So I had a perfect situation going: she was also married in an ENM relationship. Let’s call her “Jen”. Jen wanted a regular, recurring thing and so did I. She was cute af. Out of respect for her, I won’t go into any details, but we went on a couple of dates and played a couple of times, then I had to end it.

Why?

Jen and I were sexually incompatible: It turns out that through this “girlfriend” experiment, I realized that my own sexual identity is around how hot and erotic my relationship with my own wife is.

However, my beautiful, sweet, owned wife and sub’s actions may have ruined vanilla sex for me - at least in a 1:1 setting. When we play together with others, our dynamic is still active even if it’s invisible…

Back to my mini relationship: she wasn’t into BDSM, but she was a natural Dom. She loved to take control and keep it. The power struggle was sort of fun at first, but then it just became sort of…blah.

Of course, I asked my wife for advice since we’re communicating this whole time anyway, and she at least didn’t call me crazy when I said that I would strongly prefer a slightly kinkier relationship, and that I thought I would start to lead with that approach…

So here I am! Looking for someone that feels easy to hang out with, and can be real, and honest, and your *** true self - the Sub who needs to be praised when she’s a good girl, and gets delicious spankings if she’s being a brat.

In return, you’ll get a kind-hearted friend and Dominant play partner. I won’t be your Dom on principal, but I will act JUST like one - based on your boundaries, needs and desires - once a week or so 😈

Don’t be shy😘

NSA25 to 50 years ● 95km around USA Argyle

I am a CIS man looking for a CIS woman that would be interested in a dinner date that may lead to more:

I am not looking for something "tonight", this would be a planned outing in the near future.

We would start the evening with a public meet up, this could be dinner at a restaurant, coffee at a cafe, or something similar. Where we could get to know each other and discuss desires and limits.

If everything goes well and you choose to join me at a hotel for the rest of the evening. We could rent a movie and continue a more private discussion of kink. Verbal (possibly written) consent would be required before any play would begin.

I typically enjoy giving pleasure more than being the receiver. I enjoy giving massages (standard or tantric): shoulders, back, and feet are where I am most capable. I have large firm hands that like to explore and tease. I am dominant but am more than willing to listen to input and/or follow commands if you are able to depict your preferences/needs. If you choose to leave me in control, I promise not to disappoint.

Most, if not all, things kink about me can be found on my profile. Any/all questions and concerns are welcome, my DM's are open.

Requirements:
(I will reciprocate all)
-At least 2 non filtered photos before meeting (Face/full body preferred, nothing explicit just nobody enjoys being catfished)
-A recent STD test with negative results
-Your own form of transportation (In the event you choose to leave at any point)
-A list of allergies (if applicable)
-An open mind

Additional notes:
-Penetrative intercourse is not a requirement, but would be preferable. (I will supply my own preferred latex condoms)
-If you have your own toys/tools that you would like to bring, that is more than welcome.(As long as they are clean/sanitary)
-I have a small collection of brand new toys/tools that I will bring that you could choose to keep if we utilize them. (or will be disposed of)
-I am by no means a professional, I will be very forward and honest with any discussed experiences.
-I hope not to upset or offend anyone, I am just trying to be clear with my intentions and expectations.
-If you've read this far you can pick the dessert after dinner!
-Whoever may read this, I hope you have a great day!

Kinky Date18 to 50 years ● 25km around USA Grand Rapids

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