Best way to avoid awkward 1st face to face

[Mi****]

So my friend and I were discussing this topic the other day and I figured it would be interesting to see what this community would have to say about it as well.
What are some tips/tricks for meeting up with people for the first time face to face after some sexy flirting via text to avoid that awkward feeling? What about that transition from the "getting to know you" type chit chat at the beginning to clothes on the floor and having some fun? And yes, it has already been established why you're meeting up in the first place - nsa fantasy fulfillment.
I've been asked to report back to my girl friends, so hopefully this thread gets some replies.

[Th****]

FaceTime?

[Se****]

Just go somewhere comfortable where awkward silence can be avoided or something that could loosen you up like an activity or something. Like an arcade, mini golf, bowling, and etc.

[Ha****]

Meet at a bar somewhere locally, grab a drink, if you don’t drink still meet somewhere so you both can strike a conversation. If the connection is there then the sex type of vibe will come out eventually. Better to feel each other out to see if they is truly a physical connection.

[Deleted Member]

Lifey updates, plans for the next few days, what they’ve been up to recently, grabbing food before and actually dessert after, watching a movie franchise or long tv series, you just making them feel welcome and comfortable and letting them know sex isn’t the only thing you’re after or the only reason why their here… plus deeply discussing red light green light protocol for bedroom activities, body language signs of communication / uncomfortable body ques, safe words, ect

[st****]

Easy get her to be on all fours pants down xxxx

[Al****]

😂 but, I need the detail to get the pants down!

[Th****]

This is a very good question, and I am only offering my "two cents" as motivator to others to do the same. I in no way claim to be an expert. I recently met with a young lady who came from another town. She booked a hotel room for the weekend specifically to come meet me, but not be "beholden" to me for shelter should things to go well.
When I first arrived to her room, we were planning on going out to eat and have time to talk face to face without a bed within arms reach lol.
As soon as I could comfortably get her undivided attention, I ask her to stand in front of me and look me in the eyes. (She had expressed an intrest in being submissive to me) first things first I gave her two very simple safe words, 1. RESET this word I asked her to use should anything occur which she needed to stop immediately. Upon hearing that word I would stop.. we would sit and discuss what the trigger was and how we could move on and RESET. The second is just REFOCUS, I asked her to use this word in case I am doing something that just isn't something that is getting her there so to speak, at that word I know to move on and Refocus on something else. I explained to her that I had a few very important rules that I would like her to follow while we were in public. I very much appreciate eye contact when she is addressing me and I have an Arms reach rule. Basically if we are within arms reach, she is to reach out and maintain physical contact with me. Hold hands, arms, have her hand behind my head, lean in to my arms, something. If she chooses to carry on the dynamic further while in public she is to refer to me as sir or Daddy.
Simple, this helped break that physical barrier almost instantly... holding hands, having her hold my arms. Built up a tension through out the day... between the lunch and a quite stroll through a museum she was ready to go back to the room.
Not sure if this is the type of answer you were looking for.

[Deleted Member]

If I'm sexting her already, when I meet her I break the awkwardness with a hand on throat and a passionate kiss. That works Everytime

[Gr****]

It goes without saying to always meet in a public space, and always be sure to have something of an icebreaker like a game of pool. Ofc it's no strings attached but getting to know them to a degree through a casual interaction can really help remove any awkwardness later on.

[Deleted Member]

We just had our 1st ever meet up. It went amazing. We went out for some Spanish dancing to loosen up before taking the next step.

[Deleted Member]

I think it depends on the fet. Some people may want to get to know people and some people may want to jump right in. In our situation we are looking to jump right in although saying that we have been talking to one person for a few weeks and she is enjoying that. He has nerves. We not so much. Depends on the person I guess and what they want out of whatever lifestyle or fet they are seaking. If I were meeting people before committing to activities tbh I'd be myself and talk to them as I would any other person, at least then you could weed out any undesirables. Go in honest and open, expect the same in return. If you don't get the same.... not for you. Maybe I'm right maybe I'm wrong who knows.

