Maybe meeting people at munches is a better idea (going together) as you can just chat and your potential can get a look and feel for the both of you, as well as the dynamic between you.

[Es****]

Whenever I’ve personally been approached it’s been made crystal clear to me that I’d be present for THEIR pleasure- not my own. I can service her and him, but no penetration on me…which has me wondering - what’s in it for me??? Idk what your limits or expectations are with your situation, but that’s what I personally keep running into. 🤷‍♀️

[Sp****]

I’m an unicorn. I exist and am very real. 💚

[tw****]

Any women who comes in our embrace is given pleasure and never goes without her own fulfillment. If you are not then you are with the wrong people petiod

[li****]

For a lot of people it's not in the unicorns favor. All the pleasure and relationship benefits are in the couples benefits. As expressed above. Me and my husband are looking for a triad relationship where all members of the relationship are equal.

[Ch****]

I need to sto.reading and listening to magical books. I at 1st though unicorns are not real. Well they are in harry potter. Then remberd were I was sorry