Quick Version
* Ethically non-monogamous
* Demisexual, switch.
* No hook-ups, hotels, or car meets
* Connection, consent, chemistry first.
* Active lifestyle, gym, walks, being outdoors, swimming and hiking.
* Regular testing & honesty matter
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What I’m Looking For
People I can actually do life with, events, gym sessions, long walks, getting out and about. I don't cope well being caged indoors.
I’m open to friends, event partners, something that grows into FWB, or a primary partner, but it has to start with genuine connection and that takes time.
I need someone whose energy matches mine. If you love staying active, getting outside, and pushing yourself a bit, then I'm def interested. If your ideal day is mostly indoors or you avoid effort, we’re definitely not a good fit. I will take a walk in the woods or a deadlift over a takeaway, movie or gaming any day. Sorry, but it's ok to have preferences and those are mine.
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Lifestyle
The gym isn’t a phase for me, it’s part of how I look after myself, physically (working progress) and mentally. It means a lot to me and I will not give it up. Same with getting out for walks and fresh air.
I’m not looking for someone to drag along, or someone who’ll discourage it. I want someone who wants to be there too.
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Real Life
My life isn’t conventional in any sense, my mum and ***, live with me and I’m a full-time carer to my disabled child. That means time, energy, and logistics can make meets difficult and meeting outside of events isn’t always simple or doable. My family aren't supportive in the sense they will look after my kids while I meet folks so the preference for meets at events are the easiest way to do that.
I’m open minded, but also realistic. If you need something spontaneous and easy, I’m probably not your person. I'm also not into discreet meets, your partner(s) must be aware of your online and offline activities and encourage it.
If you’re patient, understanding, and can work with me instead of against me, then we'll see how we get along over chats and then eventually meets, if it's possible.
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Boundaries
No unsolicited NSFW photos in my inbox.
No copy-paste or ai messages.
Respect and patience go a long way
No kink dispenser requests.
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Health
Last test: January 2026 all clear
I expect the same level of care and honesty, will test again when Im active.
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Kink me
I like my kink slow, deliberate, and a little dangerous. I’m a switch with a sharp Domme edge. I choose when to submit, if you're patient enough to earn my trust and respect, which that seems to be a quality lacking in a lot of people these days. I have bratty tenancies but it's not a dominant part of who I am, that is more when I'm comfortable and more relaxed around someone, time is a big factor with that. Play is about tension, consent, and teasing the edges of control, not checklists and unconsented demands. Wit, curiosity, and a willingness to meet me halfway is the way to go.