He talks about subs and slaves nowadays being disrespectful and rude to him. What does he expect when he has the above opinion of them?
For his Information - Thinking that a potential sub or slave, is just a 'b*tch with mental baggage', is extremely unlikely to win them over to you... in fact, it's Read more… a major RED FLAG to anyone even remotely interested in you, hence why you're struggling to get one. And before you deny it, we can see on your profile that of the approx. 10,000 messages you've sent out, you've had less than 6000 replies back, which speaks volumes.
There's a word for guys who are angry that they' can't get a woman, oh yeah - In Sells (I know the correct spelling).
Typical of the mindset of the majority of 'old guard' missing the 'good ole days,' he likes to 'express his opinions', no matter how abhorrent. But, because he often cannot back up his arguments, he hates being challenged or scrutinised about them. Hence, why to him/them (majority), anyone who challenges or scrutinises their opinions, is 'woke far left'. So, please consider me, WOKE far left... and proud.
The majority of the 'old guard' held the above similar dinosaur views and opinions as the second guy mentioned, and could not be reasoned with. This is why, THANKFULLY, the 'good ole days are gone.'
The only thing that's constant in life, is change, so you either adapt or dye. (I know the correct spelling, but the filter is getting tedious).

You asked for HONEST advice and I gave it. If you didn't like how it was delivered then you shouldn't have asked for an honest reply. There was no raging or baiting.
Yep, I'm sooooo misogynistic 🙄 that I'm the one who told those here in the UK about 'Clare's Law ' - Google it.
I'm soooooo Read more… misogynistic, that I was one of the few guys on this platform to tell women about the message filter they could use to reduce the amount of dick picks they were getting. Yet the women who were supposed to be looking out for the ***hood here, even though they knew about it, wouldn't tell the other women... Maybe it was because, they liked to complain about getting them, and didn't like anything or anyone that could reduce that, and with it their complaints. But, I digress.
YOU stated on your profile that 'you're a grown ass adult and you make your own choices, and that you didn't care what others think of them'.
Soooo, why are you asking this question then if you're going to make your own choices anyway? Why are you suddenly concerned about what we think?
My advice was 'helpful' and 'honest'. You just didn't like it because it confirmed what you already knew and what you should do.

@Cindershella
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Above, is another quote from your posting. So according to this, by your own admission, the first two Doms were good ones because, they managed her expectations by telling her clearly from the outset that they were not Read more… going to 'love' her. And yet, knowing this, SHE agreed and STILL CHOSE to be with them.
So I'm baffled how in your eyes, they're still the bad guys when they were being honest... and she chose to stay???
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You said that there's different ways of being honest, at least I have been, YOU clearly haven't. All you have done is fluffed up her pillow and given her a false illusion that the problems are with those guys and not her. When the problem really is with her.... SHE PICKED THEM, and by her own admission, TWICE.
If you refuse to re-evaluate your actions, your choices, your decisions when they're not working out, then how is that taking accountability?
Like I've said before, YOU, the subs have the real power in the Kinky verse. YOU literally get to choose the guys, because we vastly outnumber you. YOU choose who gets close to you, and YOU choose who gets in. So if YOU keep making poor decisions, it's up to YOU to own that fact and do something about it.
Clearly for some, accountability, is a dirty word.

What you did was stew pea'd without a contract or some other form of protection.

You got lucky that she/they didn't change their mind about what you did. Because in most countries, had she changed her mind and reported you for reeeeep, you'd be in prison now experiencing for real what she Read more… experienced as fantasy.

@Cindershella - Wow, so you decided to completely ignore her very first sentence wherein she asked for HONEST feedback. Which is exactly what I gave.
Clearly another one who can't and won't take any accountability, or, can face the truth.
Let me remind you, she chose to stay with not one, but TWO Read more… guys who told her straight upfront, from the beginning, that they're not going to love her... TWO.
They didn't try to mislead her, they didn't string her along, they were honest with her from the get go. And she, still chose to stay with them.
She clearly has a type, and she clearly knows that that type is not good for her, and yet, she still pursues that type.
She and you need to be honest with yourselves. If you don't want guys that will treat you that way, then change the type of guys you go for. It really is that simple.
The reality is, in this modern day and age, as subs, YOU control who approaches you, YOU control who gets close to you, YOU literally control what we can and cannot do to you, and there are laws in place to ensure that.
If YOU keep picking the wrong guy, then that's on YOU. Because, men in the Kinky verse outnumber - by a huge margin - the women here. You literally have your pick, so there is little excuse. If you have a type and it's not working for you, then be grown up enough to admit it and change your circumstance. But for heaven's sake, just because you've picked three or four bad guys in a row, stop blaming all the other guys out here. Take accountability and reevaluate YOUR selection and YOUR vetting processes.
In other words, be HONEST with yourself.
But hey, you know what they, "some people would rather be kissed by a lie than sla pped with the truth."

YOU are the problem not them. They've told you upfront that they're not going to love you, yet YOU still chose to stay with them anyway.
That's like deliberately putting your hand in the fire and then complaining that it's burning you.
You're not being too submissive, you're just not taking any Read more… accountability for your choices, and want people to sympathise with a situation that YOU control entirely.
You could easily choose a Dom who'd want to fall in love with you. However, I strongly suspect, after reading your profile, you'd find such a guy boring / uninteresting.
You appear to want a "bad boy" who you hope will change for you. It doesn't work like that.
When you knowingly pick a "bad boy," and they treat you badly, it shouldn't come as a great surprise or shock to you, because that's what attracted YOU to them in the first place.
If you want something different, choose someone different.
YOU picked them. Anyone with a modicum of common sense and actual experience in BDSM and Kink, knows that it's the subs who picks the Doms and not the other way around... despite what our egos would like to think.
To paraphrase the end of what you stated in your profile... 'you're a grown ass adult and you'll make your own choices.'... so, make better choices.

I second this.
I too have never been stood up if I've been video chatting first.
With a video chat you get to pick up all the little cues / signs that tell you if the other person is genuine for you... or not. That is, if you can be honest with yourself and DON'T IGNORE any red flags.
If Read more… someone is not prepared to video chat, then as mentioned previously, walk away, because it means they're not serious about you or having a relationship.

YES, it is selfish to expect a guy who likes blow jobs (BJs) to be okay with NOT getting any.
You either need to find a new partner who categorically states that HE doesn't mind NOT receiving BJs, or, YOU must be okay with your partner getting one elsewhere.
You can't have it both ways.
And I Read more… repeat, you can't expect a guy who enjoys BJs, to be okay with not getting any.
Imagine if he turned around to you and told you that he never really enjoyed giving you any affection - [but you like affection] - and from now on, he is going to stop giving or showing any.
From now on, it would be s-e-x only.
Would YOU stay with him once the affection is withdrawn???
Would YOU appreciate anyone telling YOU that YOU should put up with that and stay?
Because, just like YOU, it's well within HIS rights not to have to do something he doesn't want or like.