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Gender Man
Age 43
Status Single
Height 175cm
Weight 88kg
Body shape Average build
Eye colour Green
Hair colour Blond
Hair length Middle
Beard 5 o'clock shadow
Orientation Straight
Ethnicity Caucasian white
Origin England
Pubic Hair Shaved
Body hair None
Zodiac signs Sagittarius
Glasses
Smoker
Tattoos
Piercings
I can speak English
German
Polish

About me

Description

Hi...My name is Richard...I have a very gentle nature....easy to talk to....understanding and get on alot better with females than males....I am very young in heart and do not look my age....Thank you Mum....!....One relationship.....I fell in love with a women I used to see every day in Purley...Our eyes always met....when passing by....Purely by chance...having a Lunch time meal.....she walked in....Started chatting...found out she was in a relationship with another woman...Could not get her out of my mind....Forward wind... one evening two close female friends and alot of wine.Suggestion from them.......Change your look...I did...subtle.....but it worked...it brought out a Feminine side of me that I never knew I had.....When I used to go clubbing I had a very Androgynous look and now that desire has come back....fond memories.....but...a more grown up and Stylish version and more subtle....I love it....Lack alot of confidence in going out locally.....Never wore a dress and do not think Iwould...!....Women say that I have developed a style which is stylish.....We were engaged and due to be married...sadly ...she was killed by a drunk driver .a long time ago...I have a lovely home....a beautiful 3 year old King Charles Cavalier.....and am looking for friendship..with kinky benefits and a love of my kinks....I honestly connect really well with females and that is really due to the relationship I had...
I love cooking....looking after my Garden.....Photograhy...Barbercues at home....Movies...at home.....Listening to Music....I was brought up on Pink Floyd...that era...although I have varied tastes....I also enjoy playing Backgammon....but have not played for a very long time..! really miss female company and would love to meet someone locally who would make me feel comfortable with how my relationship changed my life...I do not want to change sex...or anything like that...but I am finding it a real struggle to cope with the feminine side that my previous relationship brought out in me...You will feel very comfortable talking to me about...Clothes...Make up...Hair
Manicures...Etc....I do not know why....But I always seem to make a connection with females...even though on first meeting there is a nervousness as to whether I am genuine...and not hiding anything..Understandable....My childhood friends are spread all over the world....and the only contact i have is through the internet...Yes ...I am lonely....and really miss female company...I have been as honest as I can be....and I do not think i have missed anything out,...If I have...I will try to include it as I fill in all the info..
All I will add iat this moment is that my Fiancee to be had quite a few items from her relationship....that she said would go a long way to introducing me to understanding what she enjoyed...in our developing relationship..that she would love me to Try and Wear at home...never got to that stage...Apart from a pair of 6.5 pink ballet pointe shoes she bought for me ..which I have worn a few times...I still kept a few other items..which I have never tried..!
She wanted to call me Cassie....I do not know how much you know about mac computers and Siri...but whenever I speak to my computer she now calls me Cassie...!..It has a nice ring to it..........I am about 5 foot 8 inches tall...
getting back...very quickly to being slim....not overweight...but not happy with my weight.....Now. just over 13...stone...Green eyes....very pretty feet....more female than male...I am determined to get back to a weight I was always happy with...about 10 to 11 stone...!...I do have a male side to me as well...which I am happy with....but how to combine both Female and Male traits is something I am really struggling with...Do I call myself Richard Or Cassie...Up to you..Once I activate my account please keep on coming back as i will update and explain things better..!.Never done anything like this before...!...I love the feel of soft fabrics ...have a very stylish dress sense...not my opinion but comments from my
hair stylist first visit.......the salon where I had my eyes done...and even from the nail salonn where I have my nails done.....the comments did take me by surprise...but it made me realise that life is too short..!...and now...what lies ahead...?...I feel as if I have alot of catching up to do...!...I do smoke...Not alot and only in the Garden..
but I would love to give up..especially for a female....

