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Gender Man
Age 43
Status Single
Height 175cm
Weight 88kg
Body shape Average build
Eye colour Green
Hair colour Blond
Hair length Middle
Beard 5 o'clock shadow
Orientation Straight
Ethnicity Caucasian white
Origin England
Pubic Hair Shaved
Body hair None
Zodiac signs Sagittarius
Glasses
Smoker
Tattoos
Piercings
I can speak English
German
Polish

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Description

Hi...My name is Richard...I have a very gentle nature....easy to talk to....understanding and get on alot better with females than males....I am very young in heart and do not look my age....Thank you Mum....!....One relationship.....I fell in love with a women I used to see every day in Purley...Our eyes always met....when passing by....Purely by chance...having a Lunch time meal.....she walked in....Started chatting...found out she was in a relationship with another woman...Could not get her out of my mind....Forward wind... one evening two close female friends and alot of wine.Suggestion from them.......Change your look...I did...subtle.....but it worked...it brought out a Feminine side of me that I never knew I had.....When I used to go clubbing I had a very Androgynous look and now that desire has come back....fond memories.....but...a more grown up and Stylish version and more subtle....I love it....Lack alot of confidence in going out locally.....Never wore a dress and do not think Iwould...!....Women say that I have developed a style which is stylish.....We were engaged and due to be married...sadly ...she was killed by a drunk driver .a long time ago...I have a lovely home....a beautiful 3 year old King Charles Cavalier.....and am looking for friendship..with kinky benefits and a love of my kinks....I honestly connect really well with females and that is really due to the relationship I had...
I love cooking....looking after my Garden.....Photograhy...Barbercues at home....Movies...at home.....Listening to Music....I was brought up on Pink Floyd...that era...although I have varied tastes....I also enjoy playing Backgammon....but have not played for a very long time..! really miss female company and would love to meet someone locally who would make me feel comfortable with how my relationship changed my life...I do not want to change sex...or anything like that...but I am finding it a real struggle to cope with the feminine side that my previous relationship brought out in me...You will feel very comfortable talking to me about...Clothes...Make up...Hair
Manicures...Etc....I do not know why....But I always seem to make a connection with females...even though on first meeting there is a nervousness as to whether I am genuine...and not hiding anything..Understandable....My childhood friends are spread all over the world....and the only contact i have is through the internet...Yes ...I am lonely....and really miss female company...I have been as honest as I can be....and I do not think i have missed anything out,...If I have...I will try to include it as I fill in all the info..
All I will add iat this moment is that my Fiancee to be had quite a few items from her relationship....that she said would go a long way to introducing me to understanding what she enjoyed...in our developing relationship..that she would love me to Try and Wear at home...never got to that stage...Apart from a pair of 6.5 pink ballet pointe shoes she bought for me ..which I have worn a few times...I still kept a few other items..which I have never tried..!
She wanted to call me Cassie....I do not know how much you know about mac computers and Siri...but whenever I speak to my computer she now calls me Cassie...!..It has a nice ring to it..........I am about 5 foot 8 inches tall...
getting back...very quickly to being slim....not overweight...but not happy with my weight.....Now. just over 13...stone...Green eyes....very pretty feet....more female than male...I am determined to get back to a weight I was always happy with...about 10 to 11 stone...!...I do have a male side to me as well...which I am happy with....but how to combine both Female and Male traits is something I am really struggling with...Do I call myself Richard Or Cassie...Up to you..Once I activate my account please keep on coming back as i will update and explain things better..!.Never done anything like this before...!...I love the feel of soft fabrics ...have a very stylish dress sense...not my opinion but comments from my
hair stylist first visit.......the salon where I had my eyes done...and even from the nail salonn where I have my nails done.....the comments did take me by surprise...but it made me realise that life is too short..!...and now...what lies ahead...?...I feel as if I have alot of catching up to do...!...I do smoke...Not alot and only in the Garden..
but I would love to give up..especially for a female....

Fantasies

I do not really know as I never got the chance to find out...All I can i can say is that she had a desire to have me helpless in her control.She really had a love of Corsets.......but very gentle in her approach.....I have to admit that I am still very curious
.....and want to find out how it feels. to be helpless wearing a very restrictive hobble corset...?....Friendship is really very important to me and an understanding of how difficult it is for me to cope with a feminine side to me that my previous relationship...has brought to the surface...I have a very curious nature...and quite a few fantasies..
which are a result of drinking too much wine with my fiancee...
Kinky...Most definitely....Daring....Worryingly so...!.......
You know the saying....Anticipation can sometimes be better than the event....It is something I would love to find out if it is really true...I would really hope that the pleasure is better than the anticipation..!
I would like to make it very clear that although i have mentioned my fiancee quite a few times ...it is only because of what it brought out in me ...and of what I could of found out about what made me feel sexy and sensual..
The best way I can explain it ...it was to be an introduction to a very Kinky world...!...Something I would now love to explore and enjoy...with the right female...!.... Having my eyelashes ...eyebrows etc... done..French manicure as well....Hair ....is left up to the imagination of a very young talented female stylist....so you will have to wait for a photo....Please see the rest of my profile....before making a decision..!

