Xenophilia, as you might expect, is the exact opposite of xenophobia. Instead of being anti anything or anyone foreign, someone who is into xenophilia really, really loves the people and culture of countries other than their own.
The word is made up of two greek words. ‘xenos’ which means stranger, unknown, foreign and ‘philia’ which means love or attraction but it’s not a term that appears in classic greek, it’s a modern creation.
Often partnered with cultural cringe - which is when you’re being embarrassed about your own culture and people - this fetish really loves the exotic, the foreign and the unknown and that can include actual aliens – out of this world!
The vast majority of people who practice BDSM keep their fun and games strictly as a part of their sex life. There's also a significant minority of practitioners who have a kinky relationship outside of the bedroom but in a relatively subtle way; their dynamic permeates many aspects of their lives and is inherently part of who they are as a couple, but you wouldn't usually know it to look at them. A few, however, practice what is known as '24/7' - a lifestyle in which they are permanently in role and permanently overtly kinky. Couples who live this way usually have rituals, modes of address and acts of service that form parts of their daily lives. It's a reasonably rare choice IRL, but a very common fantasy for many kinksters!
Anal sex is hugely popular, but it's not the only way of getting your butt in on the action. Anal massage and analingus can both feel fantastic for giver and receiver alike, and they're a great way of warming someone up to be fucked in the ass without difficulty or discomfort.
There are plenty of toys around designed to make anal play more enjoyable for all involved, and it's well worth looking into some plugs and vibrators to see what they can do for you. Be careful about what you pick, though - toys not designed for use in that area can get lost more easily than you might imagine, so be sure and get the right ones for you and your partner!