NSA and kink

[my****]

If you adhere to stopping when told to stop, or no. You can do some very basic kink pretty easily. A bare handed spanking for example. Telling a person to get on their knees for oral service. Just ordering a person around in general.

Think of it like McDonald’s, you can order a number 3 and you’ll be fed, but it’s not the same as having a home cooked meal made to order.

[dr****]

Because for many people, kink doesn’t have an element of attachment.

[no****]

For me, the strings apply to the concept of eventually moving up the relationship escalator. So NSA is more like "this does not mean we will end up in a relationship". Doesn't mean you can't connect enough to do kink. People are too black and white when it comes to relationship styles, and also, i guess, different people have different definitions of these terms.

[Fu****]

Nsa doesnt mean a one time it means you're not going to be in a common relationship. Pretty obvious how they go together.

[NM****]

One night stands and King don't really go together. But I think you could have an NSA relationship and still build the trust for kink. I think NSA just means not as committed to a relationship. I still think you can have trust. However, if it's just coming over to have sex every once in awhile. Then I don't see you trust being built there. And it would be pretty vanilla kink I imagine. I don't think I would want to Dom anybody that didn't have trust in me. But that is me. Personally. I'm not really a person that would go all out into my kinks on the 1st time.

[go****]

you are exactly right. NSA would be a slap and tickle quickie. absolutely no depth. no learning. no true trust. no D/s just S/m and go.

[Ka****]

Because this site may have been created as a bdsm site but it’s more of a hookup site. I’ve had several men tell me they aren’t into all that “bdsm stuff”. They are just here for fun and sex. When someone says they are NSA but into BDSM, they only mean kinky sex. They don’t want the commitment and trust building. They just want rokeplay bdsm if they want it at all.,

[ci****]

That actually does explain a bit and I need to update my profile now. My brain was thinking No Strings Attached as in just no serious relationship.

[La****]

I think for some, NSA just means that you aren't getting emotionally involved and there's no expectation of anything continuing after the encounter. Now, that's not necessarily for me, but I can see how it can be the case.

[Do****]

NSA and BDSM can go hand in hand. Just depends on dynamic. Your thinking has to be a relationship. And no there doesnt have to be any. And thats where alot have lost true vision of BDSM.

Its all about learning. And most Doms I know and deal with are like myself and there contracts drawn up. Meaning there's discussions done, not just tie up, and pull out the paddle and mark her ass up. No, its more about teaching, and the sub becoming someone they wanna or to become what the Dom/Domme wants.

Please do yourself a huge favor, and do some research. Cause what you been taught and shown is completely wrong. And probably from someone with a twisted way of thinking of this life style.

[de****]

Yes it can. Sort of. I am in the middle of one right now. As long as both are ok and happy and very open to talk with no lies it works very well.

[hu****]

I agree it can’t really…kink needs to be regular not just one time! Specially with the novel of kinks I have! You’re delicious by the way!

[in****]

It depends what one considers kink. Some people consider slightly rough sex and a swat on the ass during doggy kinky. They probably aren’t wanting a suspension bondage session or an interrogation rp scene. And sometimes genuinely kinky folk also appreciate not-very-kinky-but-still-hot NSA sex.

[Pa****]

At play parties you can do pickup play with a stranger and never talk to them again. Doesn’t have to be sexual.

[ho****]

Only scenario is cnc. I left my door open for someone once. We talked before hand tho. It’s risky but fun

[Ni****]

NSA doesn't mean anything goes. It means when we done here and now there is no obligation of further. That is a boundary agreed upon by both/all parties.
The thrill and excitement of meeting someone new and unknown is a kink.

[MD****]

You are absolutely correct. All these people online looking for a d/s dynamic with an instant ownership aspect? Craziness. Trust and communication are the basis of a friendship, relationship or in this case the dynamic. I would be leery of anyone who wanted to just jump right into something without getting to know me, or even rushing the situation.

[Deleted Member]

I agree that trust has to be established before the physical part is possible

[as****]

You're correct, I dont think anyone needs to explain to you.

[Mi****]

Sometimes the mystery is what keeps the investigation going

[Yi****]

Nsa and a one night stand with a stranger are not the same. All that communication and trust sounds vanilla normal to me. People can do what they want in the privacy of their bedroom. Kinky is supposed to be exciting.

[ho****]

Because you've got the brain of female energy -- a holistic, present, flowing, encompassing thing -- and the confused little boys here have boy-brain, which regards all events as transactional. Their brains are designed to deconstruct complex phenomena, such as sex with energetic dynamics, and parse them into tidy boxes; such that when they need to access a box, they carefully remove it from its storage space, participate in/discuss *only what's in that box,* then put it back neatly. That's why men can engage with alarmingly convincing sincerity one moment, and then be absolute sociopaths the next -- because what is the definition of sociopath if not the "nsa/casual" approach to bdsm and D/s? It's the very picture of psychopathy! Made all the more crazy because they seem so-very genuine about it *in that moment.* They're fully present *with that box*! ... Just not fully present *as whole people,* which is what *women* look for and how our sexual psychology works: not thru independent boxes; rather thru interconnected wiring systems. In order for men to actually understand this, it has to be pointed out to them and then rein***d thru relationships. But sadly, many women have convinced themselves thru the folly of the sexual revolution that fucking like a man makes them empowered -- so they continue to rein*** for men that women are just smaller versions of men, with male-oriented sexual psychologies. And guys just live on, none the wiser.

[Sq****]

Because limitations, guidelines, and planning within boundaries exist.

[ho****]

*rein***d

[ho****]

Wtf?! ... Re-in-fo-rced