An ideal playdate for us begins well before we ever meet in person.

We value thoughtful pre-date planning with someone who is collaborative, communicative, and respectful. We want to talk through interests, limits, consent frameworks, and logistics together in advance. During planning, we expect mutual input—but once a scene begins, we are looking for someone who is comfortable deferring to me as the dominant partner and final decision-maker.

Structure & Energy

Clear negotiation beforehand; no assumptions

Defined roles, expectations, and boundaries

A shared understanding that power exchange is intentional and consensual

Comfort engaging with both of us as a couple, not separately


During the Scene

I take the lead and direct the scene. The ideal partner is someone who:

-Is eager to participate within a power structure where I am in control

-Is attentive, responsive, and grounded

-Can stay present and adaptive while following direction


My wife enjoys intense, consensual roleplay centered on submission and captivity themes, which are always negotiated ahead of time. These may include:

-Captive or ownership-style dynamics (e.g., caging, collaring, restraint as symbols of control)

-Heavy impact play, within agreed limits

-Verbal and that reins her femininity
(gender-affirming language only; demeaning terms used intentionally and consensually, never dysphoric)

-Clear consequences or punishments for disobedience, as discussed in advance


Some interests—such as bottom play—require very thorough prior discussion and are never assumed.


Care & After

Strong attention to aftercare for everyone involved

Emotional check-ins and accountability

Space to decompress, reconnect, and communicate


What Matters Most

We are looking for someone who understands that:

CNC is a negotiated fantasy, not a license

Consent is ongoing and revocable

is intentional, specific, and affirming—not careless

Trust is built through communication, patience, and respect


Chemistry matters—but compatibility, emotional intelligence, and respect for our dynamic matter more.


Please read our bio before sending me a DM

BDSM Play Partner29 to 59 years ● 140km around USA Richmond

For starters, I'm a 19 year old from Twin Falls, and I'm very new to the kink community and am not super experienced with sexual stuff. I'm generally a super open book on trying things, and I want to try just about everything I possibly can. I'm looking for someone (Ideally a woman, but I'm open to couples as well), who would want to talk and maybe get together to see if we click, and if we do then we could explore things together. I'd prefer someone who I could consistently get together with, and I am willing to travel, as I'm unable to host, but it would have to somewhere within an hour or so of twin if it's going to be happening often. I don't really have any preferences on looks, really all that I want is someone who is interested in me and open to exploring things with me. Some of the big things I'm currently looking to explore is D/S Play (both sides of it as I'm a switch who leans a bit more to the dominant side), Brat Play, Bondage, and possibly freeuse or CNC on the more extreme side of things. I'm someone who generally prefers to focus on their partners pleasure over their own, and I'm someone who loves giving oral a lot. As for me as a person, I'm a fairly laid back and easy going guy once I warm up to people. I'm generally a very introverted person so it can take me a second to warm up to you, and I'll definitely be nervous upon first meeting you. I eventually will warm up to you, and I'm generally super open and honest with things upon getting comfortable with somebody. I love watching movies, going on walks, and playing video games. If you want to see what I look like, I've got some pics and vids on my profile, but if you want to see more message me and I'll gladly send you more. Sorry if this is a bit long winded lol, but anyways I'd love meet some new people, make some new friends, and find someone to explore the kinkier side of life with. Please, if you are interested at all please message me and we can see if we might connect. :)

BDSM Play Partner300km around USA Twin Falls

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