As well as being a Fetish.com Community Team Member, I am an erotic author, a Sex Positive Reverend and part of Smut.UK who arrange events for curious and kinky people with a literary bent.
Cheeky wench and good girl in equal measure I have a big heart and an even bigger smile. Variety is the spice of life so I keep my life spicy!
I dream of a world where everyone is accepted for exactly who they are. No judgements or expectations, no need for labels because everyone will be perfectly, wonderfully themselves.
My fantasies are varied and fun, I write lots of them down and publish them for everyone to read. I'm most certainly a masochist and pain makes me a very happy bunny indeed. Pleasure is very good too of course, both together is perfection!
I would always say there are 2 people in a conversation and sometimes, people just don't click. Doesn't mean the people are lying, just that you aren't the Dom they're looking for.
Give and take, that's what it's all about, I think.
Hi there and welcome to the forum. Questioning is always a good thing, especially when it comes to all things BDSM.
I just want to share a little of my personal experience with you. I've been on the scene for 2 years, in all that time I've played with far more Doms who are significantly younger Read more… than me (in their twenties) than I have those who are my age and older.
Dominance doesn't come with age. It is brilliant that you're looking to research stuff and ask questions. Make sure you're clued up on all the safety aspects of BDSM and always, always, always be consent aware and you'll be fine.
When I'm looking to play with a Dom, I want to see that they know what they're doing - I want to be asked questions about safe words and limits and possible medical issues etc. I want to see respect.
Hope that helps some!
Hi Ms Curious and welcome to the site. I am myself a Christian, in fact I am a reverend and the people I look over are those who are kinky or who's sexuality is seen as an a front to conservative Christianity.
It is perfectly fine to crave submission and bondage. It's part of what makes you Read more… uniquely you and God created you that way. You are wonderfully made to be exactly who you are!
Dating within the kinky community is a good place to start. There's lots of us Christians within it and you know what, not dating a Christian wouldn't be the end of the world either. Explore your kinks and revel in who you are. There's nothing wrong in that at all <3
Get medical help immediately, it is better to be embarrassed than to risk serious health issues over something like this. Doctors and nurses see all kinds of things, don't put it off any longer.
Financial domination is a legitimate branch of BDSM. BDSM can be many different things to many different people. We want to be welcoming to all kinky people here, that's what we're all about.
We are working to make it easier for financial dominators and other paid service providers to mark their Read more… profiles as such. So it will be easier for the community to recognise them at a glance. You will start to see those changes very soon.
Meanwhile, if any of you have any concerns about a user offering financial services without the gold euro mark on their profile to denote their paid services status then please use the 'report user' button and inform the team. We'll then investigate further.
I think there is a lot of self -reflection and moderation with kink. For those taking a dominant role and those submissive.
Control is a big part of D/s and not just of the Dom over the sub. For every individual involved they make a decision on how much control they're taking or handing over. Read more… Where their limits lie.
It's not for everyone, that's true. But there is a lot to learn about yourself when indulging in BDSM.
Please be assured we at fetish.com are doing our best to make this community safe and fun for everyone. If you have suspicions about another member then please report it to the support team. On every profile there's a 'report profile' button on the left hand side. Click that and send in a message Read more… with as much detail as possible.