Fantasies

I do not really know as I never got the chance to find out...All I can i can say is that she had a desire to have me helpless in her control.She really had a love of Corsets.......but very gentle in her approach.....I have to admit that I am still very curious
.....and want to find out how it feels. to be helpless wearing a very restrictive hobble corset...?....Friendship is really very important to me and an understanding of how difficult it is for me to cope with a feminine side to me that my previous relationship...has brought to the surface...I have a very curious nature...and quite a few fantasies..
which are a result of drinking too much wine with my fiancee...
Kinky...Most definitely....Daring....Worryingly so...!.......
You know the saying....Anticipation can sometimes be better than the event....It is something I would love to find out if it is really true...I would really hope that the pleasure is better than the anticipation..!
I would like to make it very clear that although i have mentioned my fiancee quite a few times ...it is only because of what it brought out in me ...and of what I could of found out about what made me feel sexy and sensual..
The best way I can explain it ...it was to be an introduction to a very Kinky world...!...Something I would now love to explore and enjoy...with the right female...!.... Having my eyelashes ...eyebrows etc... done..French manicure as well....Hair ....is left up to the imagination of a very young talented female stylist....so you will have to wait for a photo....Please see the rest of my profile....before making a decision..!

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Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in Playroom
  • 14.12.2017 16:28:57
  • London
What do Dreams really mean?
Are dreams an escape from reality or a possible clue as to how your second life will start?
Over the last 2 or 3 months...my dreams have been about waking up as a highly sexed,really sexy looking with a very sexy voice young female!There are variations of the dream but only to do with situations Read more…that I would find myself in!
I am beginning to believe that there is an after life,and would give anything for my dreams to come true.Where I would draw the line is making a pact with the devil.I would prefer to go to Heaven than suffer eternal damnation for wanting to wake up as a female.
If you believe in an after life,do you think it is possible that your dreams can be posted as a message ?
Cassie
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in Playroom
  • 08.12.2017 21:40:10
  • London
What is missing in your life..?
For me it is friendship a way to express myself in company who feel the same,whether male of female.To be able to chat,to discuss everything and anything! To have a sleep over, wake up up with one hell of an headache but not regret the previous evening which resulted in my hangover!
As far as I am Read more…concerned I want and am looking for a normal kinky friendship...why is it so difficult?..
.I checked my photo ratings after quite a while and was really shocked by the ratings....really surprised....has done my confidence one hell of a lot! Thank you! But , are members afraid to send me messages or have I made a cock up of my settings ...ignore lists etc...that I am not receiving any messages...Can anyone advise?
There must be so many members who are lonely...in not being able to share and enjoy their chosen lifestyle , but keep it to themselves...Do not let that stop you from contacting members!,...We only have one life that we can be sure about..!..We should make the most of it and to hell with what society expects from us.!...Cassie
Victoriasponge
Victoriasponge Hi cassie, when i try to message you i get a notice saying.... you can only accept msgs from members with a message rating of two or over. This might be the problem honey x Hi cassie, when i try to message you i get a notice saying.... you can only accept msgs from members with a message rating of two or over. This might be the problem honey x
Like · 09.12.2017 8:52:48
Charmane
Charmane Lovely comment cassie yes we must talk etc about our kinks and fantasies enjoy what u like doin etc i like havin fun with gay tvs etc and its great fun cassie. Lovely comment cassie yes we must talk etc about our kinks and fantasies enjoy what u like doin etc i like havin fun with gay tvs etc and its great fun cassie.
Like · 09.12.2017 7:35:34
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in Playroom
  • 03.12.2017 1:45:00
  • London
Missing Kink Friendships
I am missing friendship with individuals who are part of this fetish scene.No one seems to live locally to me. Just to be able to ring a friend.suggest...fancy watching a movie...a takeaway....or dress up and go walkies...with someone who lives a few minutes away seems an impossible dream!
