Is it inappropriate for a Dom to cry? 😿

[Do****]

Very excellent response. Even though I am prepared to challenge any Dominant being for the title of baddest mf in this world. Ijs I even issued a challenge in my description in regards to this topic of a peaking order.
Also I must admit that when I shed tears in a lower emotional vibration it is normal a movie that gets me to. I haven’t shed tears for my child’s *** in any situation. But I did cry the first time I saw Bambi’s momma die as a kid. As an adult I cried when D’jango whipped the slave master. ijs

[Do****]

1 hour ago, BadgerBear said:

Everyone cries when their emotional cup overflows. Some people’s cups are just bigger than others and fill/empty at different rates.

Definitely and thank you for giving a general answer to a general question.

[Do****]

1 hour ago, SerendipitousKeeper said:

If I were in a relationship with someone and they needed to but refused to cry in front of me it would feel like a v!olat!on of trust.

Do not expect me to give all of myself if you won’t or can’t do the same.

I hate the crap about men (I’m aware not all Dom's are men) not being able to cry and it being a weakness. Is it hell a weakness, vulnerability IS strength and rawness and honesty is hugely powerful.

I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again: Doms ought to have safe words and aftercare and yeah, if they want or need to, the freedom and ability to cry and show all of their emotions.

We live in a crazy society where the “norm” is that crying is weak. But why? Why is it weak to cry of be human? Is it not weaker to hide one’s emotions for *** of ridicule or non acceptance? Maybe, just maybe, our societal norms are wrong and need to be changed. Maybe we all need to grow the hell up and realise that we all have a range of emotions within us and inability to express these if more detrimental than actually doing so.

Just my opinion. 

I will admit little one. I must give you, your flowers 💐. Your opinion was to me the best post. So great job little one. I don’t know if I should praise you for your opinion or should I give credence to your Dom? Either way keep sharing.

[Hezzair]

It is totally appropriate for a Dominant to cry, masc or femme, for any reason. Just because you are dominant, does not mean you cannot show emotion. That is toxic masculinity thinking at its finest right there to say that. Thinking showing tears as a weakness is foolish. It takes a strong person to be able to cry in front of another person. That is another layer of trust given- whether those are tears of joy, sadness, exhilaration, exhaustion, anger, whatever, you name it.

[Do****]

2 hours ago, Jimmy1912121 said:

As a Dom; being in top space and coming down? Top drop is a thing.

I’ve spoken with various subs of mine. I think it depends on the sub and connection.

If a sub is Demisexual? The power and courage for a Dom to cry? Adds to the experience; provide the sub who is Demisexual a connection.

If the sub is just wanting fun NSA dynamic? Tears may be a turn off or deal breaker.

It really depends on the dynamic TBH

I appreciate how informed your post is. I also agree that it depends.

[Do****]

1 hour ago, OralDeity said:

If we werent meant to cry we probably wouldn't it sheds excess energy and water and like taking a *** a little of the good is shed to entangle the bad and pull it away from the body.

Very true

[Deleted Member]

During specific moments I feel it should be acceptable

[Pa****]

Absolutely it is and 'little' known fact, Doms get hurt too

[Do****]

I want to thank everyone who commented I replied to everyone I believe up until this point. So keep sharing keep learning and keep growing. I will leave you with this. Don’t comprehend with your feelings or listen to respond, and most importantly don’t judge.
I as the post creator never asked from advice I posed a group discussion. Yet I was advised with out my consent and judged based on a post.
This community is a safe space so please be mindful of others.
PS hehehe 😂 some one mentioned that after assuming which makes an ass out of you and try’s to make one of me. They said they are cautious of me and my swagger/bravado. lol 😂 that’s funny since we have zero connection which means your caution is a personal flaw in retrospect to me.
Consent goes both ways ijs…..

[Do****]

Oh yeah fyi ijs inbox me if you want to continue this discussion. Because I will not read or reply to any more comments on this thread. Those who I replied to who want to expound must do so in my inbox from this point forward.

[CopperKnob]

44 minutes ago, Dominant_ism99 said:

Great post but as I said I know for a fact my wording shouldn’t have giving an energy of emotional infancy. I am very in tune with me. I have been a Dom far too long to be that dissolved mentally and emotionally with my level of life experiences. I have far more than practical knowledge. I have met doms that are very skilled at play time with all their rope techniques, but when it comes to training they lack the actual knowledge because they themselves haven’t went through they’re own training/growth arch. But this ain’t that. I am something that most have never ever witnessed and probably never will not in its entirety.

ther things that "ain't it"
1. Communicating with people in the forums using language that would, to others, indicate the two of you were in a D/s relationship.
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2. Redirecting (certain) people from the forum to your inbox.
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2. God complexes

[Se****]

25 minutes ago, Dominant_ism99 said:

I want to thank everyone who commented I replied to everyone I believe up until this point. So keep sharing keep learning and keep growing. I will leave you with this. Don’t comprehend with your feelings or listen to respond, and most importantly don’t judge.
I as the post creator never asked from advice I posed a group discussion. Yet I was advised with out my consent and judged based on a post.
This community is a safe space so please be mindful of others.
PS hehehe 😂 some one mentioned that after assuming which makes an ass out of you and try’s to make one of me. They said they are cautious of me and my swagger/bravado. lol 😂 that’s funny since we have zero connection which means your caution is a personal flaw in retrospect to me.
Consent goes both ways ijs…..

