Molly's BDSM Tips | Making it as a Professional Mistress

This week our kinky advice guru Molly gives some advice to one FET member who, after being a Mistress on the side, now wants to turn her passion into her profession. But as a single mum, what does she need to look out for? Read on.
 

Dear Molly, 
For the last five years, I've been a private Mistress for fun. Now I'd like to turn this hobby into my profession and rent a studio part-time. Could you give me some advice as to what would be the right steps to look for future clients? Also, I'm a single mum, so I'm wondering if this could get me into trouble with the authorities.
D. Matrix
 

Dear D. Matrix,
As the saying goes, turn your hobby or passion into a job, and you’ll never work a day in your life. Being a private Mistress definitely sounds like a passion-led role, whether it's for fun or as a professional Mistress. Still, there are important things to keep in mind when making the switch from fun to professional.

Define your professional Mistress services

One of the things to think about is what services you'll be offering. When you're doing it for fun, then that tends to be something you would work out on a casual basis with each partner, but when you're setting a professional service, it's something you want to be very clear about to your prospective clients. There's no point if someone is booking you for a rope bondage session if that's not one of your skill sets.

Also, think about your limits, what are the things you'd never want to do? Maybe golden showers are a hard limit for you, or needle play or other forms of medical play. Having personal limits is fine, but it will help both you and clients if you are relatively clear about what they are ahead of any session.
 

Finding clients

There are lots of potential ways to find clients, but one of the best ways is to create a website that has some good SEO (Search Engine Optimisation) so that when potential clients type in ‘Professional Mistress’ and the name of your city, Google displays your website. It's fairly easy to get a domain name and some hosting from an adult-friendly host and then use WordPress software to build your site.

Additionally, you also want to look around for websites where you can advertise, and even start to build yourself a following on social media. Twitter is particularly useful as they allow more adult content than a lot of the other platforms.
 

Legal implications

Legal implications are something that you need to consider. I'm not a legal expert, so I would highly recommend that you get some advice from a legal professional so that you can be sure that you're not risking custody of your kids. What you need to ascertain is the legal situation in the country that you live in. Every territory has different rules when it comes to adult services.

Often professional Mistress services that do not involve actual sex are not illegal, but it does vary from place to place, so it's crucial to do your research and know what you can and can't do. It's also worth talking to other professional Mistresses in your area to get their advice and thoughts on the legal situation - and any risks you might be taking.
 

Fun versus Professional 

One final thought for you to consider is how offering a professional Mistress service might differ from what you have done in the past. Clients will be paying you money and will be expecting exactly that, a service that meets their needs and desires. It becomes less about what you enjoy with a partner and more about providing a quality service and experience for your customer. It's not for everyone and takes a particular skill set to do well.  

I think it's important that you're sure you want to make that change. Sometimes turning a hobby or something you do for fun into a job can mean that it becomes work and not play. It's worth being sure that you want to make that switch. 
Good luck! 
Molly x

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