Popular Post lo**** Posted June 21 Popular Post New to the community and learning terms, but I’m looking for more detailed descriptions and the truth / reality of them. For example a Play Party, what do they really do there, what are the rules incase no one explains them? Anything to watch out for? There’s one in my area tomorrow night I’d like to know if it’s something worth visiting even if I’m not ready to jump in. It says it’s specifically for newbies. Am I allowed to socialize and not ‘play’? This one is not a member only private event.
co**** Posted June 21 Ok it can also be the kind of party that is being given.When a group of people getting together and fuck and get busy with sex group or individuals getting it on ❓
LadyRenee Posted June 21 There’s a great article on here on that inject should answer all you questions .
ey**** Posted June 21 if it's focused on newbies they will be expecting newbies and questions some of those are difficult to answer because the rules and what to expect will vary from place to place - so at a "high level" A play party is a kink event which is likely to have some form of dungeon or play space as well as a social space. There is opportunity for play between people who mutually agree, but no obligation to play They should have a clear set of rules available If it is geared for newbies, they may have demos or opportunities to try activities - but this isn't always the case.
0p**** Posted June 21 Check with the people organizing, if its an established venue, check their site, reach out to some of the ppl who have rsvp'd to see if anyone has been there before and to see what to expect. Each place is a little different; the less established the venue, the more vetting you should do for your safety
DarkArts1066 Posted June 21 A “play party” is exactly what it sounds like. An opportunity for people to meet up and play with like minded others. There should NEVER be any obligation to play though…. And given that this one is specifically for newbies, I would hope that the organisers will ask the right questions of their attendees, establish their actual level of experience and interest, and perhaps make a few introductions to people who have similar interests to yourself. All good party hosts want “repeat customers”. It doesn’t do to frighten newbies off, never to be seen again. If you can, email the organisers, and ask what you can expect on the day. Ask if there will be someone available to show you around - or maybe introduce you to a couple of people … But whatever you do, don’t feel pressured into playing with anyone. I’ve taken people to play parties and events before and chaperoned them so that they can adjust gradually. It can be a bit overwhelming on your first visit… lots to see and watch - and potentially do. To recap, my advice would be, go with an open mind, contact the organisers ahead of time, and remember that wherever you are, no means exactly that!….. NO. Have fun…..
Qu**** Posted June 21 Ok, while some of the answers are decent, there's a bit of detail missing. You'll have to find out what the venue & organizers consider "play". If it's at a dungeon play is usually considered some sort of BDSM activity. People may bring floggers, canes, paddles, violet wands, or any other array of kinky toys to use. If it's at other venues the organizers may see play as s*x or other adjacent activities. Some dungeons may allow s*x, but most dungeons that do allow it will stipulate that it happens within the umbrella of BDSM and not be the sole purpose of play. So if you don't know what kind of space it is, reach out. If you do attend and want to play, your play partner should sit down and do a negotiation before any play happens. This will go over the risks of the play, what you want from it, where touching can occur, with what items you can be touched with, what long term after care looks like (is next day or 2), and what you want to do for aftercare. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. And while other posters have said no means no, which is true, also only yes means yes.
On**** Posted June 21 2 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said: if it's focused on newbies they will be expecting newbies and questions some of those are difficult to answer because the rules and what to expect will vary from place to place - so at a "high level" A play party is a kink event which is likely to have some form of dungeon or play space as well as a social space. There is opportunity for play between people who mutually agree, but no obligation to play They should have a clear set of rules available If it is geared for newbies, they may have demos or opportunities to try activities - but this isn't always the case. All great comments above 👏 Be wary of an individual verses a group event posting, groups generally follow safety guidelines, have veteran members overseeing events and vetting and safety protocols that an individual may not. Events posted of any kind should include a description of what will be happening and who to contact for questions. Above all you should never feel pressured to participate in activities ever!
Pe**** Posted June 21 Depends on the community. I've never seen one that didn't have play stations set up. Spanking bench, St. Andrew's cross, etc. A lot I've been to have dungeon monitors to keep track of equipment being used and safe play occurring. Events that are oriented towards new people tend to have a few people happy to answer questions and show you around. Sometimes, the organizer will have tasting booths set up so people can have a try at some type of play from a Dom, which the organizer has vetted and trusts to provide a good experience. Main things to remember are: 1. No means no. 2. Only yes means yes. 3. It's okay to change your mind from yes to no if the play becomes something you don't want. 4. Enjoy yourself!
lo**** Posted June 21 Author Okay I decided I will start with a “munch” (still learning about that too)
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