Dom/mes, can You love a sub who….

[wi****]

In my personal opinion it's all about the Dom, he is saying exactly what it is, period. Most likely that already love someone and are setting up the boundaries to not hurt that other person. Is simple.

[de****]

Ok I don't say love you neither cause it's don't mean anything anymore to anybody I feel. Hallmark sold to make ***..me I connection a bond is real can't fake can't just say it to say .it's there usually it's within first few meets ..and don't realize it

[de****]

And some sirs I know can't perform impact play to people care about . But can if keep that separation..like one sub had loved cutting *** play and hard impact..I had emotion connection I couldnt do that to here so had let here go . She happy and I don't guilty ..win win

[Mi****]

I feel you

[He****]

I think I understand. For me, without love, it's like cooking a daily ordinary meal: good to still your hunger, but without any deeper meaning or feel

[Deleted Member]

The first question I would ask you is this:

What does your Master loving you LOOK LIKE to you?

That would be the focus to figure this out. If what you’re wanting is too “big” or too “much” for them, maybe find someone who can give you what you want/need. Boys these days just want a warm hole. They’re not interested in love. They just want control with as little effort as possible.

[Ba****]

2 hours ago, misS_zeE said:

The first question I would ask you is this:

What does your Master loving you LOOK LIKE to you?

That would be the focus to figure this out. If what you’re wanting is too “big” or too “much” for them, maybe find someone who can give you what you want/need. Boys these days just want a warm hole. They’re not interested in love. They just want control with as little effort as possible.

Well the first part is decent

But boys of all day just wanted warm holes and the only major difference with girls is that they used to be less open about their needs/desires
People mature past their adolescence you know, while some may do so slower than others and even that difference less stereotypically sexist than you may expect, not to mention that there are highly „romantic“ men they are not even that rare and some of which are also asexual

Just anecdotally i know a few dude bros who left their women because their emotional need where not met and quite a few more who chose to be less sexually active than they would prefer for the benefit of the person they love

Again good point until the word „boys“, the only thing missing would be „too ‚different‘ in the way they express themselves“ since „big“ and „much“ for example verbal affection/affirmation doesn’t really help much if their partners want/need touch and vice versa

[BlueGrace]

I am a submissive with 4 Dominants. I live with 2 of them. Some people aren’t capable of love because of certain factors in their lives. They were upfront and honest with you about it. It has nothing to do with you, but with them. A person can care and not love. Many people take the word and love very seriously. Some build walls to protect themselves at the detriment of others. You cannot *** people to love you, especially when they told you they will not and cannot. Some people know what they are and aren’t capable of and it’s important to understand and acknowledge it without trying to sway them. They were honest with you about it and you chose to stay.
If being loved is extremely important to you, as it is to many, I suggest you look for someone that is capable of that. You won’t get what you want by staying and they won’t change their stance.

[Lo****]

Those were not Doms. They were a** holes hiding behind the label. If a dom can not love pack it up and leave.
Really.

[ki****]

Hey man. Sounds like you’ve gone through a lot of unkind things. If you ever need a buddy to just vent to or chat about things just message me. I’m always an open book and like to make sure my fellow men are in a good place.

[au****]

It could be a style thing. I don't personally think that is the way to truly dominate, but maybe withholding love is their way of establishing control. I think the opposite way is best. If I hold a submissive's heart in my grip, they will gladly hand over anything I want.