I do Read more…have friends who are very close....but what I miss most of all are kinky friends..Do I need to move from my lovely home or do I hope that eventually someone will contact me who is local to me?Are other members in the same situation, missing the ideal friendship..?..Cassie
LikeLogo, Robustlove · 8 Replies
Cassie34
Cassie34 Until you mentioned it...I never really thought about it..Despite all my posts and comments...giving the impression I am at ease with company..I too am quite shy...it takes alot for me to feel comfortable and relaxed in new company..! Cassie Until you mentioned it...I never really thought about it..Despite all my posts and comments...giving the impression I am at ease with company..I too am quite shy...it takes alot for me to feel comfortable and relaxed in new company..! Cassie
Like · 06.12.2017 19:35:17
Luke155
Luke155 I am quite and a bit shy, I do have trouble making friend's. I have learnt alot being on here. I am quite and a bit shy, I do have trouble making friend's. I have learnt alot being on here.
LikeCassie34 · 06.12.2017 19:18:34
DADDYDAVE ➦DADDYDAVE quote Cassie34:❝I am missing friendship with individuals who are part of this fetish scene.No one seems to live locally to me. Just to be able to ring a friend.suggest...fancy watching a movie...a takeaway....or dress up and go walkies...with someone who lives a few minutes away seems Read more… an impossible dream!
I do have friends who are very close....but what I miss most of all are kinky friends..Do I need to move from my lovely home or do I hope that eventually someone will contact me who is local to me?Are other members in the same situation, missing the ideal friendship..?..Cassie❞
Hello Cassie34 ..I'm from Basildon I thought most ppl on here are from Germany your the first I've seen from Croydon ... Lol
LikeRobustlove, Cassie34 · 05.12.2017 6:35:39
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in Playroom
  • 02.12.2017 8:52:00
  • London
Embarrassment
I have a few close friends who are not involved or part of the fetish scene.!.When they come round to spend an evening at my home , the comments about what I am wearing or how I look are really complimentary but when it comes to going out with the same friends , it is really obvious that they are Read more…uncomfortable with my overall appearance. I do not know how to cope with this.
I want to be myself I have struggled for years to get to a stage where I feel good about myself , how I look etc...How far should I go in keeping these friendships going...or do you think I should look for friends who are part of this community? Are my so called friends two faced with their honesty.I had a chat -as one does with a hairdresser-and she said that a true friend would be supportive and would not be ashamed to go out in public in my company. What is really lovely...is that she always stops to chat when she sees me...and even joins me for an early morning coffee.!...Any advice...Cassie
PatientTraveller
PatientTraveller Cassie34,
I'm not sure of the time frame from the start of your own life change and the rate that you are making changes.
Your changing, your friends are changing, your family is changing and the world is changing and all these changes are happening at different paces.
What I would advise is giving Read more… your friends and family time to change as well....it will be stressful and frustrating.
GOOD FRIENDS
You will have some good friends that will struggle to accept your change, it's mainly their problem as they will not know how to adjust straight away, it's not not like flipping a switch from one state to another. Good friends will need time to understand your change and accept you fully, this will be difficult for you as well as your friends, but good friends will learn, adjust and accept, give them the benefit of the doubt and time for them to change and adjust as well.
What I would advise you to do is keep an open mind and not judge your friends too quickly and condemn them too quickly. Remember your making a change and good friends need to adjust as well. You'll going to get lots of questions, some that will make you shake with laughter and others with anger.....but they will be trying figure you and themselves.
BAD FRIENDS
On the other side of the coin, there are bad friends, we all have them in our lives, they take more than they contribute and the odds are you've known that they have to go for sometime. You know they won't change, adjust or accept your change, to be fair they didn't really accept you before you started your journey, bad friends wanted you to fit into their lives.
ODD FRIENDS
Beware there is always those friends that will be like a cats on a hot tin roof, don't reject straight away as they are usually the one that help you when things are at their darkest.
GIVE YOURSELF TIME
Give your some time to sort out the good from the bad, then you can decide who are good friends and make time for them as they do you, healthy relationships are the key to a happy life.
