Subs, do you care if you're attracted to your dom?

[Da****]

Submissive nature, then everything else, with looks being last among them. It doesn't matter how hot or cool you are to hang out with, if you aren't my type of sub, I'm not interested beyond friendship.

[wp****]

I think a lot of it has to do with a mental connection. When it’s right you can feel that click that tells you that you’re in safe hands and able to give up yourself for a little while.

[Th****]

My attraction is with the connection that is made. Also depends on how initial contact is made. I need conversation that’s deeper than surface level and more than just sex and kink. I have to want to submit, before I can consider it.

[wa****]

Yes I have to be attracted to you

[ki****]

For me it's a lot more about the mental connection. I need something deeper than looks to make me want to submit. Physical attraction doesn't hurt though lol..

[fl****]

The dominant vibe is part of the attraction. But the connection, the feeling of comfort and safety, is what makes me want to submit.

[da****]

For me it's much more of a mental connection. If they're confident in their dominance and *** that's the biggest turn on for me. Their physicality is not really a factor, for me anyway.

[Ro****]

Attraction to me just isn't about looks. It's about emotional maturity, some self discipline in a dom is a must for me, in some form, as well as the ability to communicate effectively. Without those factors, I do not feel safe to be *** in submission, and in turn, any physical attraction becomes null and void. The hottest guy is not attractive to me without those other things. And yes, I have walked away from someone who was highly physically attractive because they lacked in one or more of those areas.

[Deleted Member]

I’m more attracted to a doms mind than anything else.

[ye****]

I need to find him attractive and well groomed, but that doesn't necessarily mean good looking.

[Deleted Member]

Physical attraction matters the least but I won't lie and say it doesn't matter. I'm attracted to a person's personality, actions, and energy first and foremost. I could never submit if there was only physical attraction. A lot of times, a person's personality, actions, and energy will literally dissolve any physical attraction that was there.

[Ki****]

Just like every day life. Looks aren't everything, sure it helps but if personalities dont match and there's no interest, then there's no point doing anything.
It's all what's in the mind that does it. How they excite you. Keep things going. Setting a scene. Learning together.
If you enjoy each other's time and get along well in general. Then you've found someone good.

[St****]

It matters. But it’s more about presentation and attitude. You don’t have to be a traditionally attractive person to be sexy or dominant. Work what you have, own it. Then own me. This is key. You can look the part all day long, but if I don’t believe you’re my dominant it’s harder to be your sub.

[Se****]

Attraction is a wide subject. Physical attraction is a must at first to compel me to talk and interact with my Dom but over time attraction grows and becomes an emotional attraction and that attraction for me is a must and if it is not there then I would walk away and no I would submitting. Submitting for the sake of submitting is not true submission and if it’s not true then why do it. Faking in any aspect of a dynamic benefits no one in the dynamic.

[Ch****]

I am a full service slave. So, my submission is my art. it's literally more than half of who I am. For me, I have to have an attraction on some level. Whether it's physical, intellectual, or emotional, either one would work for me. But then there's the underlying point of energy and trust. If the Dom can not maintain their dominant energy throughout a scene, then I don't trust them. Because a dominant not in control of themselves or the environment we'd share could raise dangers for myself. Additionally, actions will always speak louder than words, so if at any point a Dom would make me question the motives behind the scene, it's an immediate no. I will submit to those who deserve or entice me. Otherwise, you'll be met with one of the worst brat energy having beings in the world.

[kr****]

I absolutely had to be attracted to my Dom. He was amazing on so many levels. He made me feel comfortable with myself and that may be one of the reasons I found him so sexy. it's because I could trust him

[GayPersia]

Mutual sexual attraction between doms/subs are pretty important

[Mi****]

Absolutely

[Do****]

I eat a matte as follows: Confidence, intelligent, energy, then physically.

He must know what he wants, that he deserves it, and goes after it. He knows who he is and where he's going. I have to feel his energy, that electromagnetic *** that draws us to one another. I usually call that a sign to wall the other way. I'm into tall, dark, built men. I can overlook one or two on the list if a man can pick me up and put me where he wants me. 😉

[pi****]

4 hours ago, Dottie2Hottie said:

I eat a matte as follows: Confidence, intelligent, energy, then physically.

He must know what he wants, that he deserves it, and goes after it. He knows who he is and where he's going. I have to feel his energy, that electromagnetic *** that draws us to one another. I usually call that a sign to wall the other way. I'm into tall, dark, built men. I can overlook one or two on the list if a man can pick me up and put me where he wants me. 😉

This . In that order lmao

[ho****]

It matters a great deal to me. A physically attractive woman is a good start, but I tend to find a person even more attractive if I like their personality.

[Pr****]

16 hours ago, houston13381 said:

It matters a great deal to me. A physically attractive woman is a good start, but I tend to find a person even more attractive if I like their personality.

Agreed completely

[mu****]

Yeah lmao. Gotta be hot if ur doing all that crazy stuff to me

[Deleted Member]

As a dom, I can say that for me personally, appearance is totally irrelevant. What attracts me is only obedience and then I have no limit.

[Se****]

For me its all about personality. You could be good looking, but if you are having a conversation, and they say something rude or ignorant, how they are perceived changes. Looks aren't everything.