Hi, lovely to meet you.

I always find introductions a bit awkward, but here we go. I’ve been a submissive for nearly six years now—honestly it’s a little terrifying to write that out loud, and I’ll save the existential crisis that comes with it for another time. What it does mean is that I’ve had enough experience to know myself, what I want, and the kind of connection I’m hoping to build with someone.

Ideally, I’m looking for a female-led relationship—something built on trust, communication, and the kind of dynamic where power exchange enriches rather than replaces the relationship. That said, I’m completely open to exploring one-off play sessions if that’s more what you’re looking for going in. At this point, I’ll be honest: I’m a bit tired of the search. Dating in general can feel exhausting, and trying to find something meaningful as a submissive guy adds an extra layer of difficulty that can be pretty discouraging at times.

I won’t go too deep into kinks right here since that’s definitely a conversation better had in DMs, but my top five are bondage, ***d orgasms, face sitting, marking, and nipple play. These are the areas I naturally gravitate toward and where I feel most at home. I’m also curious about exploring more—like eventually losing my anal virginity at some point, though that’s definitely a discussion for later and not something I’m rushing into. I’m also very interested in trying hypnosis as a kink, particularly the kind that blends relaxation, surrender, and trust. At the end of the day, what I really want is the experience of losing control in a way that feels safe and cared for.

As far as preferences go, I don’t have a huge checklist of requirements. The most important things to me are that the person I’m talking to enjoys the kinds of dynamics and kinks I’m into and is roughly around my age. Chemistry is a two-way street, and it’s nice to know if we tick each other’s boxes.

Outside of kink, I’ve been told I have that “hyperactive golden retriever” energy. I’m passionate—sometimes overwhelmingly so—about the things I love. I recently finished my degree in game design, which has been a huge part of my life for the past few years. I play guitar, and I’m currently bartending while looking for a graduate job. I’m always drawn to people who have creative or nerdy interests of their own. In terms of music, I’m pretty flexible—anything from classic rock like The Beatles to heavier bands like Avenged Sevenfold sits firmly in my library.

At the end of the day, I’m looking for someone who cares, someone confident and commanding, someone who’s excited to take the lead. I’ve been in a few relationships where the dynamic expectations didn’t match, often with partners who were also submissive, and it just didn’t work. I’m hoping to finally find something that fits.

I’ve done plenty of online dynamic work, and I’ve had a couple of professional sessions, so if you’re wondering whether I know how to serve—yes, I do.

Thank you for reading. Please feel free to reach out in dms. I'll try to reply asap.
Have a wonderful day.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 165km around UK Harlow

Hi there, thanks for reading my ad.
The title already says a lot. The primary things I'm looking for are:
A smart ass who likes discussing ideas as much as I do and
A Godess who complements my desire for worship.

For the first point:

I'm a huge nerd (1,91m to be exact) who gets a lot of energy from exploring ideas. I have a wide range of interests, ranging from philosophy to science to plans for world domination. I occasionally stumble across women with a similar mindset, but I haven't had the luck of dating one long-term yet. It would be great if I could meet someone with a strong sense of curiosity for dating, friendship, or networking through this ad.

For the second point:
After doing a bit of soul-searching in the BDSM scene, I feel like the label "worshipper" resonates most with what I desire. Basically, I want to spoil you and make you comfortable while you act like a sadistic diva.

I suppose my username already betrays my main kink. I've had a major facesitting fetish for as long as I remember. I came to Fetish.com to meet a girl with the same kink. From what I've seen on this website, there's a pretty major oversupply for guys like me. I would like to address the main complaints I've been reading about.

1: I'm not just here to "scratch my itch". I've already had my first experiences with my kink, and I don't see you as a kink-dispenser. I'd love to focus on your kinks as well as my own.
2: While I'm new, I'm no coward. It sounds like many men on here are just living their fantasies online. If we are compatible, I intend to meet in real life. I've already done so before.
"Stupid risks make life worth living."
3: I don't mind taking it slow. You set the pace for how quickly you want to move the conversation towards the sexual/kinky. I'll respect your boundaries.

For the unsaid points

As for the rest of my kinky mind, I'm open to trying a lot. I'd like to put my potential play partner's wishes above my own, so it's hard to define exactly what else I want. This may be a bit vague, but I consider myself very flexible, as few things are set in stone for me. I do have some limits, which are listed in my bio. Feel free to ask me for a more detailed account.

Do you recognize yourself in either point? Please get in touch, and let's see where things go.
Do you recognize yourself in both points? Please spit out whatever you were drinking, drop everything you're doing, and send me a frenzied DM as soon as possible ;-)

Update as of 11-1-2026: I'm considering taking a vacation somewhere in Europe. I haven't decided on the location yet, but I'm thinking about picking the location based on where I find a great match. So feel free to reply from anywhere on the continent if this ad piques your interest.

I'm able to host.
Ook beschikbaar in Nederlands.
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