Like · 03.12.2017 0:51:06
Cassie34
Cassie34 It is a shame...but if the moderators allow a topic or post...I might get somewhere..!....It will be more of an S.O.S...than a serious topic...but..! Cassie It is a shame...but if the moderators allow a topic or post...I might get somewhere..!....It will be more of an S.O.S...than a serious topic...but..! Cassie
Like · 02.12.2017 19:29:59
Victoriasponge
Victoriasponge Shame you don't live closer cassie, id go out dressed with you and my mrs and her friend would join in, they love it when i dress, they take me shopping and all sorts. I havnt been able to go shopping dressed yet but im nearly there and looking for friends like us to go with. Hang in there, i was in boots earlier chatting to the no. 7 girls about makeup and crossdressing and they were really good so i think some people just need time to get used to it. Xxx Shame you don't live closer cassie, id go out dressed with you and my mrs and her friend would join in, they love it when i dress, they take me shopping and all sorts. I havnt been able to go shopping dressed yet but im nearly there and looking for friends like us to go with. Hang in there, i was in boots earlier chatting to the no. 7 girls about makeup and crossdressing and they were really good so i think some people just need time to get used to it. Xxx
LikeCassie34 · 02.12.2017 17:26:47
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in Playroom
  • 30.11.2017 1:00:36
  • London
Are you scared to wear what you want to wear?
I go through so many emotions when deciding what to wear when I venture out. My thoughts are always t how will the general public react and think about how I look and what I am wearing..I go out...and I cannot help trying to analyse what the general public are thinking when they see me.!..For Read more…me..going out is like leaving a safe environment where I can be myself and then letting the world know this is me...Panic sets in as soon as I am in a public place..It is a sad thing to admit , but , I keep a change of clothing in my car , which defeats my efforts to come out as to who I am.and how I want to dress.! I am scared of being verbally abused or insulted...being asked are you a woman or man..!..I do get alot of compliments from women...but how men react and the comments I have had to endure are really having a major effect on my confidence.!...I feel that one day I will be set upon because of to trying to lead my life in a way that I am comfortable with.!..I do not want to conform to what is expected how a male should look or act...but the social pressure to do so , is , so intense..!...Cassie
LikeHeelfetish · 3 Replies
Cassie34
Cassie34 Hi..For someone who is not facing the same challenges...your reply is brilliant...A massive thank you.!What I will say is that women are much more open and appreciative of the effort one makes in appearance ..but your average male...judges the character of a individual by how one looks and Read more… acts.!..There was a post or comment a while ago about how one would label oneself...I have never thought of myself as belonging to any particular category...but I feel as if I am being labeled by the general public. when I go out...But anyway...I love your comments...So helpful..!Cassie.You might like another topic I am thinking about posting tonight...Embarrassment...A follow on from this post...
Like · 30.11.2017 15:55:32
PatientTraveller
PatientTraveller I do not like that others force their views or their expectations on others, take pride in knowing that your one of the "champions of change" and the world is changing (slowly....too slowly...but it is changing). Even men are starting to wear make up more....you'd be surprises how many billions are Read more… being invested in social change by corporations for mens fashions, makeup and skin care, can you imaging one day men wearing thigh high boots...change is happening and be proud that your part of it.
Learn to enjoy the complements and think on them more and brush off the insults.....you'll find in time that your wasting energy and braincell thinking about insults....life is to short, be selfish and do what makes you comfortable, happy and complete.
Panic will be normal in public spaces, I'll be honest I'm not facing your challenges, but take baby steps....publics spaces change constantly, early in the morning ppl are either hungry, trying to get to work or both; their minds are else where....use the herds mentality to your advantage and change the time and duration in public that suits you building confidence.
If your really stuck, think about "Eddie Izzard" he wears what he wants and when he wants......dressing as a man when it suits him, dressing as a woman when it suits him and even mixing the dress of men and women...and he done this before he became famous.......shows that things do not need to be a straight line from A to B......some lateral crazy thinking can help you have fun in discovering who you want to be.
Again focus on what you want instead of worrying about what others expect you to be.....be selfish and live.
LikeVictoriaBlisse, Cassie34 · 30.11.2017 4:35:49
Heelfetish
Heelfetish My opinion is all that matters, if people got a issue, there shit! Wear what ever your happy with? My opinion is all that matters, if people got a issue, there shit! Wear what ever your happy with?
