As well as being a Fetish.com Community Team Member, I am an erotic author, a Sex Positive Reverend and part of Smut.UK who arrange events for curious and kinky people with a literary bent.
Cheeky wench and good girl in equal measure I have a big heart and an even bigger smile. Variety is the spice of life so I keep my life spicy!
I dream of a world where everyone is accepted for exactly who they are. No judgements or expectations, no need for labels because everyone will be perfectly, wonderfully themselves.
My fantasies are varied and fun, I write lots of them down and publish them for everyone to read. I'm most certainly a masochist and pain makes me a very happy bunny indeed. Pleasure is very good too of course, both together is perfection!
It might help to set out the limit in a way that makes it obvious that it really is a very, very important matter.
"X activity and mentioning/joking about x activity are a hard limit because they act as a trigger for me. If you cross this line it will have Y consequence."
And you Read more… decide the consequence - ending the relationship for example.
Because you deserve to have your limits respected.
I met my hubby half my lifetime ago and didn't really have a concept of kinky. We met online. We have always been kinda kinky without even really knowing it.
Since being on the scene I've met all my play partners at play event with one exception. I met him online first and built up a relationship Read more… there before playing.
I know plenty of stuff goes down in leeds, but I don't know details. Maybe some locals will pop in and comment.
One thing I do know about is an event called cocktails and f*** tales as I'm performing at it. Details can be found on facebook and fetlife. It's a kinky story telling/performance Read more… evening in a cocktail bar called Mook. Next one is the 6th Feb (next Weds) between 7-10.30pm.
It's power exchange, both have power in different ways and within a dynamic that is exchanged between the individuals at play.
And it's an individual thing too, some dynamics will be very centred around giving up control, others might be more about gaining trust or physical sensations...that's Read more… kinda the beauty of D/s. You can tailor it for your dynamic. :)
I'm a masochist, I've always enjoyed a bit of rough play but I had no clue how much I liked pain until I got onto the scene...about 3 years ago now. Literally my first play event, I discovered I loved being hit with all kinds of different things and kept going back for more!
I love being on the Read more… scene, I get to see and experience so much with my friends that I'd not have a clue about otherwise.
It's something I hear of all the time and I think I take a little bit more to bruise now than I did when I first entered the scene...mind you, I've always taken a fair bit of impact to get any bruising at all on my butt, so it's not a *huge* difference.
But yep, definitely something I hear a lot, Read more… If marks are important to your bottom, then work out some ways to get those. Different implements maybe, different body areas if possible. But be careful not to overstep limits just to achieve marks.
I love my marks and have been known to be disappointed when I don't have any. But I'm working on that. Because it's the experience that matters most, not the marks. And sometimes there's pain deep down and no bruising on the surface and that's good too!
Dude, just an FYI. Asking a random person on a random post to do your fetish is not the best way to achieve what you want. It's springing your own personal wants and desires on a person who is engaging in polite conversation with a stranger. It's overly familiar and comes over as creepy.
Want to Read more… succeed in getting an experience of your fetish? Then engage in conversation, make connections with people, maybe learn about stuff that others are into and only when you've hit it off and know you can, ask your question.
And no, me taking time to write this does *not* mean I'm interested in doing your fetish to you. I'm merely making a point to try and help you and others reading this.
Being naked is just being naked, I've always loved it at home, but only in the last year or so have gained the confidence to go nude at clubs (there's one I go to with a pool and hot tub) It's freeing to be naked and feel safe/not judged