NSA and kink

[Glasgowdom1991]

I had a similar issue untill I processed that NSA is it's self a kink

[ho****]

Ohh, lol, is Fet blocking the word "f0rce"??! Hahahah! Seriously, guys??! That's just sad.

[na****]

I wanna say woman are the same as man if not much more now with social media and attention, narcissist much?

[Bu****]

I’m with you, honestly this site has become more of a hook up site versus a BDSM lifestyle site.

[Ba****]

It’s an interesting question. I met a wonderful person through Fet that didn’t want her kink tendencies to be ‘public’ for work reasons. I am in the same position, hence lack of pictures. We got to know each other through chat then had very honest and open conversation about our respective ‘needs’.

Neither of us were looking for a LTR, but we both needed a ‘release’ and enjoyment through our kink preferences.

What we got from this app was the icebreaker we needed to have these conversations very openly and honestly, right at the beginning. We had a NSA relationship for about 3 months that was fantastic fun. It stopped because of other things (life) but we’re still in contact now, get on well, and I still remember it very fondly.

[Eb****]

I say men are more incel-prone, aggressively hunting for sexual attention in every possible forum. Blaming and shaming women for not wanting to be with them (since there's never a man's fault... Right?...)

And as a man who spent about half his life as a part of the BDSM/kink/fetish community... I'd say what ever floats your boat. BDSM + sex or no sex...
Why would a person contact a stranger to be humiliated and spat on then go home and masturbate or why would someone want to be shoked during a NSA date? Because they like it. Ykinmkbykik! Just leave it to each their own.

[ge****]

Whilst I agree with you that NSA when it comes to purely sex doesn't have a place on a BDSM/kink site - and also that kink/BDSM need to be discussed and negotiated etc - it is also possible to have that without strings being attached.
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In my local kink scene I know plenty of people that play that way - there's just no deep and meaningful commitment (aka "strings") with the people they play with.
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As an example - I've played with people at kink clubs where we've discussed boundaries, limits etc before playing but at the end of the scene have gone our separate ways both smiling - that's still NSA.

[lf****]

Nsa isnt supposed to be one and done. So you could theoretically establish trust and boundaries and communication. I see nsa as basically fwb in a sense. And I mean if I personally establish an nsa relationship I want it to be more than once. Because sex for the first time with any kink or any vanilla is awkward and out of practice. It takes a couple of sessions to establish that everyone leaves satisfied. Hope this helps.

[Qu****]

Because it's truly not just a BDSM/kink site like you are claiming it is. It's much more than just that on the surface level. Also to be completely fair, there isn't much BDSM/kink happening on this app to begin with.

[mr****]

There are more than one kind of kink

[Da****]

I concur with you, the fifty shades crowd has really watered down the lifestyle. How people can be so casual with something so serious has a level of insanity that I can’t comprehend…Part of the reason I dropped my fet life account tbh. I always try and guide newer people with some friendly advice on what things should look like and some red flags because in the end our self discovery journey should be one we are able to enjoy without it being ruined with part time casuals that don’t know what they are doing…many kinks can be very dangerous without it. And even with the ones that aren’t, having proper consent and respect is an absolute minimum. Imagine CNC or breath play without safe words or proper knowledge…

[Ma****]

What if my kink was meeting strangers in public places for sex?

I guess that answers your entire question..

[Ki****]

I know a few who's kink is the risk and danger of NSA one on one or group scenes.

[jinxed]

3 hours ago, FridaySnow77 said:

My brain can not comprehend how NSA and a kink related situation even fit together!!! Someone explain it to me!

Kink/bdsm needs discussions, boundaries, trust & lots of communication! If it’s just sex, then why even be on a BDSM/kink site?