LikeCassie34 · 30.11.2017 1:25:54
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in Playroom
  • 27.11.2017 0:12:53
  • London
Why are we who we are..?
Is it to do with how we have been brought up...or is it to do with what we experienced at a young age...or what we witnessed ....No matter who we are....something must of had an influence . For me..I have mentioned it in some of my previous posts....all it takes is one memorable event, an Read more…experience, to have a major influence as to what direction ones life takes...Is one more likely to be influenced at a young age or when one is older and can choose or decide whether one wants to explore something which for whatever reason has an attraction. Whichever way you look at it..I do not think one can deny that something in ones past has had an influence...What do members think , can you remember any particular experience etc...that has led you to become who you are..?
Cassie.
Likekimrichards, Charmane · 15 Replies
HexThePup
HexThePup For me, submission is a release for my day to day stress. The rare time i do get to have that Kind of fun, my responcabilities and the expectations of people around me are gone. The only thing that matters is that one man looking down at me on my knees telling me that i have been good or bad.
but that first time i had that release when i was 21 or so was the first time i knew true peace in my life with no conflics or stress to spoil the moment For me, submission is a release for my day to day stress. The rare time i do get to have that Kind of fun, my responcabilities and the expectations of people around me are gone. The only thing that matters is that one man looking down at me on my knees telling me that i have been good or bad.
but that first time i had that release when i was 21 or so was the first time i knew true peace in my life with no conflics or stress to spoil the moment
Like · 14.12.2017 15:23:24
Charmane
Charmane Hiyar cassie i do that as well if i see a woman in a tight mini or tights stockings and heels i dress up like it and it makes me horney mmmm x Hiyar cassie i do that as well if i see a woman in a tight mini or tights stockings and heels i dress up like it and it makes me horney mmmm x
LikeCassie34 · 03.12.2017 6:58:41
Cassie34
Cassie34 You know what..I still do...not young girls , but grown up women. , wishing I could look and feel like they do..!.....Cassie You know what..I still do...not young girls , but grown up women. , wishing I could look and feel like they do..!.....Cassie
Like · 02.12.2017 19:52:25
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Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 24.11.2017 19:20:43
  • Male (43)
  • London
  • Single
Fetish Wear | What’s Your Fantasy Clothing?

Wow..A topic that gives me goose pimples all over just thinking about how to post a reply....I love it..Love it...An unexpected opportunity to tell the world...Ok...fellow members..Cassie

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Cassie34
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  • 24.11.2017 18:56:21
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  • London
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Cassie34
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  • 24.11.2017 0:52:51
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Honesty when one plays.

Hi..Can someone tell me what is a Vanilla relationship...My original post was about how one would cope with admitting ones kinky side to a partner ....whether one should be honest and hope that the partner would understand how important it was to admit ones kinks..!...As soon as one mentions Read more… anything that does not conform to what a partner expects in a normal relationship Alarm bells start ringing..!...my point is..how can one introduce ones partner to a kinky lifestyle if he or she has no knowledge or experience of this type of lifestyle...How can one break down the barriers that society has deemed that anything out of the ordinary is not acceptable .!...If you love your partner and want to spend the rest of your life with him or her...but are keeping to yourself your kinky side...is that a good thing .?it is all well and good to talk about honesty...but would you risk losing someone that means the world to you..!.Cassie

Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in Playroom
  • 23.11.2017 16:22:31
  • London
Birthdays...
Do you feel that as every year goes by...you are disappointed that everything you hoped would come true..has not..!..Is time passing by so quickly that you are playing catch up and still not getting any where....It is my birthday tomorrow...25 th..and I feel that I have let so many opportunities Read more…that could of changed my life pass me by....Is a Birthday a sad reminder of what could of been , or an inspiration to look forward to celebrating your next Birthday knowing that one has full filled one or more long standing wishes , desires..Cassie...Happy Birthday to me...from me..
LikePatientTraveller, Josephosieand 1 more… · 5 Replies
callipygian
callipygian Sometimes it is best to get a belated birthday greeting!
Fetches coat.............. Sometimes it is best to get a belated birthday greeting!
Fetches coat..............
