I’m going to try and give as much information as I can in this post

Male dom here looking for a sub to work on a relationship that will become TPE. I have been experimenting over the past 3 years learning what I like and don’t like. Trying new kinks and learning about a whole new world that I didn’t know about. I’ve had some very fun times and fun partners that I’ve been able to experiment with and let my dominant side come out.


At the beginning of the year I started a new dynamic with some one online that I had never done before. We started off talking as normal and then she said she wanted to do TPE. This was new for me but I was very interested. For the first couple of weeks we just spent the time getting to know each other and building up a trust. We set up boundaries in the beginning and said we won’t jump right into this. We agreed I’ll slowly get control of things one by one. I ended up getting control over 3 things in her life before we had to call it off. Personal reasons that both us of had no control over.

Now I have got a taste of that kind of relationship,I don’t think I want anything else. I’m looking to try and build this type of relationship/lifestyle again.

What I’m looking for is some one who is committed and really wants the same as me. I know it’s a massive ask for some one to give up all control but with a lot work from both side we could make something amazing. A massive kink and love of mine is being given power. I loved having that control over some one but I also want to be able to help someone. Let me help you become a better version of your self

About me: im 26 years old. Im 5’7 with brown hair and a ginger beard. I have 9 tattoos that are placed all over my body,some of them are big pieces. I have a couple of piercings as well. I would say im a slim toned build.

Sfw side: once comfortable I have a really dark sense of humour. I use to be a big party guy but since getting my own place a couple of years ago I have become a bit of an introvert. I enjoy nights in over nights out, doesn’t mean I don’t go out anymore though. I use to be very big into working out but had a break over the last year. Just getting into boxing training which I’m falling in love with. One thing you should know about me is I don’t ever see kids being in my future. I came to this decision a long time ago and my mind won’t change on that.I want to put my time and effort into other things in my life

NSFW side: I like impact play, breath play, restrains, cnc, fisting. Eating arse, I’m also a pleasure dom,I love giving. I have been getting more into bdsm. I have made my own Czech glory hole that you can be strapped into. I’m wanting to getting into rope classes as well so I can learn to do shibari properly. I’m definitely a bit sadistic so hopefully you are some one who is good with ***

I’m happy with talking online for a bit but I’m not looking for another online relationship . I want to be able to meet up in person and build a proper relationship

It’s ok with me if you have experience or not. This is something we will build together and experiment with so as long as you are open and willing to try then we can make this work. If you have experience in any of it then that’s great

Thanks for reading this long post. Fingers crossed I find the person im looking for

BDSM Play Partner18 to 50 years ● 25km around UK, Kettering 2 months ago

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