Subs, do you care if you're attracted to your dom?

[qu****]

It shouldn't, and I can find something that I find attractive about.

[le****]

No I don’t care

[ed****]

Attraction is what brings me to the door. Energy is what will or won't get me to enter it.

[ha****]

Yes

[Deleted Member]

Yes, there has to be attraction of various forms. Above all is intellectual attraction. I have yet to figure out what makes the switch flip inside me that makes me want to submit, but it definitely stems from intense attraction, and not physical attraction.

[Deleted Member]

Yes

[le****]

No attraction no submision more so the mental side than the physical attributes.

[Su****]

How could you not be attracted. To be owned by them makes them attractive, the thought that they believe rightfully that they own you. The physical becomes incredibly appealing at that point and they are the sexiest person known to me. If you are basing your role as a sub/slave on your dims physical appearance first then A) You’re exerting quite a bit of control B) You have to wonder if this is more of a fantasy for you than a lifestyle. That’s just my humble thoughts and what I believe. If you disagree, I totally respect that.

[Kl****]

It's important to me that there's mutual attraction, it's obviously more arousing for both.

[Su****]

That’s the question though, what defines attraction. The age old question, is attraction aesthetic or is it a mental, emotional response, and which is more important in the long term. We all get older, and looks fade, yet many times the loving bond continues to increase, as if physical attraction has been crested, and its importance completely forgotten or seriously diminished.

[Su****]

Physical attraction, at least initially, helps decrease one’s options to a manageable pool of prospects, but is it required, not always. However, a mental and emotional connection is vital if it is to last, prosper and grow. Not the same with physical attraction.

[no****]

Attraction can be a catalyst to anything, however, depending on what you are trying to achieve in any situation, but agreed it may not be just physical. It's all at how you look at whatever you are wanting with an individual. It comes in many ways, it could be what they are bringing to the dynamic over what they bring physically.

[ch****]

I am still learning what it means to be a sub. But I know as a ex-wife and a soon to be wife when both of my partners demanded submission. I have only done this with my partners. I know that I wasn’t willing to submit to my previous husband when he ***fully took power from me. I am a brat and I would rebel about him. It would end in… well a divorce… but this relationship my submission I first challenge him then he accepts the challenge and then I willingly submit

[ea****]

For me mutual attraction is important. Im a bit of a brat myself so I will challenge my.partner before submitting. I have to know that they can and will put me in place

[Su****]

Attraction is important to me. But it’s more about the total package. Everything has to click….emotionally, mentally and physically, I’m not Jenifer Aniston and I don’t expect him to be Brad Pitt.

[lo****]

If there's no attraction what are we doing? You don't have to be gorgeous...but something about you has to make me look twice

[Bu****]

Lust is very important. I want my Dom to lust for me so much be practically loses contril. I want to lust for him and not just for sex so that I feel motivated to be his good boy and submit to him. I am a bit of a brat for other doms who have to spank and fuck me into obedience before I submit willingly. I am loyal to my daddy and I can’t change that.

[fo****]

No I have recently abandoned by a beautiful Mistress,I just want to be owned again, looks, race, gender are all non factor, I just want to be a slave again