I know that it’s quite the long shot, but hey, you miss 100% of the shots you never take.

I’m looking for my kinky soulmate. The woman who is my exact kink counterpart; I truly believe that she is out there. I want to find that woman who has me checking my phone every hour with excitement and anticipation to read her reply. The woman who can’t keep her hands off of me or mine off her. Ive been searching for her for years now and I know she’s there. I would prefer that she’s close to my location for convenience sake but am open to online to start!

A little bit about me and my kinky self:
I discovered my first kink when I was a 13 year old boy and saw my first bondage porno. It had aroused me in such powerful ways that I didn’t even understand. From then on I spent my age years researching the lifestyle and community, developing new and different kinks the more knowledgeable I became about the lifestyle and community and all the different assortment of kinks and methods of self sexual exploration.
I’ve been in the community since I was in my first ever BDSM relationship at 19 years old. I had confessed my desires to my girlfriend at the time. At first she was skeptical but after having read the story I wrote about one of my fantasies, her pussy was soaked and she quickly found out that she was born to be a submissive little cumslut who loved following my every demand or instruction to a tee; because she knew what came with that. We spent 4 years together and over the course of that time we experimented with many different D/S role dynamics. We found our two favorite dynamics were DDLG and Master/slave. Unfortunately, we broke up after 4 years together.
We have been broken up for 7 years now and I have been in 3 different BDSM relationships since then. None of them lasted much longer than a year but during the time I spent with them, they went from completely unaware and unknowledgeable of kink & BDSM to fully trained submissives who almost become a different person when they become aroused.

My list of kinks is far too long to list every single one of them but I’ll list some of my main ones.
-Bondage -praise-
/degredation-cock worship(obviously receiving)- deepthroating (again-obviously receiving)- orgasm play(control, denial, edging, d orgasm/pleasure overload etc.)- rituals(what type varies by submissive archetype) -anal play (both giving and receiving)-training- exhibitionism- squirting-
There are plenty more that I’m sure I’m forgetting, but you kind of get the point.
If we are in a romantic relationship outside of our BDSM relationship then please understand that I will love you and treat you like you are the center of my world, and our BDSM/kink lifestyle can most definitely be separated from our “normal”/conventional romantic relationship if that’s what you would want. I am monogamous, and do not wish to seek out other partners when I am in a committed or romantic relationship. Once exclusivity is declared between us, it will remain that way until we break up and part ways.
I also would like to put out that there that while I heavily lean towards Dom, I do identify as somewhat of a switch as well(in case you are one to occasionally crave the urge to grab me by the groin and tell me what’s going to happen next.)
I love love love writing you dirty stories about the fantasies in my head, and I promise you’ll love reading them. Once you read one, even if it’s just a long, dirty message; you’ll be able to see it so vividly in your head that you’ll actually feel like you’re there; it’ll make you tingle all over and unable to stop thinking about it until you get to experience it for real. I would share a short snippet from one of my many stories in the ad but it’s already super long to begin with so if you want a lick of that dirty smut/erotica material; just send me a message and I’ll send it over to ya😏😘

As far as my non kink parts I am 29 years old, 6 feet tall and 190 lbs. I’m no runway model but I’m decently handsome lol and have a fit, muscular build. I’m not shredded and all veiny or anything but I’m definitely built as I used to be a college athlete and still actively work out and lift weights.
I absolutely love fishing and being outdoors with my two dogs, watching Sunday football while playing football. I coach kids in the sport I played growing up and playing in college- bonus points to anyone who can guess what sport that is- and no, it’s not football.
I game occasionally (ps5) and sometimes go through spurts where I game quite frequently. I love spending time with the ones I love-especially my girlfriend when I have one.
While I am looking for something real and long term that eventually turns to a real life, in person relationship; I am okay with other arrangements such as an online situation, or strictly NSA situations where outside of kink/bdsm, we have no ties or obligation to one another. If I’m missing a situation that you would be interested in pursuing don’t hesitate to message me if you like what you’ve read so far and think we might click; I’m open to consider ALMOST any sort of situation or arrangement.
I am strictly heterosexual, so if you and your hubby want to play, just know I will not have any sort of physical interaction with him(
like to avoid couples for the most part pretty much but willing to consider certain arrangements regarding that). ABSOLUTELY NO MEN, nothing against gay people, just not my thing; so don’t ask!
The most recent results from bdsmtest.com is:
== Results from bdsmtest.==
100% Master/Mistress
100% Rigger
100% Degrader
96% Dominant
96% Voyeur
84% Switch
77% Experimentalist
75% Brat tamer
75% Owner
73% Primal (Hunter)
63% Non-monogamist
58% Exhibitionist
43% Sadist
30% Daddy/Mommy
17% Vanilla
6% Ageplayer

I can’t wait to hear from you!

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Macomb

Have you ever been undone by pleasure? Not just teased but taken apart, slowly, deliberately, until your body forgets how to behave and your brain’s just static and stars?