It’s amusing to me that you discuss consent here yet not once did I give you consent to call me “little one”, a term I hold very dearly and have so far only allowed a select few to use. Furthermore, my opinions belong to me and are zero reflection of any Dom currently or previously in my life. So whilst I thank you for the spirit of your comment I strongly suggest that if you are a true 100% Dom (not that such a thing exists) you learn what that actually means and the appropriate way to address and speak with others. 

[va****]

Crying is normal. Cry if you feel like it.

[Deleted Member]

Don’t cry, show strength, being *** and weak is weak. Be ice cold.

[ge****]

Dominant… sir… I have been in the lifestyle about 15 years… my conclusion: when we (Dommes & Doms) perform well our submissive counterparts settle deep into “sub-space”, yes?
Well I have paid particular attention to my own mind and emotions… I venture into a state I call “Dom-space”. I am Hyper-vigilant, hyper-sensitive, hyper-aware, and hyper-focused. I have videoed sessions where each was appropriately “spaced” and it was impressive to watch, even my subs comment of how focused I was…
And furthermore… my “aftercare” was very different from hers… I needed to know she was ok… I needed to reassure myself she was highly tended to… in retrospect, ensuring her, my sub’s, aftercare was significantly more important than my recovery aftercare… if my explanation and experience are vague it’s because I’m still trying to understand… I have never heard any Domme or Dom mention this phenomenon. Has anyone?

[Deleted Member]

Crying isnt weakness it happens when you feel strong emotions. Everyone cries.

[do****]

Sounds like toxic masculinity. Everyone should be able to cry and if someone tells you the opposite, tell them to check themselves and maybe go to therapy since they’re obviously a bit unhealthy.

[bo****]

You're human, it's fine, don't worry about it.

[T_****]

Only if a parent or child passes away

[Deleted Member]

It actually help with dealing with emotions. A sub has shown there vulnerability there should not be a problem showing yours

A dom has just the same feelings. As mentioned above, you are human.

[Co****]

2 hours ago, SerendipitousKeeper said:

It’s amusing to me that you discuss consent here yet not once did I give you consent to call me “little one”, a term I hold very dearly and have so far only allowed a select few to use. Furthermore, my opinions belong to me and are zero reflection of any Dom currently or previously in my life. So whilst I thank you for the spirit of your comment I strongly suggest that if you are a true 100% Dom (not that such a thing exists) you learn what that actually means and the appropriate way to address and speak with others. 

A beautifully measured response to what was both a highly arrogant and amusing response to you (along with the previous laughable comment to you of “being mindful

After reading through this topic it only highlights the arrogance in this space..
So “off topic”… in the spirit of being here to learn and share and grow…
A reminder to self proclaimed Dom’s (& Dommes) that if you are not in a CONSENTED D/s dynamic be mindful to RESPECT a person as an equal human not as the “role” they are NOT in with you.

[Ar****]

3 hours ago, Dominant_ism99 said:

PS hehehe 😂 some one mentioned that after assuming which makes an ass out of you and try’s to make one of me. They said they are cautious of me and my swagger/bravado. lol 😂 that’s funny since we have zero connection which means your caution is a personal flaw in retrospect to me.
Consent goes both ways ijs…..

Your Honour, may the record show that my comment clearly stated for the record that I made no assumptions. There is a difference between telling somebody what you think of them and trying to diplomatically explain to somebody how their post comes across.

[Br****]

It's okay BUT with that said being realistic some people find that ad a turn off. So again it is Okay,with that said get a sub that would be okay with that. That's life. Men cry to their moms and maybe their wife if like their kid dies or something then yea. Might not be as openly as you might want it but that's being a man, time and place. We arnt women and are to express and let it out at the right place and time and 99% of those times and places it's NOT with a woman . But it CAN be depending on the woman. Mother Mary is where it's at though.

[sn****]

Crying and showing emotions is human, having a certain role doesn't change the fact we're human and can be ***. Yes it is okay, and it just means you're human. The idea that dominants shouldn't show emotions isn't healthy, or fair

[Deleted Member]

Crying is human and shows that you are capable of emotional depth. Anyone, and I mean anyone, who says anybody shouldn't cry for whatever reason, is a psychopath. Cry. That being said, it isn't safe to cry around just anybody. There are predators, manipulators, and patriarchal brainwashed people of all genders. It's normal to cry. Please take care of yourself and your mental health.