Hi there, thanks for reading my ad.
The title already says a lot. The primary things I'm looking for are:
A smart ass who likes discussing ideas as much as I do and
A Godess who complements my desire for worship.

For the first point:

I'm a huge nerd (1,91m to be exact) who gets a lot of energy from exploring ideas. I have a wide range of interests, ranging from philosophy to science to plans for world domination. I occasionally stumble across women with a similar mindset, but I haven't had the luck of dating one long-term yet. It would be great if I could meet someone with a strong sense of curiosity for dating, friendship, or networking through this ad.

For the second point:
After doing a bit of soul-searching in the BDSM scene, I feel like the label "worshipper" resonates most with what I desire. Basically, I want to spoil you and make you comfortable while you act like a sadistic diva.

I suppose my username already betrays my main kink. I've had a major facesitting fetish for as long as I remember. I came to Fetish.com to meet a girl with the same kink. From what I've seen on this website, there's a pretty major oversupply for guys like me. I would like to address the main complaints I've been reading about.

1: I'm not just here to "scratch my itch". I've already had my first experiences with my kink, and I don't see you as a kink-dispenser. I'd love to focus on your kinks as well as my own.
2: While I'm new, I'm no coward. It sounds like many men on here are just living their fantasies online. If we are compatible, I intend to meet in real life. I've already done so before.
"Stupid risks make life worth living."
3: I don't mind taking it slow. You set the pace for how quickly you want to move the conversation towards the sexual/kinky. I'll respect your boundaries.

For the unsaid points

As for the rest of my kinky mind, I'm open to trying a lot. I'd like to put my potential play partner's wishes above my own, so it's hard to define exactly what else I want. This may be a bit vague, but I consider myself very flexible, as few things are set in stone for me. I do have some limits, which are listed in my bio. Feel free to ask me for a more detailed account.

Do you recognize yourself in either point? Please get in touch, and let's see where things go.
Do you recognize yourself in both points? Please spit out whatever you were drinking, drop everything you're doing, and send me a frenzied DM as soon as possible ;-)

I'm able to host.
Ook beschikbaar in Nederlands.
FL account: RelaxedDevotion

BDSM Play Partner18 to 40 years ● 150km around Netherlands Utrecht

A few fantasies I'd be interested in acting out (or any similar fantasies -- and if you'd like to see what I look like, just ask for access to my private photos):

-- You make me work out in nothing but a pair of black boxer briefs...while you periodically glance up and order me to switch to heavier weights, or traipse over and squeeze my biceps or smack my thighs...or you just decide that I've turned in such a lackluster performance that it's time to end the workout early, and you push me down to the floor, on my back, straddling me, and slide your hands around my sweaty neck...

-- You matter-of-factly explain that since I agreed to meet you in person, you now have the right to use my body in any way you see fit. That I let you buy me like a cheap cut of meat at a grocery store. After you make me strip, maybe you even order me up onto the kitchen counter, grabbing handfuls of my flesh and feeling it for firmness, thwacking my thighs with a meat tenderizer, as if I really am nothing but a piece of meat, before you hop on top of me, or tug me down to the floor, to ride me as you wrap your hands around my throat...

-- A lot of my fantasies tend to involve ch0king. I've done it to women before, but I've never been ch0ked myself. Never even been dominated. Always dated submissive women who wanted me to be dominant in the bedroom. So I'm craving a woman who'll say, maybe mid-conversation, that it's time for me to shut up. Then you order me to lift up my chin, and you curl your hands around my neck, your thumbs pressing down on my throat, as I sputter and ch0ke under you, and you ride me like a horse.

-- Maybe one of us bathes the other. But I'm not sure whether it'd be more appropriate for me to bathe you worshipfully by candlelight, massaging soap into your skin and shampoo into your scalp, gently and soothingly...or for you to scrub me clean, as roughly as you can, just scour my body with a brillo pad as if I'm a filthy pet or piece of livestock. Either way, I think the bath needs to end with you mounting and riding me...maybe even holding my head underwater and snickering at the way I sputter and splash around beneath you, as if I'm just a funny bathtime sex toy.

-- We meet, go out once or twice, and I try to impress you by bragging about my cooking. So I invite you back to my place one evening to make you dinner. We start cooking together, but it doesn't take long before the power dynamic shifts wildly in your favor: you spill your drink on my shirt, seemingly accidentally, so I have to pull it off -- my undershirt, too -- and you look at my chest coldly, impersonally, reach out and poke my pecs...slap my abs, watch my flesh jiggle...offer unsolicited advice about what muscles I need to work on, while I just awkwardly nod, hope you'll let me get back to cooking...and when I do, you watch me intently for a minute, then order me to strip completely naked so you can get a look at the rest of my body.

I demur, tell you we should wait until after dinner to, uh, take our clothes off. "You're the only one taking your clothes off," you tell me, and calmly walk over and pour the rest of your drink onto my pants. I sputter some protest while looking down in shock, start to unzip my jeans, but you grab my chin and jerk it up, lock eyes with me, instructing me to stay still for a minute -- "I'm gonna punish you now. You want to get ch0ked or held underwater? Ten seconds, either way." So I choose to get ch0ked, it seems easier -- and when you release my neck, you tell me I'm allowed to strip out of my jeans now. My underwear, too. And you have me strip naked in the kitchen, commenting on my anatomy as if you're critiquing a drawing or statue or doll, and I hand you my pants and boxers, then hop up on the cold kitchen counter.

