Using Fet behind a partners back

[ge****]

Thoughts on using Fet whilst in a relationship when partner does not know.

[No****]

I’m ethically non-monogamous so this really isn’t for me

[Inquisitor4One]

Wonder what your partner is doing behind your back.

[Ju****]

Yeah stop being a piece of shit. If you're going to lie to your partners then you should not be in that relationship. You should be in a relationship where both of you are honest and you both have the same desires if not stop being weak. Excuse me for my bad behavior.

[Ry****]

Like what...? Yeah don't fucking do that. Like there are open relationships. There are poly relationships. There are options. This is just unnecessarily cruel and hurtful to do that.

[Kf****]

Cheating is cheating so thats an extreme d**k move and anyone who would do that deserves to be an ex partner ASAP

[Ti****]

Well that would be the atomic bomb to your relationship. Not recommended . Besides it’s like stealing and robbing from someone! Taking ability to have a choice . Plus it causes a lot of damage . My recommendations is if you care about yourself. Then do not betray you or them . Takes years for someone to get past the hurt of something g like that when caught. No one wants
To get caught up in a hurt like that

[DK****]

If you two agree to a closed monogamous relationship on both ends stop using this app. I'm not going to call you names like the rest of the people in this but yeah You're wrong is an understatement. Now if you two have an agreement where you're open on your end she's closed or you're both open with a set of rules that's different, but from How the question is phrased it sounds like you're in a closed monogamous relationship.

[ey****]

Like, a golden thing in kink is consent and so if you're doing it behind a partners back it is effectively ignoring their consent and boundaries.  My wife knows I'm on here and knows when I'm talking to someone or meeting someon so on

[de****]

Yeah I had a partner in a year and half relationship, checked out this app in the new year, claimed “she was hoping to get the spark back, but couldn’t” (very vague). Broke it off with me one night and created a profile overnight looking for “someone close to them for fun”

[Booty_Gobbler]

Well considering this is a dating app, if you already have a partner you probably should either let them know you want to open your relationship, or break up with them. If you're not ready to be in a relationship and commit that's 100% okay, but you shouldn't waste others time if that's the case.🤷🏿‍♂️

[de****]

Yeah I had a partner checking this app out in the final week of our one and a half yrs monogamous relationship, claimed to have lost the the spark , very vague to me, emotionless saying she was doing what’s best for her. Then she broke it off one night and joined the app looking for someone close for some kinky fun

[ic****]

That's called cheating bro

[KK****]

What the hell is wrong with you? 🫩

[Ar****]

There is absolutely no good reason for somebody to be on here without their partner knowing. Not if it's a proper, "official" relationship.

 

Deliberately using it behind their back (i.e. hiding it) as your post's title states, that's a huge no-go the same as any deception would be. Don't allow people to do it to you. Do NOT do it yourself. And do not encourage others to either.

[Su****]

Inappropriate and disrespectful.

[be****]

As good as cheating…

[Sa****]

I....it's cheating? Lmfao

[SE****]

Talk

[Ma****]

I think the dude here is a sub and too embarrassed to tell his wife?

[my****]

It’s signaling one foot out the door. It’s not something you do to someone you see a future with.

[Tr****]

I think you should not be asking us it's your relationship but just as an example I used to have a favorite dildo that I liked a lot and I would use it from time to time my boyfriend would get upset if I used it without him and wa
Would shame me if he found out that I did I think although not necessarily the same thing
but whomever is obviously curious may not have anything to do with wanting to cheat I would get with your partner and talk to them not a bunch of people with their own opinions
If it were me I would appreciate being confronted about it that way if it was just curiousity and I was having a hard time coming to you about it well you just broke the ice

[kinkymasterandrew]

Secrets like that are poison to a relationship. If you feel you need to hide it, you should not do it or tell them and let them and have a discussion as to why.

[Tr****]

Now if you're actually hooking up and not telling well that's different

[dd****]

Im confused on how your user name is "genuine n honest..."?? You dont sound that way at all and you should not be going behind your partners back.