Are you a strong, mature, and masculine men who dreams of submitting to the power of a confident woman?

I’m a mature, self-aware Dominant woman who values depth, presence, honesty, emotional intelligence. I seek a deep emotional, intellectual, and physical connection with my man. Not interested in surface-level play or fantasy-only dynamics.
For me, D/s is an emotional practice: clarity, honesty, and willingness to grow. My style is calm, grounded dominance, not theatrics. I'm very warm and loving, but strict.
You'll feel my control in your body, in your mind, in the way you start structuring your day around pleasing me. That's not discipline, that's devotion.

I'm not looking for a boy to play with — I'm looking for a man who knows the joy of serving a woman, not because he is weak, but because he is strong and aware. The best suitable men's age for me is 35-45.
I love order, attention to detail, a taste for rituals, and the ability to anticipate without words.
If the word “service” sounds like art to you, maybe we should talk.

I'm a Counsellor. I understand power dynamics deeply, both professionally and personally. In my private life, I'm looking for a man for a long-term D/s relationship. I lead a healthy lifestyle, like art, theatre, and live music.

If this resonates, write to me. I'd like to know:
– Who are you?
– What do you do?
– Where you live and what your life looks like
– What pulls you toward submission
– What you're looking for in a D/s relationship
– How you imagine serving, and what you hope to receive in return

If you're that man, don't wait. Thoughtful answers matter more than fast ones.
I choose carefully, but when I choose, I invest deeply.

BDSM Play Partner31 to 47 years ● 50km around UK London

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