By the time dinner is ready, you've informed me that your chairs and table -- all your furniture -- are for people wearing clothing, not for naked or underwear-clad bodies...but that once your dinner's on the table, you'd be happy to dump some food -- maybe crackers, or leftovers -- onto a paper towel on the floor for me to eat. I groan, but I don't bother complaining any longer...and while I try to make conversation with you, crouching down on the floor to scarf down some barely edible food while you devour whatever meal I've cooked for you, you just ignore me while you read or watch or scroll through something on your phone.

After you finish eating, you look at me -- I'm still trying to chew a few last bites of my own awful meal -- and you say, sounding disgusted, "Dude, I don't think this is gonna work out...you're just not my type." You get up, you grab me by the hair or arm, pull me up, retrieve my clothes from wherever you left them, take a few plastic bags, and lead me outside -- I'm feebly struggling, begging you to let me put my clothes back on before we go outside where people can see us -- but you just march me over to the building's trash room, or garbage can in the backyard. You toss my clothes in a bin, order me to get in too -- and I just give in, hoping the night will just end already, climb into the garbage. You finally offer me some praise, pat me on the head, so when you tell me to lift up my head, I happily comply, letting you zip tie a plastic bag around my neck before you lower the dumpster lid, dust off your hands, and walk away.

Or -- even darker ending -- when you finish eating dinner, and I offer to help you put the leftovers in the refrigerator, you wait before answering -- slowly look over my whole body, pause, think for a minute, and finally reply: "No. I wanna save space in the freezer to hold you."

-- The two of us come back to my place after a date, sitting on the sofa, you looking bored, or tired, starting to ignore me...until all of a sudden your eyes light up, and you ask me excitedly, "Hey, would you mind if I strangled you? I bet your body would look soooo good all naked and sprawled out on the floor!" I'm shocked, at first, and I just assume it's a sick joke...but then I realize you're serious, and I start trying to bargain with you. Maybe I offer to let you ch0ke me, just a little, hoping it'll be enough to satisfy you...but, of course, it isn't, and you slowly talk me into letting you throttle me for longer and longer, removing more and more of my clothes, letting you smack me around, inspect my body. "See? You like getting ch0ked, don't you?" -- Until eventually I give in, and you remove the rest of my clothes and mount me...

BDSM Play Partner18 to 50 years ● 50km around USA Washington

Hello and thank you for taking the time to read this somewhat long post. I am attempting to establish minimum compatibility prior to spending an extensive amount of time chatting. your honesty with yourself, who you are, and what you want is paramount.
My ultimate goal is to find a partner in life with whom I can be Myself without . My descriptions and requirements below are in many cases goals, though they need to be acceptable to you as anything said or written is considered an acknowledgement and soft-commitment; honesty and transparency are important to Me.
Obviously, there will be discussions surrounding basic life goals and desires as well as the items below, so don't get scared away thinking you and your feelings are not being considered. Part of being a Daddy is concern for My girl and her well being.
you will use My use of capitalization in written communications.
The lists below are in no particular order, hence bullets, not numbers, mostly just a stream of consciousness.
I very much look forward to starting a dialogue with you, so reach out soon.
About Me
I am an Owner/Daddy who has had one submissive 30 years ago and the same one again recently for a total of about 2 years. That relationship is completely over now.
The hiatus between was when I pushed the kinkier side of Me down and lived a vanilla life. I am at the point I no longer want to ignore my kinks and fetishes and I would like to have another sub/slave with a cervix to join Me.
• I have a low body count and prefer you to have the same, if possible, though this is not a hard requirement. Corrupting you is one of my fetishes.
• I want to create a relationship of trust and safety where we both can express our desires without judgement.
• Assuming compatibility, marriage is possible/probable though regardless you will be collared.
• I have an extensive list of kinks and fetishes, some of which may be considered extreme.
• I have sadistic tendencies.
• I am well educated.
• I have a felony conviction for negligent homicide as part of a traffic collision. No
or alcohol were involved.
• I am white.
• I have a penis about 80% of average.
• I am currently overweight (200 lb), though I am working to improve Myself. My goal is 150 to 160 lb.
• My known limits are no or play.
About you
• you may have from previous relationship(s).
• you are open to being pregnant (once again) as I would like to have a child. This is not a hard requirement as long as you are accept another carrying the child.
• your commitment to me will be unshakeable regardless of our activities.
• you will put Me before yourself.
• you will never lie or deceive Me in any way as this would erode and/or threaten the safe environment.
• Preferably, you are similar in your experiences and lack thereof, and have my kinks and fetishes you have repressed and want to experience.
• you understand that I will most likely be open to or already have any fetish or kink you desire.
• your kinks/fetishes may concern or scare you because you
the repercussions (not a requirement) as getting you to do those things is part of my desire. The safe environment I am seeking to build should help assuage many of your concerns.
o you will perform My fetishes and kinks even when they are not fully your own.
o you will be having sex with women. Whether you enjoy it to start is not relevant, though you will be expected to obey and participate enthusiastically.
• you will be expected to address Me as Sir at most times. Other pet names are acceptable as long as they are respectful.
• you will be collared once compatibility and long-term commitment has been established.
• you have masochistic tendencies.
• you swallow.
• you may be given an SLRN (this can be discussed).
• you will keep a tidy house and provide healthy meals (similar to TradWife).
• Preferably, you are similar in your experiences and lack thereof, and have many kinks/fetishes you have repressed and want to experience.
• Preferably, you are similar to Me in your experiences and lack thereof, and have many kinks/fetishes you have repressed and want to experience.

BDSM Play Partner25 to 50 years ● 5km around USA Westmont

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