Do All Female Doms Require a Financial Tribute?

[Deleted Member]

If I have to pay a tribute or anything financial i lose interest immediately I want a dom top who is doing it because they enjoy that role and get off on it if im paying it's clearly nit the reason they chose to dom thats a total turn off then on top of it im lowering my standards 99.9% off the time so if be paying for some unattractive who's nit enjoying it mmmmm not hard to say no too.

[reqq1]

same way i feel about paying. i want to be with someone who enjoys the life not someone trying to9 make ***. can buy hookers for that

[Ki****]

It is so odd to me that male "submissives" are allowed to talk so disrespectful of working women and Dommes with standards beyond bedroom in this forum titled "Female Domination" but those women are not allowed to share their side.
It is also sad that censorship on here and on the internet as a whole make it difficult to share educational content on the subject.
I am certain people coming to this thread would benefit from clear instructions on the differences and overlap of pro&lifestyle and how to spot real profiles from catfish from roleplayer from xxx and sub from fetishist etc instead of the bombardment of men telling how much they despise subset of women who are integral part of the kink community whether others personally like it or not.

[MM****]

I understand both sides to this. It is their time, often their main source of income, and right to do so if they feel they wish to require tributes. I do not look down upon sex workers or women who just simply feel that makes it worth their time. It's ultimately their bodies and choice. With someone who is a pro, they will ask for this more than not. Others may not. Usually the ones who do not present themselves a lot more casually. It just depends on the person. They will def let you know pretty quickly their requirements.

I personally would not pay someone however. I can not get over that it makes me feel like the only reason they want to play with me is because I paid them. I get the sense many feel the same. I'm very generous and often pay for whatever when it comes to ladies, but straight up tributes I feel turned off by. Call it ego or maybe its the fact that I'm not submissive in my regular life. I don't look down with someone who does. It is just not for me.

[ey****]

12 hours ago, KiraSecura said:

It is so odd to me that male "submissives" are allowed to talk so disrespectful of working women and Dommes with standards beyond bedroom in this forum titled "Female Domination" but those women are not allowed to share their side.

Yep - absolutely.

So whether a general concept of 'for tribute' play/arrangements is/isn't for someone is a general kinda, matter of opinion.  There was a tongue in cheek comment I made elsewhere the other day which was very much in the sense of what men would expect Dommes to already own but that (a) they wouldn't want them to be bought by, or used with, another partner (b) they wouldn't wish to contribute towards the cost

while also having these expectations of someone's availability which limits the work they can do, without being willing so subsidise so they can do part time hours.

(obviously it's not all men - but when you get into "but I won't pay", OK so you meet someone who is interested in being your Domme but she doesn't own the stuff you wish to use in play - who pays for it?) 

 

But yeah, the forum rules I feel are very disjointed in the sense that discussions about financial play are permitted; up to including comments on any thread complaining about tributes or being asked to pay - but that those who engage in that play aren't allowed on the site because of stuff like rules for the app store and stuff

So a lot of conversations end up skewed, since so many people who enjoy or indulge cannot post their perspective without risking their account being deleted.  

[Ni****]

Most dominant women online found a way to get *** from online submissive men and they want nothing to do with a femdom or female led relationship. They think this is a brilliant business idea.
It’s sad that so many subs fall for this shit.
Jack off and keep looking for the real deal. She’s out there

[th****]

Yo like forreal tho…🤷🏻‍♂️ okay so if I were in a domme position I would think yes my time/recourses/ and freedom of my own damn choice is of value to me. Who does some nobody wannabe somebody’s sub think they are to even have an opinion about that aspect of my private personal life? On the logical yin thought process to that yang perspective, if I were in a sub role I would be of the understanding that such a value exists and is endlessly and solely defined by the domme and it should be acknowledged and respected therefor causing a both a one way valve trap alongside a scapegoat to not enter in such agreement. This causes a paradox - a snake eats its tail kind of thing. Theoretically, if the domme and the sub begin a basic human connection via time and open communication, both will naturally and co-independently customized and build a mutually beneficial bond that is seen as more than something to be purchased, but rather nurtured as its needs present themselves. BDSM does not cost anything but commitment and effort to flourish properly.

Scene🤌🏼😌




The floor is yours people🤗

[Ni****]

I’m here to find a kinky fetish relationship! If you’re here for *** then you’re on the wrong app!

You’re a sex worker! Go walk a street corner where you fit in! Or go back to school

[FETMOD-TF]

Thank you for everyone's contribution however we will be closing this thread.  The OP's original question has been answered and the topic has now become circulatory.