Dom/mes, can You love a sub who….

[Ga****]

Imho they love their power over you more than you. This happens because in childhood you learned to repress and subjugate your own needs wants and desires to the needs and wants of others in order to please others or not get in trouble. And if as a child you were physically ***d while being emotionally neglected at the same time you see the aggressive nature of these men as love and feel the emotional neglect as normal. Issue is you probably are not attracted to kind loving non kinky or aggressive men. What’s needed is a compassionate dom. One who can play a dom role in the bed firmly without degrading you. Outside the bedroom power play for you should be teasing or flirting. A compassionate dom should want to help you assist you and emotionally support and connect with you. We only accept the love we THINK we DESERVE. If childhood trauma makes us feel less deserving, you become a people pleaser which is attractive to predatory type C personalities who will see you with contempt. You are valued by them for what you do not who you are. Facts. It’s psychology. Build your self worth.

[Ca****]

G'day, after being in the life style for so long the dynamic of a Master/slave has changed so much. Back in the day your slave was also your partner, your lover and your best friend.

But to it seems that some Masters today believe that is all about control and punishments. You have do what you are told and that is it. Which is down right bullshit.

I am sorry you have to deal with that. The love should be shown back and should also been said.

You know your boundaries now and what you need(not want), stick to them.

 

[Sq****]

I’ve talked to a couple guys where the dom can’t actually love their subs had a sub where the previous dom was too. It’s like their love and sex lives are compartmentalized where they have their kink that they need their subs for, but can never truly love the girl that subs for them. They only want that in a sexual way, but in a personal connection way is a turn off to the level of being a dealbreaker entirely.

[Tw****]

Actuaĺy a true sub /dom relationship "in my eyes" is and should be unconditional love.