LikeCassie34 · 30.11.2017 17:38:18
Cassie34
Cassie34 No details..but a thank you to the Support team...Means a lot...Cassie No details..but a thank you to the Support team...Means a lot...Cassie
LikeVictoriaBlisse · 26.11.2017 23:10:57
Cassie34
Cassie34 You have such a unique understanding and a way of explaining things that I have a problem with trying to explain..!.you look too young to have such a depth of knowledge...I agree 100 % with your post.Thank you for the wishes...which will lead to a very interesting topic posted later on this Read more… evening ,..still deciding a headline...but it will include the word presents..An honest answer...I know you always give an honest answer...but this might make you think...When you reach your next birthday....will you think of it as 'I am a year older "...or I am only one day older..Does that way of thinking apply to other members as well.?..cassie
Like · 24.11.2017 19:14:44
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in BDSM Forum
  • 22.11.2017 14:55:28
  • London
Honesty when one plays.
This post has been inspired by something a couple outside a coffee shop were arguing about.Everybody close by could hear.In a relationship , how important is it to be totally honest with your partner in admitting what you Love , Enjoy....or , what you really do not enjoy? Personally, I do not know Read more…whether I would have the courage to admit all of the above , or to mention a few that were important to me. Developing trust and taking it a step at time. Finding the right moment to bring up a particular subject seems to be the best way but, there is still the worry of not knowing how ones partner would react.
A relationship works if there is an understanding of each other. How does one get to that stage if one is worried that admitting the truth could lead to a relationship ending? Could that be a reason why members turn to a Dom....to keep their own relationship healthy? ..Cassie
LikePatientTraveller, Robustlove · 3 Replies
Cassie34
Cassie34 Hi..Can someone tell me what is a Vanilla relationship...My original post was about how one would cope with admitting ones kinky side to a partner ....whether one should be honest and hope that the partner would understand how important it was to admit ones kinks..!...As soon as one mentions Read more… anything that does not conform to what a partner expects in a normal relationship Alarm bells start ringing..!...my point is..how can one introduce ones partner to a kinky lifestyle if he or she has no knowledge or experience of this type of lifestyle...How can one break down the barriers that society has deemed that anything out of the ordinary is not acceptable .!...If you love your partner and want to spend the rest of your life with him or her...but are keeping to yourself your kinky side...is that a good thing .?it is all well and good to talk about honesty...but would you risk losing someone that means the world to you..!.Cassie
Like · 24.11.2017 0:52:51
Robustlove
Robustlove Hi there Cassie. I cannot speak for other Dominant males or females – however I think they would agree – that in any relationship, be it a D/s relationship or a vanilla relationship; honesty with yourself and your partner is not only vital but the only way you can actually form a good relationship Read more… with a solid basis for a lasting longer term relationship.
Now obviously context is everything, and your context seem to be asking this question about and regarding more vanilla and non D/s or BDSM types of relationships. I may be wrong about this so feel free to correct me if this is not the case. Now what it seems that you are talking about is not only honesty but openness. You can have all sorts of fantasies and desires that you don’t necessarily share with your partner and keeping them to yourself is not so much about a lack of honesty as doing so is not lying, but it is more about a lack of openness and feeling comfortable enough to be open, be yourself and share yourself and your fantasies fully with your partner. Now obviously in the context of vanilla relationships you would not expect to be able to open up and share every kinky fantasy and your deepest and darkest sexual desires straight away and before you have built any trust or understanding of each other. However any relationship in the kink or vanilla world should be based around thing like mutual respect, trust and as such your partner should never judge you or become judgemental of you for simply opening up and sharing yourself fully. If anyone does react badly to this opening up and sharing yourself fully, then it speaks volumes more about them and their issues or hang-ups than it does about the person opening up.
Now for me there is a difference between bravery and courage. Bravery is about admitting and facing up to your fears and true courage is about overcoming them. So you are brave enough to admit that you have a varied and kinky fantasy life all you need to do is take that one step further and open up about your fantasies to any of your partners and you’ll find that a single act of courage like that will help to strengthen your will and make you even more courageous in the future and also happier within yourself for simply having the courage to be open and honest about who you are with anyone.
