Status

Not single

married with Ask me

Personal details

Gender Woman
Age 40
Status Not single
Height 175cm
Body shape Curvy
Eye colour Green
Hair colour Brown
Hair length Long
Origin England
Zodiac signs Libra
Smoker
I can speak English
German

About me

Interested in:

I’m looking for:

Description

As well as being a Fetish.com Community Team Member, I am an erotic author, a Sex Positive Reverend and part of Smut.UK who arrange events for curious and kinky people with a literary bent.

Cheeky wench and good girl in equal measure I have a big heart and an even bigger smile. Variety is the spice of life so I keep my life spicy!

Fantasies

I dream of a world where everyone is accepted for exactly who they are. No judgements or expectations, no need for labels because everyone will be perfectly, wonderfully themselves.

My fantasies are varied and fun, I write lots of them down and publish them for everyone to read. I'm most certainly a masochist and pain makes me a very happy bunny indeed. Pleasure is very good too of course, both together is perfection!

My roles & archetype

My places

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VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse has logged into Fetish.com after being away for some time. Say hi!
  • 22.04.2019 10:19:27
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 07.02.2019 18:34:10
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
Hard limits not respected

It might help to set out the limit in a way that makes it obvious that it really is a very, very important matter.
Something like
"X activity and mentioning/joking about x activity are a hard limit because they act as a trigger for me. If you cross this line it will have Y consequence."
And you Read more… decide the consequence - ending the relationship for example.
Because you deserve to have your limits respected.

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VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 03.02.2019 20:11:39
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
how did you meet your fetish partner?

I met my hubby half my lifetime ago and didn't really have a concept of kinky. We met online. We have always been kinda kinky without even really knowing it.
Since being on the scene I've met all my play partners at play event with one exception. I met him online first and built up a relationship Read more… there before playing.

VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 01.02.2019 10:36:32
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
My first toy. Need specific tips

Mod Note: Remember guys, no links in the forum. Thank you :D

VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 29.01.2019 12:06:49
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
Anything going on in Yorkshire?

I know plenty of stuff goes down in leeds, but I don't know details. Maybe some locals will pop in and comment.
One thing I do know about is an event called cocktails and f*** tales as I'm performing at it. Details can be found on facebook and fetlife. It's a kinky story telling/performance Read more… evening in a cocktail bar called Mook. Next one is the 6th Feb (next Weds) between 7-10.30pm.

VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 26.01.2019 12:31:37
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
FETISH.COM BIRTHDAY PARTY

Sorry you're having issues, the best way to get help is to message support, as they have the technical know how :)
https://fetish.servicecenter.de/en-us/conversation/new

VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 25.01.2019 21:52:06
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
Subs or Doms, who has the control?

It's power exchange, both have power in different ways and within a dynamic that is exchanged between the individuals at play.
And it's an individual thing too, some dynamics will be very centred around giving up control, others might be more about gaining trust or physical sensations...that's Read more… kinda the beauty of D/s. You can tailor it for your dynamic. :)

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VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 25.01.2019 21:46:20
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
New ideas?

I'm a masochist, I've always enjoyed a bit of rough play but I had no clue how much I liked pain until I got onto the scene...about 3 years ago now. Literally my first play event, I discovered I loved being hit with all kinds of different things and kept going back for more!
I love being on the Read more… scene, I get to see and experience so much with my friends that I'd not have a clue about otherwise.

VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 24.01.2019 21:58:19
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
hello

Hello and welcome to Fetish.com :)

VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 24.01.2019 10:02:02
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
How to get more bruises/marks done?

It's something I hear of all the time and I think I take a little bit more to bruise now than I did when I first entered the scene...mind you, I've always taken a fair bit of impact to get any bruising at all on my butt, so it's not a *huge* difference.
But yep, definitely something I hear a lot, Read more… If marks are important to your bottom, then work out some ways to get those. Different implements maybe, different body areas if possible. But be careful not to overstep limits just to achieve marks.
I love my marks and have been known to be disappointed when I don't have any. But I'm working on that. Because it's the experience that matters most, not the marks. And sometimes there's pain deep down and no bruising on the surface and that's good too!

