I got into the Fetish scene purely by accident 17 yrs ago, my Girlfriend at the time wanted kinky sex and i was clueless. So we worked on her fantasies and looking back they were quite vanilla, but we both enjoyed it so pushed our boundaries each time.
Growing up i was always told a man should Read more… never hit a woman, so you can imagine the problems i faced when she came home with a paddle and a flogger , it was a struggle to hit her hard as she required at first (2 yrs ago i could have quite happily punched her in the face but that`s a different story lol). Always work on a scale of 1-10 that`s the measure of pain each time a paddle/flogger hits.. He will learn how to control his swing and you will understand your pain threshold, if that`s what you are into.
I remember i enjoyed learning rope work, but my sausage fingers made me very clumsy to start with.. so be patient, but safety first never play without safety scissors and there are plenty of tutorials online.
Men are easily lead and think with their dick, with me i found the more Dominant i got with her the more sex i got and not just in the bedroom.She would often instigate the fun at first by telling me she had been a naughty girl and needed punishing, that was the green light .
Not everything will suit you both, but try it at least once. It`s all about experimenting and learning about your inner dark desires and having fun with them.
I could never go back to being vanilla, that`s why i`m here and i will never be submissive , nor do i want to and that`s all because a g/f showed me a different path and an alternative lifestyle

Our pleasure sweetie.. there are lots of people on here that are willing to help.
Not just dickheads

Unfortunately on any online site were a woman is searching for someone to for fill her darkest desires, there will be a swarm of wasp`s around the honeypot.. the fake Dom`s, the pic collectors, the misogynistic arseholes and the creeps you wouldn`t leave in a room with your granny.
Don`t let that Read more… put you off, a good Dom knows that the happier you are being submissive to him the more he will get out of you, so he will need to know what make`s you tick. The mind is a sexy place to play, so he must not twist it ,but delve in deep and explore the dark corners and build your confidence so you have the mental strength to play with your naughty demons without it screwing you up.
Templar x

Sweetie this is a site for naughty people to play and no one has the right to judge you for your choices or lifestyle.. I know it`s a total cliche but only time will heal your emotional wounds.
There are genuine people on here that have lived life, loved and lost, but that`s life. It will kick you Read more… in the ribs just when you are the most happiest.
Get off the floor , straighten your dress and raise your chin because the game of life is not over yet.
Templar xx