Using Fet behind a partners back

[ja****]

It's cheating, it's wrong. Next question. Not sure why that's even something that's up for debate.

[Nylon-Nellie]

To be fair, how many men AND women use this app without their partners knowing what they are up to? There will be quite a fair few and it is all too easy to keep up with the lies until they are found out. Has anyone replied saying that they are cheating on their partner yet?

[Tr****]

4 hours ago, Nylon-Nellie said:

To be fair, how many men AND women use this app without their partners knowing what they are up to? There will be quite a fair few and it is all too easy to keep up with the lies until they are found out. Has anyone replied saying that they are cheating on their partner yet?

There are tons of cheats on this app and they are all in my inbox 😂😆 dirty dogs 🤬 that's all I get is whining men about how they are in sexless marriages um can you say RED FLAG

[Ro****]

20 hours ago, Nylon-Nellie said:

To be fair, how many men AND women use this app without their partners knowing what they are up to? There will be quite a fair few and it is all too easy to keep up with the lies until they are found out. Has anyone replied saying that they are cheating on their partner yet?

Yes there are, and it's a red flag that I will quietly pass by. That is a standard I stand by. There's less drama, less excuses and better conversation and communicationwith others who are interested. So why would I bother?

[So****]

As stated above, this is a large and vibrant red flag. If you're going behind your partners back, you aren't trustworthy. If you're not trustworthy, you don't have a place on either side of the slash.
In a world where polyam is becoming more recognized, sneaking and cheating is unacceptable. Say it with your whole chest.

[Ul****]

The question is how would you feel if you found out your partner was on dating apps and meeting other people for casual hook ups?

I think it's time to sit down and have a chat with your partner and talk about your kinks and desires.
Who knows, they might supries you, but its a conversation that you need to have, otherwise your going to end up with a lot of hurt and regret.

[zo****]

Going behind someones back is a big nope. If youre unhappy? Communicate. If you need more? Communicate. If you cant come to an agreement? Break up. Nah. Fuck that nonsense.

[CuriousRose]

Hands down this is a major NO! I have had numerous people men and women messaging me over the last few months about their partners being on here and them being unaware. This is cheating, zero grey area. And no justification can make this not cheating

[de****]

Monday at 09:28 AM, Nylon-Nellie said:

To be fair, how many men AND women use this app without their partners knowing what they are up to? There will be quite a fair few and it is all too easy to keep up with the lies until they are found out. Has anyone replied saying that they are cheating on their partner yet?

Yeah I was cheated on in a monogamous relationship on here. In the end of it,she said I did nothing wrong at all, just “wanted what’s best for her”. Said no, when I asked of interest in somebody else. Emotionless from someone wearing their emotions

[sa****]

I caught my spouse so that’s why I’m here

[Pe****]

Betraying your partner and then seeking validation from other scumbags? Be a better man. She deserves better than this.

[sa****]

Don’t need validation 😂

[Wh****]

Absolutely not. I am here bc I caught my husband cheating on me and got a divorce as soon as I found out. I did not find myself on any dating apps until after I was fully single and any man that finds himself in my inbox who is there without his partner's knowledge is a no from me dog. It is gross and unacceptable. On the bright side I am much happier now and able to explore a side of me that I didn't know existed until after I got divorced that being said I will never be the other woman and I will never put another person through what I went through. Be a better human being.

[Cu****]

That’s definitely considered cheating in my book..

[ak****]

Im on here, my girl knows and is ok with it as long as I'm not talking to anyone lying about being in a relationship or hitting on random chicks or trying to start a side thing with someone else which I would never do sure it's she knows I can be flirty that's just my personality and sometimes say things out of boredom or being horny and also that the majority of my guy friends ODed, the ones that didn't I don't associate with anymore so I mostly have female friends that are genuinely nothing more than friends she's even tried asking if I ever hooked up with them when I told her the ones I did and ones I didn't and she got the same answers I told her and I have no problem with the truth because I know I have nothing to hide.. but she also knows I would never act on anything ever, she recently told me she was going to make an account and I told her as long as the same rules apply then I'm ok with that.. is it right to be here flirting or fetish kink talk with strangers when I have a girl who fufills all my desires even when my minds deep in the gutter, honestly if I kept it a secret from her or tried to hide or delete convos then thatd be really wrong

[ak****]

I told her if she wanted me to deactivate my account just tell me I don't need to be here cuz I have everything I want and need with her I wouldn't jeopardize loosing what I have for being able to act like I'm single and try to meet up with random girls.. that's not me at all

[CuriousRose]

23 hours ago, WholesomeButUnholy said:

Absolutely not. I am here bc I caught my husband cheating on me and got a divorce as soon as I found out. I did not find myself on any dating apps until after I was fully single and any man that finds himself in my inbox who is there without his partner's knowledge is a no from me dog. It is gross and unacceptable. On the bright side I am much happier now and able to explore a side of me that I didn't know existed until after I got divorced that being said I will never be the other woman and I will never put another person through what I went through. Be a better human being.

Now this is healthy. A lot of people I have found don’t stay single and be with themselves. It’s like they don’t know how to and look to find someone else to fill the void. Jumping from one person to another is horrific. Now getting divorced fully before even considering dating is a smart move! It goes for those who are not legally binding too. You can also always notice who in the relationships were the problem…. Hint, it’s not the ones immediately going around dating.

[lu****]

My ex was on here without me knowing, he did the same to his girlfriend before me. I found it disrespectful, and when they’re demanding respect from me it’s hypocritical. Please don’t do it.

[Deleted Member]

I consider it a form of cheating. Anything you have to hide from your partner is a form of cheating to me. Could you maybe bring up using the app together?

[ki****]

if your doing things behind a partners back. it's not a worth while relationship ,and the person is cheating is also lying most likelyi as that usually goes hand in hand. If you can't communicate your desires needs and wants to your partner then at the very least be honest with them and don't string them along. This is the reason ppl have no trust and are always expecting the worst.

[Bl****]

Definitly cheating under my law. Or at least working thier way to do so. Disrespectful at a minimum.

[bl****]

I'm just going to throw out that while it may be cheating, for some, maybe it gives what's missing and their partner has said they won't give them what they're asking for, but they're also not in the position to immediately leave...

[Ceejayuk]

I think it depends on how you are using fet as well as your general vies. For me if someone is just chatting on/browsing the forums, even looking at pics/vids I do not see an issue. Its when someone starts fully interacting with someone sending/posting pics or talking through dm's etc, when your partner does not know, then its an issue. 

[Ba****]

1 hour ago, Ceejayuk said:

I think it depends on how you are using fet as well as your general vies. For me if someone is just chatting on/browsing the forums, even looking at pics/vids I do not see an issue. Its when someone starts fully interacting with someone sending/posting pics or talking through dm's etc, when your partner does not know, then its an issue. 

Well functionally it’s more of a forum for on your phone anyway but just the facts that it calls itself „kinky dating app“ on the appstore and uses a heart symbol as icon warrants a conversation, at least to prevent misunderstandings

[Sq****]

I have an account we have a couples scout and she has her account