Do you dislike most bdsm porn?

[UnwiseSexCouple]

I'm not saying people shouldn't like what they like. You need to go where the heat is for you. But does anyone else have trouble finding porn they like. Or only like little moments in it. 

 

The bits I like in porn are in the foreplay where ocasionally you find participants forget they are acting  and start getting genuinely captivated by what is happening. Or any little moments when something genuine happens. Like little twists of restlessness from someone who is tied down for a long time. 

 

Is there anything like that you find hard to find? 

Edited February 2, 2021 by UnwiseSexCouple
Gramatical correction

[Hal727]

Yes definitely! So hard to find what I like, that I rarely watch it. Suggestions?

[Deleted Member]

I typilike to watch homemade porn, because it is real. The film quality and angles aren't always great, but its authentic and I like that.

[Deleted Member]

I hate it most when people over play their reaction, I know role play includes acting, but being over dramatic, when hardly anything is being done is seriously off putting.

[Mo****]

Totally agree with all of the above. My previous relationship was so much hotter than any porn I could find, I've pretty much lost interest in it.

I used to like amateur stuff too, coz the fake stuff and bad acting just bores me, however this obsession with Lush vibrators and the sudden trend that every lass shudders and "squirts" everywhere during their standard excessively long orgasm has pretty much put me off amateur stuff too now.

Testament too so many of us craving something real and cerebral under the current circumstances I reckon.

[Newbie1984]

Don't really like porn at all, I need to have some kind of knowledge of the people involved and strangers just don't do it for me. Each to their own of course! 

[Deleted Member]

Porn used to be a little more scripted then it is today. Constantly stopping then reshooting and stop. It would be hard for the guy to stay hard and often the girl faking phoney orgasms. Now they go more for the realness and shoot a continuous scene. They get an attractive man that the girl will be more sexually attracted to and cum with. And instead of having all these people and camera crew around making it more uncomfortable, now it’s just like one camera guy with maybe one light or enough light in the room. And now there’s categories of actual real women’s orgasms you see their cum or even squirt categories. So that realness I think a lot of ppl wanted and got. Their is also bdsm porn where there’s orgasm denial, training, begging, pegging, dominance on either side. There is so much categories in porn I’m constantly exploring all the things they come up with. And usually any specific category you’ll find it. So for me personally I think it’s hard not to find something you like. Especially so many sites and near countless categories.

[ei****]

I am porn. Im the real deal. 😂

[In****]

watching porn = seeing someone eat a Big Mac

enjoying yourself = cooking and eating a gourmet meal

[ey****]

I guess by default I'd dislike most porn   but I've never really struggled to find stuff I like - even if the quality is a little variable (I've bought some and been disappointed for one reason or another)

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I obviously also make fetish clips.  I also help others with admin for theirs - and....

I hate overreaction.  I was asked to ham it up once for a clip - but my way of taking *** has a preference to be quiet and focused rather than yelping.  I know others are the same.  There are some I know overreact and oversell which is a bit hmmm... but a lot goes into that the viewer wants to see people suffer

And, well - sometimes there's people working together with an established dynamic, but often not.  I think some of the best stuff I've been in, or seen, is when I know there's an established dynamic - but I might be bias.  

[UnwiseSexCouple]

6 hours ago, Hal727 said:

Yes definitely! So hard to find what I like, that I rarely watch it. Suggestions?

Isobel Wren: buck naked book reviews. She seems to be enjoying the mischievousness of it. That's hot. 

 

[UnwiseSexCouple]

5 hours ago, Newbie1984 said:

Don't really like porn at all, I need to have some kind of knowledge of the people involved and strangers just don't do it for me. Each to their own of course! 

I think guys just kind of imagine there is some kind of real connection. But they don't need it to be explained to them what the connection is.  If you asked me why I liked something, I'd probably be able to imagine a backstory. But I don't usualy need to. It's like 'she wants him even though she's been captured and put in a dungeon in some terrible divice and can't admit she likes him because use she is a nun, but has to give in to the pleasure in the end'.

[Kimberlycook]

I'm much more of a fan of the gentle bondage "restrained elegance" style, than more hard stuff.

I want to imagine I am one tied/ chained up! 

 

I rarely/never watch porn with actual sex it in!

[UnwiseSexCouple]

Restrained elegance is nice, yes. 

[dorion]

On 2/8/2021 at 12:13 AM, Kimberlycook said:

I want to imagine I am one tied/ chained up! 

I rarely/never watch porn with actual sex it in!

For my taste, when men are subs they are too often not under control and it becomes clear that the domme is serving them. To find what I like, I often have to look at female subs (alone or with female dommes) imagine that that is me.

