Hi,
I’m a laidback 51 year old male. I’m new to the scene, but I feel like I’m definitely leaning towards being a submissive.
I’m in a sexless marriage, and my wife is very vanilla. For about the last ten years my wife’s libido had been slowly dwindling from, sex once a week, to once a month, now we are to the point of where I’m lucky if we have sex once a year.
I love my wife, and I don’t want to leave her but I also want to have that physical intimacy and closeness with another human being. Masturbation is fine for stress release and relieving sexual frustration but I still crave the physical presence and an intimate connection with another person.

I love giving someone else the gift of an orgasm. It pleases me to know that I can give someone else that pleasure. Pure and simple. I also would really like to know what it feels like to be pegged. So if you’re into pegging or would also like to try pegging, then that would be an added bonus.

I also like going for hikes on trails with my two dogs, I enjoy listening to podcasts and I enjoy having intelligent and interesting conversations.

My top ten favourite music artists are:

Munch Buddy35 to 59 years ● 50km around Canada St Thomas
BDSM Play Partner50 to 70 years ● 50km around USA Florence
BDSM Play Partner50 to 70 years ● 50km around USA Florence

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