Uncommon Kink Suggestions

[Skipling]

I am really new to the BDSM world. I started hooking up with an older dom. He keeps asking me for things I am interested in. I can only bring up things that I've seen in porn. Obviously, bondage, hitting, biting, choking, etc. is appealing and well known. I was just wondering if you guys could recommend anything that isn't particularly known by the "normal" person. I am basically willing to try most stuff once. I say most because, for instance, shit isn't something that I could personally get into. 

[ey****]

I've found a lot of fetishes and kinks are all more common than you think - there's a whole bunch you can browse on this site under Community > List of Kinks and Fetishes

I never see it necessary to try most stuff once, start with what you're particularly interested in.

If I mention something like.... I dunno... Dollification/Human Doll - or - Psychrophilia - (getting aroused watching someone getting cold...) then we're heading rather leftfield.

One of my fetishes I like to see done to ladies is sploshing - which is more common in kink than expected but maybe less known mainstream I guess.

[Deleted Member]

You have a few things there already, maybe break them down abit....

Bondage: what part turns you on the most? What material would be used? Would words be spoken? How would you get restrained, willingly or with a struggle or fight? What will happen when you're restrained? Where would your restrainer be?

Hitting: impact play (proper word), what would be used, hand, flogged, cane, paddle? How hard? What is the motivation on each side? What does after care look like?

Biting: nibbling? Licking? Tasting? Ravaging? Drawing ***? Bruising? Does it include smelling? Clawing? Waiting? Listening? Withdrawing of senses? Sight? Sound? Anticipation....

Choking: hands? Belts? Sudden? Planned? Choking on cock or knickers stuffed in your mouth? Hands over your mouth? Round your neck?

There's so much to explore, you're new, take your time, talk to other subs, know the risks and deepest pleasures of what you're getting into. Time take time, slow down, don't let the wolves eat you... just yet 🔥😈🔥

[Ky****]

you might try asking your dom what he would like to try on you, if you've a hard limit then state that but other than that some dom's like to be given a freer reign, just don't say anything is alright phrase it more as open to experiment and to start with don't be gagged so you can give safe word until you know you'll like something and he'll deliver properly

[Cade]

For most new people, I recommend searching for "BDSM negotiation checklist" in your favorite search engine. This typically produces a way too comprehensive list of various kinks and fetishes that you can peruse and learn from, just being a huge list of activities. 

[Alpha_Primal_Hunter]

Edging

[Alpha_Primal_Hunter]

Suspension

[Alpha_Primal_Hunter]

Fisting

[Alpha_Primal_Hunter]

Chastity

[Ky****]

1 hour ago, Alpha_Primal_Hunter said:

Suspension

that's something that I think many of us crave, but is it something easy to do for an inexperienced dom?

[RA****]

Fire, needles, pervertables, wax, cigar service and play, vacuum beds, sploshing, slime play...... Just a few for starters.....

[RA****]

Certain types of suspension can be done with relatively little experience. You are not going to start with a single point, bit a three point can be done after s bit of training. There ate s number of free online classes to get the idea......but Id wait until you had someone experienced to work with you for your forst suspension.

[ey****]

57 minutes ago, Kymi said:

that's something that I think many of us crave, but is it something easy to do for an inexperienced dom?

I'd highly recommend against it.

there are some great books, peer workshops and online tutorials - but I'd heavily recommend being really confident with 'ground' ties before moving onto suspensions. The consequences of a rope slipping or friction burns is vastly less severe on a ground tie

[Hexy]

I think for new people getting into BDSM and Kink treat it as a competition to be more extreme. But you dont need to be, its to be enjoyed by all involved and thats about it. Just be who you are and play safe

[Ky****]

9 hours ago, Hexy said:

I think for new people getting into BDSM and Kink treat it as a competition to be more extreme. But you dont need to be, its to be enjoyed by all involved and thats about it. Just be who you are and play safe

that's true, from a sub's pov there's always that thought at the back of your mind that if you don't go that little bit further are you letting the side down and being overly entitled which you don't feel is proper play and frightening off/being disloyal to the dom/domme

[ey****]

1 hour ago, Kymi said:

that's true, from a sub's pov there's always that thought at the back of your mind that if you don't go that little bit further are you letting the side down and being overly entitled which you don't feel is proper play and frightening off/being disloyal to the dom/domme

this is a mindset that it's important to break.   I feel there's often a lot of people deliberately put this out as misinformation as a part of manipulation; or people who project their dynamics (or preferred dynamics) onto other people.