[Mr****]

In this lifestyle i think they shoud have been much further along with their knowledge of each other and begin with a common goal of making that happen as their first experience together with a particular focus on, thatsvwhat the lifestyle is about . To have a couple of commpn fetishes to explore together is something puts the connection to a whole nother level to build on ,if yhey had any sort of experience in this realm , what was considered fringe, has been s***ding towards thebterm " main stream" via smart phones. Being opemly hinest about ourselves is key to so many things that are simply amazing. Tbc

[x2****]

Very public place doing something pre arranged , from a boring Costa lot coffee too rollerskating the activity all depends on your shared interests but should be something that will give each to escape in the activity if the meeting goes from spicy texts to OMG they defo not for me.

[jb****]

It might be lame but I always liked coffee/ cold drinks. Put a movie on while cooking something neither of us have made or eaten before then do the fun. And the order can be moved around based on the mood.

Godzilla, sex and pizza

[Lu****]

This is a great question ! 

The transition from on line chat to live meet can be awkward … all that “remote bravado” versus standing in front of an actual person.  
 

It’s different. Very different - unless your brain works that you’re hung-ho and wtf which is possible.  But that’s not me. 
 

I know I’m different in person and let a few more uncertainties creep in … so straight off it’s not the same as on line.  
 

But, with the (rather limited) experience I have of meets .. a non- presumptive approach works best.  
 

Even though on occasions I have booked a hotel room which in itself is presumptuous - I have done that with their consent and used it as a place to MEET and get to know each other and not a place that guarantees crazy sex.   It’s private.  Alone.  Sensual.  No pressure.  

Sometimes just a nice enjoyable night (touchy geeky, cuddles, maybe a bath.. massage) is better than a fet-fest. Proven for me!

Having said that it’s also reaped more rewards - but again I’ve not presumed anything - we get in the room , have a brew or drink of chat… start flirting and touching and see how it goes.  
 

Read and ride the moment.  
 

Once I met someone at their home - same approach - same outcome. 
 

Others I’ve met casually - cinema, drink … tbh they were not followed up - so the lack of knowing what could happen or second thoughts and doubts creep in maybe and consume the excitement?!

 

btw - this is my limited experience over quite a few years. I’m condensing it here so please dont think I’m an expert or gigolo … !

… Though I’ll be reading other response to see if I can get to that status !! 🤣🤣

 

Luke  x

[Mu****]

Discussion of boundaries and expectations prior to meetup. Coffee dates and prearranged meetings can get awkward, I much prefer having a meaningful discussion first, and not meeting until its time to play.

Quickest way to break the ice is a cock in your mouth 😈.. I've always found it easier and more comfortable once there's a level of trust established during the physical aspect

[Si****]

I always try to do something the other person likes to do. If they want to do what I want, it would be to go fishing. There's something about nature that just helps a lot of relax and just... be. Lol

[ve****]

I hate that awkward spot. I’m not a dominant person so I’d have to be meeting someone confident, funny, and has the “take charge” personality. Of course, before meeting, hopefully we’d have already talked about all the safety things…. Safe word, limits, what we both like, etc. I’m not looking for anyone to be my boyfriend. Friend? Sure! But no commitments. I would also want to meet where I could have a cocktail to calm my nerves a bit. I get over nervous once I am kissed, touched, etc. I don’t know if that helps u but it sure helped me process what I’d want to do. I’ve never done this so……

[Mi****]

Pinning this so I can return to it as I know someone who would really appreciate the info on first meetings!
Might also be able to answer myself at some point, hope everyone's having a good day x

[ch****]

Get naked

[Ta****]

For me being the dominate role it is about head space. I want to meet up with my head space being established as I walk in the door if the expectation is a D/s play time. Setting the stage does not mean going in and making demands. Start slow, discuss many of the topics that had been discussed, make sure everyone is on the same page, but lead from step one. That has seemed to work for me.

[Ai****]

I like to meet somewhere public and continue our discussion and see if chemistry their as well as build some trust. I as the Dom will control conversation but more as an equal. If things go well, I may have my Sub do a task for me towards the end of our date. Example... before meet I ask her to where a skirt. I will praise her then have her go to bathroom and remove her panties and bring them to me. Again she will get praise and I will tell her I give her panties back next time we meet. They normally end up in her mouth.

[vi****]

Drinks to relax work for me ... its always akward the first time if u ask me 🤷🏽‍♂️

[ka****]

Basically I just go into it knowing that first time meeting is going to be awkward and maybe even make a joke about how awkward the first time meeting is. But if the date can't make you feel comfortable after that first awkward 5 minutes then you should probably just leave. Lol