I also generally find sex a turn-off, and often don't much care about state of dress. I am looking for domination and submission as states of being, not actions that resolve. For that I need hints of the relationship. The look in the eyes can do wonders, especially in still photos. The videos I like best are not brief encounters: they suggest a relationship of submission that continues after the camera stops rolling. If the eyes and emotions are right, something as simple as a sub waiting in a cage (for instance) can imply a whole ongoing relationship, allowing imagination to fill in the details.

I might like text the best. Good stories as rare as good videos, but they have so much more scope to work with relationships and tell what cannot practically be depicted on film. The big advantage of video is that it is snackable (and activates a profitable dopamine loop), whereas it is often hard to determine whether one is interested in a written story without spending some time with it.

I suspect I'm a minority; it's natural the material available reflects other tastes.

[UnwiseSexCouple]

Very thoughtful and accurate to how it is for many of us. 

[Chipmunkv6]

Have to agree with you always spend hours just flicking through the related ones that come up and thinking that I can do better

[lowcollar]

I find most of the bdsm porn to be without any passion or intensity. It's not the acts as much as the complacency I dislike.

[Re****]

The professional actors overplay their parts and exaggerate everything. If you want to see more realistic clips look for the amateur ones, at least the reactions are better and more realistic.
Reminds me of an old joke re porno films. Woman has broken washer and calls plumber,umber arrives drops his toolbox and they fuck on the machine. Bullshit when does a plumber ever turn up. Lol

[ey****]

There was a good thread the other day I sadly can't link to - but - the essence was.

A lot of the tube and pirate sites is basically 'landfill porn' and from everything from weird algorithms to the sheer quantity that's often unsorted makes it difficult to find what you want

Even the producers that legitimately upload stuff there still want you to, ultimately, individual clips or a membership from them so will rarely upload all the best stuff

So to find - I won't say 'best' but 'stuff more in tune with what you're looking for' - they pay sites is often the way to go becoming familiar with which Dominants (and submissives!) do the types of scenes and shoots and authenticity (or lack of...) you're looking for.

[Deleted Member]

I really love John Paul The Pope's work and almost everything I've seen has always been brilliant quality. Even the stuff he has produced without performing in is great quality and the interviews he does before and after his scenes are some of my favourite bits There always feels like real chemistry between him and his performers. They always seem less faked and like they're all loving going what they're doing which is rare for any porn especially BSDM. (of course they are professional porn stars and it's a job for them as said above, so it's always going to involve some acting) His style is also very much my kind of play too. The paid site he puts his stuff on is great too with plenty of variety and quality from other producers. (not allowed to link but if there was a dot com for kink that might be a good place to start)

[qwertytothemax]

Personally I enjoy watching BDSM porn. But it should also be noted that a lot of the stuff in BDSM porn is either overexaggerated or simply wouldn't be seen in most kinky dynamics. They are paid actors trying to make a high-quality video. Therefore, everything they do is scripted.

 

Also BDSM porn always just focuses on the sex part of the scene. I have yet to see one porno actually show any aftercare, which is extremely important for any BDSM scene. I was taught and continue to believe that BDSM is more than just the sex. It's the connection you make with your partner, the protocols you both agree to, the aftercare, etc. that make up a BDSM scene. But again, porn is there just for enjoyment, so as long as you remember that porn is just a bunch of actors, I don't see the harm in enjoying it.

[ey****]

So.  Perhaps I might at some point do a kinda 'what really happens' kinda post : I've been filming for 5 years and started my own production 2 years ago.  

There are a couple of tricks here and there but in a lot of amateur fetish clip - most of what you see is real.  But a lot of what you read, or the scenario set up, is not.

Sometimes the Dominant and submissive have literally just met that day. Sometimes they are an 'owned sub'

Sometimes there is existing rapport if they've met or filmed before.

Obviously it's easier if there's existing rapport - but you do get some filming subs who are unresponsive, poor at communicating, and either push too much for what they want *rather than the aims of the day* orrrr... be a bit too "I'll do anything" which isn't always helpful when better clips are with stuff the sub is good at, or enjoy.

In terms of being scripted... yes and no... there might be a scenario, or pre-arranged activities and limits - but there is often a big need to be able to have a creative freedom and improvise.  

So it might be "you are the house slave and you've done something and are going to be punished/rewarded for it" and everything from there is ad libbed

But, no, it's true - aftercare is omitted from videos.  And, I have to admit - last week when I was on this lovely soft bean bag, cuddling into the Mistress while she told me how pleased she was - I wouldn't want a camera in my face impacting that moment.

[Deleted Member]

Perfect analogy! 

[Deleted Member]

On 2/2/2021 at 5:16 PM, Interludes said:

watching porn = seeing someone eat a Big Mac

enjoying yourself = cooking and eating a gourmet meal

 

Just now, nymphetaminx said:

Perfect analogy!