So - (with my Dominant hat on) I have things I like and wish to do with subs.  There has to be some ground in what they like and what I like that is fun for me else I'm just doing someone a service topping which is not really for me.   There are things I particularly like and want to do; but lots I enjoy.  I'm not going to turn down an other wise fun experience because the sub (presently) has lines that cross out some of my interests.   

But, I guess that said - if a sub came to me with a list of outlandish fetishes they wanted to try that really didn't interest me or I wasn't going to have fun with then - yeah, I'm not going to play.

But (with my sub hat on) I often do wish to do things to please a Dominant but it has to be someone I want to please - and that perhaps that doing something I'm not particularly keen of *with them* is still fun because it's with them and an opportunity to spend time together.   But, if the relationship is consistently or mostly things I don't like; why am I in this relationship if I'm not enjoying it?   I have better standards in myself than that.

Combining both - then, of course, there are subs who've wanted to try things with me they know I like and want to do; but their reason for wanting to try is in line with the relationship

[qu****]

Stinging nettles are looking nice and stingy at the moment.....😁

[Ky****]

1 hour ago, quietlysure said:

Stinging nettles are looking nice and stingy at the moment.....😁

ooh yes please, 

[Deleted Member]

On 4/2/2020 at 2:19 PM, Kymi said:

that's something that I think many of us crave, but is it something easy to do for an inexperienced dom?

I second Eyem.....its not a thing to try at all! even experienced riggers get incidents 

[Deleted Member]

I think, without being condescend approaching bdsm like a bucket list is the wrong mind set. Ask yourself what you want to embrace that life style then from there see what kind of path you choose. 

[cautiousswitch]

The problem with looking for the super rare activity is that the less common it is the less likely the dom will know how to do it properly.  Unless he's pushing for you to name something unusual he shouldn't be disappointed if you only list common  activities as your interests.

If he suggests something uncommon then discuss it to make sure that you understand it and are comfortable with it before agreeing to do it.  If he pushes for you to suggest something uncommon without having any suggestions of his own I would say he's dangerous and should be avoided.

[Gnutter]

On 4/5/2020 at 9:59 AM, quietlysure said:

Stinging nettles are looking nice and stingy at the moment.....😁

I try this yesterday for first time. And it was great. Stinging nettles must try. And if you like more crasy thing put stem in urethral little.

[Ky****]

36 minutes ago, Gnutter said:

I try this yesterday for first time. And it was great. Stinging nettles must try. And if you like more crasy thing put stem in urethral little.

not sure about that, but I've 'enjoyed' having my panties stuffed with them on occasion-fortunately I always wear skimpy slutty ones so that's not too many nettles- a great argument for not wearing full knickers, as if I needed one lol  

[Kellystorme]

Just found this great forum so hi every one. only recently discovered nettles on the cock and balls. summer uk nettles not very powerful. Young ones the best. WARNING. Very addictive. I have day to myself and I've stroked and stung my cock and balls several times already. as its summer i find the stings wear off in 15-30 mins so go again when faded. The effect seems to build up. cock and balls now all buzzing and tingling and suspect I'm gonna cum without any assistance... or probably any warning....!

[Ky****]

49 minutes ago, Kellystorme said:

Just found this great forum so hi every one. only recently discovered nettles on the cock and balls. summer uk nettles not very powerful. Young ones the best. WARNING. Very addictive. I have day to myself and I've stroked and stung my cock and balls several times already. as its summer i find the stings wear off in 15-30 mins so go again when faded. The effect seems to build up. cock and balls now all buzzing and tingling and suspect I'm gonna cum without any assistance... or probably any warning....!

they're even better on the bum, just like having a tease whip used on you, and best of all if you're tied up and someone else is applying them,