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Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 found their first BDSM archetype!
  • 16.10.2018 21:14:24
  • Male (43)
  • London
  • Single
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 05.09.2018 20:46:15
  • Male (43)
  • London
  • Single
What's in a name?

Seems to be a really popular topic to reply to... My name Cassie..which I am seriously thinking of making it legal...stems from my fiancee...who sadly passed away along time ago...She did not like my real name Richard...too much to explain apart from the fact that she was in a relationship with a Read more… Female...until she met me..!...Wrote down on bits of paper the qualities she liked in me and was going to use the first letters of each quality to make up a name for me..!..what came out of a Waitrose shopping bag was bits of paper spelling out C.A.S.S.I.E..in that order..I will leave you to try to work out what qualities the letters stand for..!
Cassie

Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 19.08.2018 18:26:07
  • Male (43)
  • London
  • Single
If you could marry ..?

Swim...Why the Williams sisters..?...Cassie

Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in Online Munch
  • 02.08.2018 23:29:53
  • London
If you could marry ..?
If you could marry anyone..Famous , or not..who would you choose..To make this more interesting..please exclude your partner.!..I would marry Annabel Croft..Choose one only and why..A C turns me on one hell of alot..I think she could be very adventurous , playful..Cassie
Swim
Swim Because I like black women and muscular women Cassie. Both preferences rolled into two Because I like black women and muscular women Cassie. Both preferences rolled into two
Like · 19.08.2018 18:48:08
Cassie34
Cassie34 Swim...Why the Williams sisters..?...Cassie
Swim...Why the Williams sisters..?...Cassie
Like · 19.08.2018 18:26:07
3SumQueen
3SumQueen Keanu Reeves, no idea why but i am obsessed with him.
Apart from him i have a phobia of the marriage ritual and so will never marry probably. Keanu Reeves, no idea why but i am obsessed with him.
Apart from him i have a phobia of the marriage ritual and so will never marry probably.
Like · 18.08.2018 21:09:11
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 30.07.2018 19:41:55
  • Male (43)
  • London
  • Single
Left to make your way home..

Thank you...I forgot to mention that , as you touched on..it is an incredibly risky and dangerous thing to do..Being helpless in a controlled situation is one thing..but what I described , I suppose is more of a Fantasy..!...Although..If I was wearing everything I described in the company of other Read more… kinksters making our way home...that could be alot of Fun..But to be left alone totally helpless..as I described..is a No..No...You never know who is out there.!..So..VB..thank you for your advice..Personally..,I would happily wear everything at home...Big Garden etc..and wait to be released..Caution is an understatement...Just don't do it..If you do love the idea...Think of safety in numbers..A fantasy that goes wrong...will undoubtedly change your relationship with what you love....Any Fantasy can be adapted to make it safe and enjoyable..This bit might be edited..I hope not...but do understand if it needs to be..Most of my wild ideas and Fantasies..of which a few have come to life...all go back to my teenage years..Parents were very liberal...allowed me to smoke grass..not the crap you get now..half a joint..you would be tripping..honestly...when I was tripping I used to look at some of my illustrated paperbacks etc which my parents found , but allowed me to keep...When you see illustrations coming to life...it sends your imagination into overtime...It would take another topic to explain and I would not have a clue how to call my topic..but..all my fantasies...ideas for making my own items...situations I would love to find my self in..all go back to my teenage years and earlier..VB..Hope you are still moderating...Thinking about.. This bit might be edited..could that be another topic..the reference to grass is really important for members to understand the whole post..What do you think..before you allow this reply..Cassie

Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in BDSM Forum
  • 30.07.2018 18:28:14
  • London
Left to make your way home..
Have you ever been left to make your own way home from a Fetish event or a private party still wearing what you arrived in....with no money no car..f you could realise that scenario...what would you love to be wearing if you had the courage knowing that you would have to make your own way Read more…home...But...if you did not know what you were in for would your choice of outfit be more extreme or outrageous for the event you would be going to.! ..? would love to be in that situation..not knowing...what I would love to be wearing and left as far away from my home...A really tight long black Leather corset..being made at this moment..in Russia.!...My nearly finished fibreglass gag/mask....Chastity belt..Stockings and suspenders...High Heeled Red sandals..Thick leather lockable round mitts...Red..Oh yes..my posture Collar with lead attached..!...Now I have posted this topic..I might regret it..!..Sleepless nights ahead..!..Not sure how this works or whether I have it set up..Leave a comment on my wall..as well as a reply..Cassie
Likejimiboi · 6 Replies
bingobaby naked with terrain hiking or running shoes on thatd be perfect definitely a collar with a tag in case a benevolent Dom/me find you lost and licking your wounds they can return you safely home
naked with terrain hiking or running shoes on thatd be perfect definitely a collar with a tag in case a benevolent Dom/me find you lost and licking your wounds they can return you safely home
Like · 02.08.2018 1:35:34
bingobaby this is a hot fantasy, to be kicked out of a Domme's session for brattyness without clothes.. maybe a safe way to try it is at a state park being left in the wilderness and have to amek it back to camp maybe cuffed(front or behindback) maybe at a nude beach have to make it back to the car.. looove this idea this is a hot fantasy, to be kicked out of a Domme's session for brattyness without clothes.. maybe a safe way to try it is at a state park being left in the wilderness and have to amek it back to camp maybe cuffed(front or behindback) maybe at a nude beach have to make it back to the car.. looove this idea
LikePcare01 · 31.07.2018 19:50:32
jimiboi
jimiboi My usual is a collar and lead - so I would be quite exposed 😂😂😂 My usual is a collar and lead - so I would be quite exposed 😂😂😂
Like · 30.07.2018 22:42:48
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in BDSM Forum
  • 28.07.2018 12:49:12
  • London
KINKY Photos...
I would suggest that anyone who replies checks out the guidelines about photos etc..
Anyway..what type of photos are a turn on..I hope over the next couple of weeks to post in my profile my first attempt at including photos which have me wearing bondage items which I have made myself..!..Including Read more…a fibreglass face mask which is something I struggled in making over a year..nearly there...Any feed back would be lovely...
What turns me on..are photos of bondage situations that I could see myself being in..!..There is a website that I always go to to look for inspiration and how I could adapt items for use in a self bondage situation..!.Females in very restrictive corsets is another turn on...In fact...any thing that would excite me ..is a turn on..I am not interested in anything that is illegal or crosses the acceptable boundaries of our scene..Interpret that as you may..!..The more extreme a bondage situation I see..the more I am interested in developing my own version.!..What does annoy me..is that alot of photos that I wanted to print are protected in one form or another and could not be printed..!
Do you keep a photo by your bedside if your are feeling you need a little bit of help to relax..I do..!...It is a great photo...never fails..!..Cassie
LikeJohn1979 · 1 Reply
FabSeverus
FabSeverus I don’t get turn on by photos as I am not a horny boy anymore. But I like a photo of mountains if I need to relax I don’t get turn on by photos as I am not a horny boy anymore. But I like a photo of mountains if I need to relax
Like · 29.07.2018 1:45:04
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 28.07.2018 1:41:51
  • Male (43)
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  • Single
Have you Lived out a Fantasy?

Love it.!!!..I have lived out a very similar fantasy ...sadly my fiancee died a while ago...but I know what it must of been like for you..Takes an awful lot of nerve....butterflies , etc...but , if I ever get the opportunity to do something similar again...!!!
It is an amazing feeling...Cassie..

Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 26.07.2018 17:26:20
  • Male (43)
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Is it right for mistresses to ask for tribute?

Hi..I do not think whether it is right or wrong to make a judgement whether someones chosen lifestyle fits within the box of what one thinks is acceptable.!..How a member chooses to live and enjoy any form of BDSM..or anything else is a matter for their own conscience. At the end of the day..is'nt Read more… a members happiness and fulfilment the most important thing.Whether it is for Love or for money...does it really matter.!Whatever type of relationship one has , be it with a Dom or a loving partner , whether one pays..or not..It is up to the individuals concerned..nobody else.!..Cassie

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Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in BDSM Forum
  • 23.07.2018 15:48:21
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A really silly question , but when one receives a spank...what doesit mean...
What does it mean..?...I checked my spanks for the first time since I joined...So many...Really unsure what to do...!...Help..I do not want to offend anyone if anyone expected a reply to a Spank..!..Cassie
LikeNotto, Firewitch · 11 Replies
Firewitch
Firewitch Spanking 😈♥️😈 Spanking 😈♥️😈
Like · 24.07.2018 9:33:46
Mrkonnekshunface
Mrkonnekshunface ➦Mrkonnekshunface quote leocadio:❝@Cassie34 Indeed, the 'Spank' feature is a way to flirt on Fetish.com and @Mrkonnekshunface explains it pretty well. :) ❞
Happy to help ✌ ➦Mrkonnekshunface quote leocadio:❝@Cassie34 Indeed, the 'Spank' feature is a way to flirt on Fetish.com and @Mrkonnekshunface explains it pretty well. :) ❞
Happy to help ✌
Likeleocadio, Cassie34, Firewitch · 23.07.2018 17:52:07
leocadio
leocadio @Cassie34 Indeed, the 'Spank' feature is a way to flirt on Fetish.com and @Mrkonnekshunface explains it pretty well. :) @Cassie34 Indeed, the 'Spank' feature is a way to flirt on Fetish.com and @Mrkonnekshunface explains it pretty well. :)
LikeMrkonnekshunface, Cassie34, Firewitch · 23.07.2018 17:50:47
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Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 23.07.2018 15:21:17
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  • Single
What's in a name?