I've asked myself that exact question before. Now I know that you can look at it as a free time activity: put on your outfit, focus only on the physical activities, call each other a certain name and believe that you've arrived in kink wonderland. This would also explain why with many the stimuli need to get more and more extreme to achieve the desired effect. I've done this myself and have been in situationships where it really only was about the sex for me and where I didn't really care about the person in front of me. In both cases, instead of going deeper I went more extreme. 
Now that I'm starting to understand how it might feel to submit to a man because of him and not through him, I can see how ridiculously hollow these past experiences were. But if you had asked me back then, I would have told you that I'm living the BDSM lifestyle on crack. 

[Ma****]

I have been topped plenty of times, but not 'submitted' in those situations. I was able to experience what different toys felt like, but even then it felt empty to me. I'm to the point of not even playing until I have that connection with someone because I don't want that empty feeling. I think for me, that mental connection is what matters to me. If it's just about getting off, I can handle that myself.

[ab****]

Well as adults we gotta understand everyone doesn’t feel or see it the same way

[K_****]

Kinks are different for everyone. The way you see it with D/S dynamics, trust, etc, that doesn't apply to certain kinks and fetishes.

Some people will role play with perfect strangers. Both are kinks, anonymous encounters and role playing.

Trust and partnership works for many people in the kink space. Some people want something out of it that not everyone else might. We all experience life differently, and as a result, likes and expectations differ so much.

[la****]

I have seen more than one lady post that she got a hotel room. She posted the hotel location and asked for you to DM her when you were in the parking lot. She would send you the room number. If the door was closed busy. If it's open come in and close it behind you.

Not my thing but it's what they wanted. Don't think it gets any more NSA than that.

[Ho****]

NSA is the Kink

[km****]

Actually it should be really easy to mesh the two:
In the context of relationships and intimacy, NSA ("No Strings Attached") and kink work together through clearly defined, consent-based agreements or explicit contracts where partners explore specific physical or fetish interests without the emotional baggage, expectations, or long-term commitments of traditional romantic relationships.

Key Dynamics of NSA Kink Strict Boundaries: Because there is no romantic relationship to fall back on, participants must explicitly negotiate what is and isn’t on the table. Both parties agree on exact limits before any scene begins.

Mutual Consent: Kink requires a high level of trust, and NSA arrangements rely on both partners having a mutual understanding of boundaries and the space to say "no".

Event-Based Intimacy: Instead of working on a partnership, the connection is purely recreational. This allows individuals to fulfill highly specific physical or psychological desires in a compartmentalized way.

Aftercare: Even without emotional strings attached, kink play often requires "aftercare" (checking in emotionally or physically) to ensure both parties feel safe, respected, and grounded after an intense scene.

[Hi****]

I prefer nurturing a connection as it truly helps delve deeper into kinks. However, when expectations and boundaries are clear, no string attached encounters can still work. At the end of the day, we are all unique and different which means there isn’t a single fit all approach. Just my two cents.

[Be****]

I'd assume it would be people who are interested in doing kink scenes with people but aren't looking for an ongoing relationship?

[Da****]

“No strings” doesn’t necessarily mean a one-night stand. It means no obligations. While I agree with your assessment of necessary requirements of kink, that doesn’t preclude casual play. And some people are more trusting than others.

[da****]

Although DaddyFatStacks is right, the “no string” doesn’t have to just mean a one-night stand, I will also say there are people who get the thrill out of the risk. They have anonymous or instant meet up kink play because they get that extra adrenaline of not knowing the person at all

[Be****]

4 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Whilst I agree with you that NSA when it comes to purely sex doesn't have a place on a BDSM/kink site - and also that kink/BDSM need to be discussed and negotiated etc - it is also possible to have that without strings being attached.
.
In my local kink scene I know plenty of people that play that way - there's just no deep and meaningful commitment (aka "strings") with the people they play with.
.
As an example - I've played with people at kink clubs where we've discussed boundaries, limits etc before playing but at the end of the scene have gone our separate ways both smiling - that's still NSA.

Poly and ENM are a thing. Some people can't get their kink needs fulfilled by their current partners and have permission to get their needs met elsewhere. 🤷‍♀️ And some people enjoy "loaning out" their toys 😈😈😈🔥❤️‍🔥🥵💜