About me:
HI! I’m 34, married, and a switch. My wife and I live in a 24/7 DD/lg, have been into BDSM together for about 15 years now, and have been part of our local community for the last 2 years. We have a few play partners that we see periodically. I work in IT within the healthcare industry, enjoy music, gaming, reading, cars, building things with my hands, and exploring the outdoors. I’m 5 foot 9, and about 180lbs.
What I’m looking for:
A long term D/s relationship with someone local. I have tried online/long distance multiple times, and I’ve learned that I can’t go without being physical with someone. I understand that everyone has other things going on, and life can get in the way at times, but I know that a relationship, for me at least, will not last without being about to be around the other person. I also know that I’m not interested in a just play relationship. Ideally, we would get to know each other well, and spend time together outside of just play sessions.
I would be looking to be submissive to you at least most of the time. Again, I understand life happens, and being in a 24/7 D/s relationship already, this would need some work and discussion to sort through. The short term D/s relationships I have tried have not been difficult to manage as far as expectations and what can and can’t be done.
While I am not straight, and can find interest and attraction in just about every gender, I think at this point I would prefer a Domme, as I tend to be more attracted to the female form.
Interests:
Some things I have tried, and enjoy, include:
Tease and denial, orgasm control, chastity, tasks (sexual and non-sexual), toys, bondage, light CBT, d feminization, bathroom control, fluid play, pegging, foot/body worship, , sounding, e-stim.
Some things I have interest in, but have not tried:
Diet control, latex, assigned exercise schedules, pet play, cuckolding.
Limits:
***, anything illegal, obvious public play, financial domination.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 50 years ● 50km around USA Chico

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