Ahoy!

I'm a 34-year-old male from Connecticut, looking for a switch female partner from New England or NY. My goal is to connect on an emotional and mature level, with shared interests in both kink and vanilla aspects of life. I want to find someone to share both the good times and the bad, growing stronger together.

What I'm Looking For:

  • Connection:

    Laughter, romance, love, and trust.

  • Priorities:

    While dating, I want to be your second priority. Your primary focus should be on yourself, your life, and your future, as mine is on me and mine. Happiness and security alone are crucial to finding them together.

  • Philosophy of Love:

    Love is an offering, not possession. It's about offering joy and easing suffering, requiring empathy and mutual sharing.

    Getting to Know Each Other:


    Once we've established trust and honesty through chatting, I'd love to meet in person, perhaps for a meal or a fun outing. Exploring new places, like a forest, would be a great way to bond.

    About Me:

  • Switch: I embrace both Dominant and Submissive roles, trusting that our compatibility will lead to a satisfying experience.
    My honest disclosure is meant to build acceptance of my nature.
  • Communication: A relationship should be a two-way street. Both partners need to be willing to compromise and fulfill each other's needs.

    Interests:

  • Gaming: PC games and Dungeons & Dragons (3.5 & 5th edition).
  • Outdoor Activities: Hiking, bonfire nights, and exploring nature.

  • Reading:

    Fantasy novels like The Legend of Drizzt, Harry Potter, Eragon, A Song of Ice & Fire, The Hobbit, Lord of the Rings, and the Mistborn trilogy. The Magicians, The Last Kingdom.

  • s:

    I love
    s, especially dogs. I currently own a Yellow Belly Slider Turtle named Tokka and a cat named Munch.

    Hard Limits:

  • No hard-partying or daily drinking.
  • Preference for partners under 200 lbs.

    Communication:

    I'm looking for meaningful conversations where both parties are actively engaged. I'm not a kink dispenser; I want a romantic relationship with love and kinks.

    Instructions:

    If you've read this far, start your message with "Achievement unlocked" and include some basic information about yourself.

    Thank you for taking the time to get to know me!

BDSM Play Partner21 to 44 years ● 165km around USA Plymouth

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