I love my my name Cassie...how it came about is a really lovely story...I hope you think so too. !..
My Fiancee decided to write down all the Qualities she liked in me and make up a name from the first letters of each quality she wrote down...Without any alterations ...Cassie came up...letter by Read more… letter...
That was it...I am now known as Cassie..!

Cassie34
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  • 09.07.2018 16:37:32
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  • London
  • Single
MUSIC makes me want to get KINKY.

SirPiggy...you got there before me..!,,Great minds think alike..!

Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 09.07.2018 16:36:30
  • Male (43)
  • London
  • Single
MUSIC makes me want to get KINKY.

For me...It has to be Walk on the Wild side by Lou Reed....It set me on a yet unfulfilled journey of self discovery..! Tracks by Led Zeppelin...Dark side of the Moon...all have a real connection to how I feel about myself..!...it is funny how songs that have no direct influence as to how one Read more… feels can still have a way of making us more aware of who we are..!..Not sure about the spelling but Vienna...is one song that makes me tingle ..!...Cassie

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Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 09.07.2018 16:23:26
  • Male (43)
  • London
  • Single
Self care

Scented candles...mood lighting and a massage using aromatherapy oils works wonders..if no one is to hand to give you a massage....use an oil burner...but be careful...oils are very potent..!...buy a book on how to use the oils...important...failing that...in this weather...ice cream and Read more… strawberries..Put a large dollop of ice cream on your tummy with a strawberry on top ...make sure your hands can't reach ...and have fun....Music as someone else mentioned is another...Cassie

Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in BDSM Forum
  • 03.07.2018 15:29:22
  • London
Are TV'S or transgendered looked at outcasts..
Alot of the time I feel as if I am living in a world that nobody understands..To have feminine traits is not something you develop..it is something that one is born with that struggles to come to the surface..!..Just because we have a feminine side to us is NOT a reason to ignore us ..we still have Read more…needs that need to be fulfilled..It is so difficult to make close friends which begs me to ask the question...are we miss understood..Sometimes I feel I would be better off if I admitted I was gay...Gays seem to have much more of an opportunity to meet like minded..!..Whereas we do not..What is everyone scared off...we are supposed to be living in an enlightened age...Really..?..Cassie..Accept me for who I am..Accept me for my Loves..Accept me trying to be true to myself..Cassie
Likesissywananbe, Rubberdraws · 3 Replies
Stinkyassworship
Stinkyassworship By many. But not me. I love them By many. But not me. I love them
LikeCassie34 · 04.07.2018 5:11:05
MsJax We all have needs that we would like fulfilled, we all feel ignored or overlooked sometimes, and we all have our own likes and dislikes, turn ons and turn offs, shallow ones included, I suspect most of us have been rejected for some of the most pathetic reasons at least once or twice, you're no Read more… different to anybody else, I think you're overthinking this. I'm quite sure some will dismiss you out of hand in the Exact same way someone will be rejected because their too fat, too short, too hairy, too thin, too tall, bald, ginger, too old, too young, toes the wrong shape, toys too big or not big enough, and so on and on ..you're attracted to who your attracted to..it's as simple as that, whether the attraction is physical or intellectual, whether it grows from friendship or otherwise.
You say accept you for who you are, I believe the majority do..return that favour, accept if someone's not interested in you it's not necessarily because of how you identify your gender..and if it is, actually it's as valid a reason for rejection as any other.
LikeCassie34, sissywananbe · 03.07.2018 18:38:22
MileyK
MileyK I don't know? I've been out for a year now and people seem to resonate more with my authentic self than how I used to be. There's tonnes of people who understand. Go to Pride, get to know the scene, support groups etc. This kind of place is accepting but also really busy and some people get overlooked, it probably has nothing to do with you being trans hun. I don't know? I've been out for a year now and people seem to resonate more with my authentic self than how I used to be. There's tonnes of people who understand. Go to Pride, get to know the scene, support groups etc. This kind of place is accepting but also really busy and some people get overlooked, it probably has nothing to do with you being trans hun.
LikeSleepyCat · 03.07.2018 16:04:31