There is always a risk of rejection in these type of situations as you have mentioned, but I would rather live my life to the fullest extent by taking such risks and owning the consequences than living in a safe bubble where I may never get to truly be myself or do any of the things that I want to do. This reminds me of a great quote from the sadly departed Bruce Lee, “It’s better to live life a broken piece of jade than to live as useless clay”.
➦Robustlove quote Lord_Blacklight:❝When I have a sub I always offer her what is known as a "safe zone". In this she can admit or express anything she wishes with the knowledge it will be heard and listened to without judgement. By doing this, trust is built and what may have been a fear before could turn into a joint venture or one of the parties expressing their desire or not to go down such a path. I have said it before but communication is key. What if one is losing out because the other fears expressing to? The moment communication stops the relationship be it vanilla or otherwise will fall. Find your way. A neutral zone or a safe place and external the trust of you need it in return. Nothing in life is guaranteed, but what you fear Amy be one of the greatest things you ever experience. No risk no reward no gain.❞
Well said Lord_Blacklight and totally in synch with my thinking as well.
LikeCassie34, scarllettand 1 more… · 23.11.2017 8:33:34
Lord_Blacklight
Lord_Blacklight When I have a sub I always offer her what is known as a "safe zone". In this she can admit or express anything she wishes with the knowledge it will be heard and listened to without judgement. By doing this, trust is built and what may have been a fear before could turn into a joint venture or one Read more… of the parties expressing their desire or not to go down such a path.
I have said it before but communication is key. What if one is losing out because the other fears expressing to? The moment communication stops the relationship be it vanilla or otherwise will fall.
Find your way. A neutral zone or a safe place and external the trust of you need it in return.
Nothing in life is guaranteed, but what you fear Amy be one of the greatest things you ever experience. No risk no reward no gain.
LikeRobustlove, ixChel, SirsSubmissiveLittleand 2 more… · 22.11.2017 16:58:20
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 21.11.2017 18:25:08
  • Male (43)
  • London
  • Single
Shocking! Who likes to play with Electric?

Reading all the comments makes me wish I had the courage to try any form of electro play....But being on medication for a heart murmur , I am worried that I would be taking a risk....Having said that ....I am going to have to use my imagination and rely upon members descriptions of how it Read more… feels...Enough said...Cassie

Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in Playroom
  • 18.11.2017 20:33:30
  • London
Colours..?
As a male my love of colours was limited to combinations of black , white , dark brown , cream..since my hormone levels went crazy...I now have a love of pale pink....delicate colours....that I would not of even considered before..what I am wondering is whether my very high levels of female hormones have any influence as to why I have a love of more feminine colours now..!...or is it to do do with accepting and feeling more comfortable with my feminine side.,Cassie..
LikeLucky5656, Robustlove, PrincessNiffy · 4 Replies
Charmane
Charmane Hiyar cassie i think its to do with yur fem side and the colours u like r bringing u out mmmm xxx Hiyar cassie i think its to do with yur fem side and the colours u like r bringing u out mmmm xxx
LikeRobustlove · 22.11.2017 6:21:04
Cassie34
Cassie34 Hi...I do like your reply....I did think about asking this question in the way you have suggested....but was unsure whether such a direct approach would be Ok..?..My love of different colours ..I can honestly say started at the same time my hormone levels changed..I would imagine that self Read more… confidence also plays a big part in being able to walk out the front door wearing colours that one feels comfortable with..I hope I can explain this point clearly...When I have the courage to wear more feminine colours ..I feel more feminine....The way I act...hand movements etc..are much more Feminine...It changes my whole personality.!...If I did not have a hormone imbalance...but wore a pink shirt...I doubt whether it would have any effect on my mannerisms..
Like · 19.11.2017 18:52:43
Robustlove
Robustlove I would tend agree with Carnelian2, it depends for me on age and experience although a nice deep blue has always been my favourite hue, but I also like deep purples and pearlescent and two-tone mixed colours too. It also depends on context and where the or what the colour is on. In all honesty Read more… Cassie I don't think anyone can really answer your question unless they too have had changes in their own male and female hormone levels as I know many very macho and masculine men who have a liking for pinks and salmon colours in their clothes. Have you asked any of the other transitioned or transitioning Trans people on the site this question, as they may be able to provide more insight?