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VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 23.01.2019 11:02:03
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
Done a kink your not into?

Dude, just an FYI. Asking a random person on a random post to do your fetish is not the best way to achieve what you want. It's springing your own personal wants and desires on a person who is engaging in polite conversation with a stranger. It's overly familiar and comes over as creepy.
Want to Read more… succeed in getting an experience of your fetish? Then engage in conversation, make connections with people, maybe learn about stuff that others are into and only when you've hit it off and know you can, ask your question.
And no, me taking time to write this does *not* mean I'm interested in doing your fetish to you. I'm merely making a point to try and help you and others reading this.

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VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 22.01.2019 11:36:45
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
Spotting Scams

Did you get a response at all to your reports? If not, they might not have been investigated fully yet. However, if you're still concerned, feel free to report the profiles again.

VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 19.01.2019 12:52:35
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
Nudism

Being naked is just being naked, I've always loved it at home, but only in the last year or so have gained the confidence to go nude at clubs (there's one I go to with a pool and hot tub) It's freeing to be naked and feel safe/not judged :)

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VictoriaBlisse
icon-wio VictoriaBlisse wrote something in the forum
  • 19.01.2019 12:10:55
  • Female (40)
  • Oldham
  • Not single
How to NOT post a Personal Ad on the Forum.

It seems okay now, the guidelines are at the top of the page, next to the search box

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VictoriaBlisse
  • 18.01.2019 11:44:52
  • Oldham
How to NOT post a Personal Ad on the Forum.
So, as a moderator, my job is to approve the posts that you see here. There are many, many you never see because they break the rules. Most of these are posts that simply read like a personal ad. So, here's my guide to posting without falling into the personal ad trap.
1. Avoid writing a list of Read more…your requirements.
2. Don't add the words 'any women/men in my area want to do this to/with me?'
3. Keep it general! Want to find someone into your kink? Then start a post about your kink which encourages discussion. Ask who else is into it, What people enjoy about it, ask people to tell you their best experiences etc...don't make it all about you.
4. Don't ask for interested women/men to message you...this not only will get a new post rejected it will get comments removed as off topic. The forum is for discussion in the open, not soliciting messages for your inbox.
5. Do give some detail about yourself...but don't list your 'attributes' any mention of measurements, hair/eye colur, height etc will get your post removed as it's clear you're simply advertising yourself, not interested in spurring discussion.
For example, it's fine to say 'I'm really tall and I like to be submissive, how do I get people to see past my size?' but saying 'I'm really tall, with wide shoulders and a butt that is begging to be beaten...are you the Domme who can do that for me?' is not.
If you want to post a personal ad, then go for it. Head to the Dating section and write out your ad. That's the right place for it, not the forum!
Any questions...ask away!
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eyemblacksheep
eyemblacksheep there's some stuff that I think is a little "rookie mistake" - but then some stuff which is either disrespectful (mass bumping of posts), manipulative (starting a thread with the intent on PMing responders) and of course, coming over as desperate is a weak trait. there's some stuff that I think is a little "rookie mistake" - but then some stuff which is either disrespectful (mass bumping of posts), manipulative (starting a thread with the intent on PMing responders) and of course, coming over as desperate is a weak trait.
LikeVictoriaBlisse · 19.01.2019 12:10:55
VictoriaBlisse
VictoriaBlisse It seems okay now, the guidelines are at the top of the page, next to the search box It seems okay now, the guidelines are at the top of the page, next to the search box
Likeeyemblacksheep · 19.01.2019 12:10:55
Asianandwhite
Asianandwhite Couldn't access the rules section before it would so unavailable web page glad it's been posted in a comment Couldn't access the rules section before it would so unavailable web page glad it's been posted in a comment
LikeVictoriaBlisse · 19.01.2019 3:08:52