Hi! My life partner in both life and kink recently passed away after 30 years together. As such, I am hoping to expand my horizons and circumstances by reconnecting with the greater kink community. While I am considering exploring a LTR, I am at present in no hurry to commit to anything permanent as I am still adjusting to this.

I am primarily seeking a situation involving a sub or slave female that might lead to a LTR. I can host for mild to wild BDSM play; prefer subsemphasized text with masochistic tendencies and desires. SORRY NO MALES!

Me? I'm a 63 y/o widowed Dom WM with a dry but dark sense of humor; 6'3" 195 HWP, professional, pierced nipples. I'm presently recovering from some health issues but am moving along very well and am very much a fighter; not a quitter! College educated and although mature, very in touch with my inner child. I can transition from NPR to Bob’s Burgers without flinching nor being embarrassed about doing so. Music is a vital part of who I am as is humor. The ability to maintain a sense of humor without arrogance when it comes to BDSM play is, in my eyes, vitally important.

I am not looking for someone squeamish but someone adventurous, who is intrigued by spankings/paddles, restraints and nipple clamps, wax play, blindfolds, latex, leather, tight restraints, watching/ voyeurism, large objects and. . .?

I switch on occasion if the chemistry is right and am open to CBT, pegging, sounding, and pretty much many of the other interests I’ve already outlined. In other words, I can take in what I dish out...

I have a wide variety of gear to add to the total ambience… Anything from mild to wild, as I do have a bit of a sadistic streak…

You? ...are sane and secure, clean and discrete. Enjoy some curves, but sorry- no extreme overweight. Prefer mature but will consider any age or race with a willingness to test your limits and maintain creativity with a certain degree of humor and humility. LOVE tats, piercings, ebony, goth and...

Limits will be respected but tested; also receptive to sexting. Because of scam efforts and ulterior motives of some responses I have received, I actually prefer meeting at a neutral location first in the general Milwaukee area although, yes, I can host...

Desires and Fantasies
My partner and I have explored plenty of things in the past including play dungeons, pet play, role playing etc. I've already explored plenty of fantasies, so just let me know what yours might be...

If you are looking for pay for play or if you’re a “” seeking s, move on… I have better things to spend my on including partners that are actually interested in something more LT and stable, and who actually play instead of yanking chains (rhetorically rather than literally)... If you’re looking for someone to send you or ***s sight unseen, well… while I appreciate you’re thinking that I was born yesterday, I wasn’t…

BDSM Play Partner30 to 70 years ● 50km around USA Milwaukee

I am a black man, 5’'11" tall, 280 Lbs with black hair (currently wore shaved), and deep brown eyes. An ex-powerlifter I'm somewhat soft around the middle but still as strong as an ox. (Yes, I'm big but I'm working on reaching proper WPH.) I'm clean, vasectomy safe, emotionally stable, dependable, honest, patient, loyal, considerate, supportive, loving, and affectionate, fun-loving, and have a good sense of humor.

I am a strict, fair, and demanding Dom and as such I will be the final authority on the limits/parameters of your training, discipline, punishments, rules, and pleasures. Understanding, of course, that such limits and rules will depend on your gifts and any mutually agreed upon standards/rules we've established beforehand.) I play safe and sane. Your safety and well-being will be my primary concern and responsibility. Your primary responsibility will be to serve and please me.

My Ideal Person: You are a submissive female with an ardent desire to please. You have a wee bit of masochist in your nature as well and you find joy in serving. You are at peace with yourself and your sexuality.

Every day, you may be a mother, wife, daughter, career girl, student, boss, white-collar exec, blue-collar drone, waitress, butcher, baker, or candlestick maker…. etc. You are emotionally stable, dependable, honest, patient, loyal, considerate, open-minded, supportive, loving, and affectionate, fun-loving, and have a good sense of humor. (You are not a hater, nor are you bitter or negative)

Kinky Date20 to 65 years ● 150km around USA Houston

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    Masochists enjoy having pain inflicted on them. It might not be all kinds of pain, but only specific types. They usually match up with sadists because sadists enjoy inflicting pain. Masochists tend to be submissive, but can be switches too. Masochists know what it feels to take a punishment do can make effective tops in a scene. Some Dominants have masochistic streaks, enjoying a certain level of pain themselves. Masochism is centred on the pleasure of pain but many masochists enjoy being controlled and dominated too. Masochists are often bratty, to get the pain they want. The worst torture for a masochist is totally withholding punishment as they crave pain. In day-to-day life masochists may find non kinky ways to satisfy their desires such as pushing themselves hard during exercise. Masochists often use pain to feel free from the pressures of day to day life.