Safewords

[Pl****]

I've always established 2 safe words. Essentially one is a yellow light 1 a red light. Usually it's something they dislike for the yellow and something they are allergic to as the red. This way each partner has a unique experience.

[Deleted Member]

I like the way you think

[Sc****]

It is better to have a safe word. Just imagine if you had a really bad cramp in your leg.

[Sc****]

Just now, ScottBritish said:

It is better to have a safe word. Just imagine if you had a really bad cramp in your leg.

Nothing remotely pleasurable.

[Zi****]

Mine has always been meatloaf. I will do anything for love but i wont do that.

[La****]

Always have a safe word

[Mi****]

I'm probably in the minority here but I think that sometimes having a no safety word session is fun. It's a whole different kind of challenge. For me it's complete and total submission. To give yourself to a Dom completely. Plus it helps gain confidence and trust in not just your Dom but in yourself. I've done it twice now, and am building up for a 3rd session. My wife and I are into ballbusting. She's actually the one that got me into it. I'm am Aries, so naturally I'm extremely competitive and am down for whatever. The more we got into ballbusting together, the more crazy she got with it. She wanted to go harder and harder or use different things until one day she said her biggest fantasy is to at a pair full *** no safety word, just have at em, fo way past the guy's limits and see what happens. We'll one night we got drunk and tried it. Once I was in those straps I was bent over a** up, knees tied spread wide open stuck, hands behind back, and could not move at all. After the first hit I thought I'd made a huge mistake. It was an uppercut from behind right up into both of em perfectly and the nerve *** went right up my gut but the bad part is that was one. They kept coming and coming and coming. No matter how much I thrashed I couldn't get out. She wouldn't stop, we agreed that she didn't have to if she wasn't satisfied. Each shot started to feel like a ******* blast to the brain. Then it was over. She was the most turned on I've ever seen her. Which then turned me on even more. Going through it sucked. But the build up, the memory of it, the challenge of it, and how much it turns me on that the crazier she gets to get on a pair the more she's turned on made it so we tried it a 2nd time and are currently building up for a 3rd. Some side notes are we've already had kids and don't want more so it's a little less risky for us if it goes wrong. The way I see it is hey, there's always testosterone shots available if she goes too hard and pops both of em beyond repairabiility one day.

[Go****]

I've switched from safe words to street light colors. If she's enjoying it and can handle more, she'll say green. If I keep pushing the limits towards where she thinks she might start disliking it altogether, she'll say yellow. If I suddenly reach a turn-off for her, she'll say red. The point is communication. Agree on what and when to communicate. I prefer communicating before, during, and after. Makes it feel so much more intimate 💗

[Ch****]

Pineapple s

[dl****]

I've never been in a situation where one was needed. I understand the need for them, but at least the way I do things, I can't really imagine being with someone who would be doing things to me that I don't like. Because we would have talked about my limits beforehand and if they were at all unsure about something they wanted to do, they would ask. If they don't, then wtf?! But that hasn't happened.

[Wh****]

Probably a good idea

[Deleted Member]

I think it's important for a sub to have one. But it's best to not lead up to a situation where a safe word is needed. So that's why I pay close attention to their body language before continuing. We would already talked about any limitations beforehand. But it's best to be safe.

[Ar****]

No limits no mercy here if get I tied and than get scared or becomes intense than I should be careful for what I ask for and I had plenty time to back out before I was tied

[UK****]

16 hours ago, ArizonaNudest said:

No limits no mercy here if get I tied and than get scared or becomes intense than I should be careful for what I ask for and I had plenty time to back out before I was tied

And what if your meaning of something is different to their understanding?  One person's interpretation of hard can easily be different to another persons.  You say, "I'm ok being punished".  Their definition is removing a toenail.  Still OK or should a safe word be needed?

[Deleted Member]

Safewords are like having insurance: it’s far better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it.

[Deleted Member]

Safe words aren't necessary as long as there is a way to stop play when needed.  Stop and no still has meaning.

 

Even without my sub saying anything, I still check in on them regularly 

[co****]

Banana

[si****]

Chargoggagoggmanchauggagoggchaubunagungamaugg or take a dip in a lake

[si****]

Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia

[Deleted Member]

Even if there isn't a formal safe word, there is communication to tell the Partner to stop or there is an issue. The idea of a safe word is to.......cough cough....keep the subbie safe. This is foundational and not just an important thought. Does it mean there has to be a single word known to stop and check on subbie? Depends on if the Dom knows to stop when the subbie says something is wrong or they are in danger.

[Ar****]

December 7, UK_Knight said:

And what if your meaning of something is different to their understanding?  One person's interpretation of hard can easily be different to another persons.  You say, "I'm ok being punished".  Their definition is removing a toenail.  Still OK or should a safe word be needed?

Usually I'm clear on what I'm about to endure and it's already been discussed on what I should expect so still no safe word me especially if tied naked

[Si****]

Just go for the traffic light system 🤷
Can't go wrong with that and easy to implement.

[wi****]

What about someone whose kink is the lack of a safe word? The idea of going in with no safety net is disturbingly exciting to me. In fact, I often sabotage any possibility of a safe word by specifying any phrases that could be taken as safe words should be treated as scene intensifiers...

[po****]

Safe words are for ********!!!!!

[Deleted Member]

For CNC play I think it's necessary.