That’s my playground.

I’m not a service top. I don’t just perform, I participate. I lean in. I listen. I take control, mostly of your pleasure, sometimes of your sanity. Edging, denial, overstim, the kind of orgasm control that leaves you breathless and maybe a little bit wrecked (in the best way). It’s not about ***, not exactly. It’s about what happens when pleasure tips over into something else...something messy, electric, and a little bit mad.

I want to know you. Not just your kinks, though yes, those too, but the stuff underneath. What you crave. What you flinch from. What makes you twitch. I want to map your reactions like a cartographer with a wicked grin and a stopwatch.

Ideally? You’re up for regular meets. Rhythm matters. Chemistry deepens. But if you’re just curious...if you want to try it once, see what all the fuss is about I’m not going to say no. I’m not here to gatekeep intensity.

I get off on watching you fall apart. On being the reason your legs don’t work properly afterwards. On turning you into a puddle of post-play bliss and nonsense words. Sure, I take my own pleasure too, but usually after I’ve wrung you out like a soaked towel and left you smiling at the ceiling.

And yes, overstim is real. It can hurt. That edge where pleasure turns sharp? That’s where I live. I don’t call myself a sadist, but I won’t lie there’s a streak. A glint. A thrill in watching you twitch and gasp and beg for more or less or both.

I travel. I bring toys. I bring focus. I bring the kind of energy that doesn’t ask, it takes, gently but firmly, with a smirk and a safe word.

If you’re curious, message me. If you’re ready, even better.

Let’s make your knees forget how to function.

BDSM Play Partner26 to 50 years ● 115km around UK Crewe and Nantwich

If your goal is quick hookups, casual meetups, or free-flowing erotic content—I am not your playground. I will not be sending photos or videos for your entertainment. If that’s all you’re after… scroll on. [addition: this is a hard limit for me, anyone requesting photos will be blocked. I will choose when and at what stage i am happy to progress to sharing my irl life with an online dynamic, if this is not acceptable, then do not engage]

For those still reading: I am happy to engage in remote toy play, though I am not seeking in-person meetings in the near future. If the dynamic, relationship, or interactions ever reached a point where meeting in person or sharing media became relevant, that could be discussed—but only if I feel a genuine connection worth sharing.

I am a fully submissive woman with strong masochistic tendencies, craving the nuanced interplay of intellectual and physical dominance from a partner who may be a sadist, a Daddy, or a Sir/Master. I thrive in dynamic, mentally stimulating interactions where words, gestures, and intent carry weight, where obedience is never hollow, and commands are meaningful because they are earned and understood.

I am flirtatious, bright, and capable of filthy indulgence when the moment calls for it, yet I also carry a quiet need for care. I crave a Daddy who can guide, nurture, and attend to the subtler layers of a submissive’s mind and heart, helping me find comfort even in moments I struggle to reach it myself.

My submission is genuine—I to it. I carry a spark of oppositional defiance, but that fire exists to be challenged, directed, and ultimately consumed by a Sir or Master who truly understands the art of dominance beyond s***w orders. I also recognize that obedience cannot be inspired through ego alone, but through mastery, presence, and the ability to balance intellect and control.

If you can navigate that delicate interplay—acknowledging each person’s unique moods and needs as much as I do—then perhaps you are the one, or the ones, I am searching for. I am open to these roles being fulfilled by different individuals if no single person embodies them all, as long as each connection is respectful, attentive, and thoughtfully dominant.

BDSM Play Partner30 to 60 years ● 500km around UK Exeter

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    A sadist is a Dominant who enjoys inflicting pain on a submissive partner or partners. However, it isn’t always that a sadist enjoys inflicting all kinds of pain on others. They may well enjoy specific sadistic tortures. They may prefer using a particular instrument like a whip or a cane or they might enjoy adding a sadistic element to other BDSM activities such as rope and restraints. Sadists get pleasure from inflicting pain on others. This is always consensual and agreed in advance. They can enjoy the visual evidence of the pain they’ve inflicted in bruises and welts and red skin. They often enjoy the noises a masochist makes while they are inflicting pain on them and enjoy watching the way that masochist moves as they are tortured. They may even enjoy restraining the masochist so they can’t easily move. Not all sadistic torture leaves marks. Sadists can use electric that inflicts lots of pain on their masochist but doesn’t leave lasting marks. Not all sadism is focused on the physical. Sadists often use fear and control to play with pain without inflicting any physical damage at all. This is called a mind fuck. Many people often ask what is a sadist? There isn’t one simple answer. Every sadist is different. Sadists are most often Dominants but can be switches. Even masochists and submissives can have a sadistic streak. Enjoying inflicting pain on another person, maybe because they understand the thrill of feeling the pain themselves. Sadists can become sexually aroused by inflicting painful torture on others, it can also be simply about submission and control. Sadists often spend many hours honing their skills with one particular torture implement to get the most sadistic pleasure out of their implement of choice.