LikeCassie34 · 19.11.2017 18:08:27
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 created a topic in Playroom
  • 14.11.2017 20:25:13
  • London
Fantasies....
Well...I am hoping that Serena picks up on this....Not willing to explain why...but had one hell of a lot of fun last night about this suggestion....What about a separate platform within the forum...for fantasies to be admitted..,,No matter what...I can start off with 3 very wicked fantasies which Read more…are most probably not possible...but just thinking about them is very...Ahem...exciting....Could be so entertaining...An avenue for members to really admit their ultimate fantasies...An avenue that could become a street...a road..,and Motorway....leading to the possibility of ones fantasies coming true...if other members have access to the platform....Competitions as to whose fantasies are the best...!...The prize ...a Fantasy to come true..!...If it is achievable..!...
Cassie34
Cassie34 Hi...It did not help posting Fantasies when We were recovering from an amazing evening..night...Bonfire , Hog Roast , Wicked Guests...too much Alcohol and some very nosey neighbours.At my home..!..
Erotica is a perfect phrase to use, it explains the topic I wanted to bring up.It now has been Read more… mentioned in the last few posts...It is about letting the " Creative Juices Flow "I did not mean to infer personal Kinks or fantasies but somewhere for members to realise their creative side. I mentioned I have 3 fantasies...they are more like erotic dreams that I have turned into a form of personal mind play..!..I wish they could be fantasies...but they all contain items and elements of Role play and Mind play...that unless one was a Genie or had an empty bottle of alcohol could never become true.I really like R 'S suggestions...it is very much along the lines of what I imagined...Creative erotica writing...imagery...is a wonderful way to express ones self..!
I have such a vivid and wild imagination...and would love to share with other creative members...I wish I knew how to explain why I used the word Fantasy...and not Erotica....I have a published copy of an old fashioned school exercise book...It contains 5 Fantasies....all imaginary..never in a million years ..could be played out...it is incredibly well used ..! I do not know who wrote them...or if they all can be attributed to one writer...,Erotica writing can also be about creating Fantasies... About imagery...has to show a creative side ...I do not think ordinary photos should be included.
The whole point..is to allow members to show their creative side...Anyone can take a selfie etc..it should show an aspect of creativity..Finally...Erotic toys...pro's and con's etc..have nothing to do with creativity...that sort of info and advice is available to all members...within the Forum..cassie
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LikeTinigal86 · 15.11.2017 15:31:51
Robustlove
Robustlove ➦Robustlove quote callipygian:❝Having a very strong visual bias - i'd be happy to see an area for submission of erotic imagery - photos -drawing - visualizations - could include tattoos, piercings anything to create a reaction within the viewer. I'd be happy to submit some of my Read more… imagery.❞
Fantastic idea my friend, and would be a great place to post images of not only erotic art and imagery, but erotic toys and the pro's and con's of using them so that there is a good resource for newbies and beginners.
Like · 15.11.2017 12:24:47
VictoriaBlisse
LikeRobustlove · 15.11.2017 12:09:47
Cassie34
icon-wio Cassie34 wrote something in the forum
  • 14.11.2017 15:03:20
  • Male (43)
  • London
  • Single
Do I need to move?

Doesn't really help..but I know what you mean...What I really miss...is being able to ring a kinky friend...say.....Fancy meeting up for a coffee..or if you are free ...fancy coming round for a take away...watch a movie etc..from my point of view and what I am looking for is not about making a Read more… sacrifice....but to meet a few kinky friends who live fairly close to me...If I was looking for something specific...then yes...I would make the sacrifice...and travel....But not in my situation because I am looking for local friendship....My post was about ..that everyone I really like ..they all seem to be based in and around central London...I am curious why...If I was after something I could not get anywhere else....then I would make the effort...!...I hope you understand where I am coming from...But...Thanks for the encouragement...Cassie