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Be confident babe , I know it's hard because society make us believe you need be like Eva longoria to be desired ... it's a lie , some men ( me for example) are only with curvy girls with generous body . Accept who you are and trust in you .
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I say let it hang out. I believe it's beautiful getting the real you not a cover up. Don't worry your beyond sexy 😘
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April 19, Irish_Bunny said:

You don't seem to know what a metabolism is. It's not some sort of magical organ placed inside your body by an evil wizard. It only dictates how many continuous calories you burn during your day and after actives. It doesn't effect you burning activity calories in any way. It's the reason why some people can eat what they want because their metabolism continuous burns. All genetics does to your metabolism is slow it down. That still doesn't stop or prevent you from burning calories through activity. It also doesn't cause fat to magically appear.

Not trying to be disrespectful, but there are actual medical conditions such as PCOS that lends itself to abnormal weight gain amongst other things. I was a size 9 156 before having my son. I gained 2 lbs during pregnancy. Weighed less after giving birth . Was not active, ate healthier and gained 60 lbs in 6 months afterwards thanks to PCOS . I kept a food and exercise journal under doctors supervision so please educate yourself further before assuming it’s all because of overeating and being lazy. I personally don’t over eat nor am I lazy . Clusters Unite. The struggle is real.

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Just now, lexington977 said:

Not trying to be disrespectful, but there are actual medical conditions such as PCOS that lends itself to abnormal weight gain amongst other things. I was a size 9 156 before having my son. I gained 2 lbs during pregnancy. Weighed less after giving birth . Was not active, ate healthier and gained 60 lbs in 6 months afterwards thanks to PCOS . I kept a food and exercise journal under doctors supervision so please educate yourself further before assuming it’s all because of overeating and being lazy. I personally don’t over eat nor am I lazy . Clusters Unite. The struggle is real.

More active rather than not active. Autocorrect changed it.

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The only things genetics would apply towards is bone density. Also ones metabolism only factors in the burn rate of exceeded calories. One still needs to be active and burn calories for the metabolism to react and continue to burn when the body goes into a state of rest. All ones genetics would apply when it comes to how much essess calories that are burnt after an event. So say one exercises and burns 1000kcal and their metabolism is in slow process they might burn an additional 200kcal at rest. So at days end they burnt 1.2k kcal, almost a half of pound of fat cellular compound. That's genetics, you aren't genetically fat, you don't just produce fat out of nowhere, it's not magic.

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Just be yourself, you’re lovely as you are. Be confident in your skin, the battle you are facing is between your ears. Make yourself feel nice, be kind to yourself and ditch anyone who is toxic enough to try and make you feel anything but positive towards yourself. Be in control, and that means giving yourself permission to be ok about who you are.
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Thick lady's do it way way better always
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9 hours ago, jacksonville746 said:
Thick lady's do it way way better always

Amen

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If you lived near me I would take photos for you. I have all the lighting and backdrops. I am plus size and found myself again after taking my own photos and being validated for my natural body with stretch marks and that mom belly C-section. I’ve done it for many friends and I have a good eye. I enjoy empowering women.
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Take up the offer You will feel like a new lady
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Honestly, sleeping naked. It sounds simple and it is. Sleep naked, you'll be surprised how odd it is at first but you'll start to feel a sense of self love over time.
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Auset00 I can not agree anymore. You so correct. The simplest things can give the results
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A very old post but - I heard of one lady who had a similar issue. She was instructed to stand naked in front her mirror for 5 minutes each day. She had stretch marks going one way and a c-section scar going across the other.
She hated it the first day. Shaking. Criticised herself throughout.
Got better the second. I think by the third day, she found herself complimenting parts of herself.

Try it. And anything else you think of that gets you to a point of self acceptance. Tell yourself you love yourself. Even if you don't mean it. Appreciate what your body has done for you. It's been through surgeries for you. Kept you alive and running for years. Remind yourself of that. And do so consistently. You're basically programming yourself to learn to accept yourself via repetition.
Hope you're better now :)
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I don't know if I'm an exception, but I love plus sized women too and I love that they can take more punishment when subbing or are more powerful when domming.
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I too have a large tummy and I worry so much about a first meeting with a Dom. I have gone from a size 28 to size 22 . I still worry though.
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We’re made just the way we’re supposed to be. We’re majestic and fantasized DAILY. Embrace yourself as you are.
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I know from personal experience that this is a huge *** of mine that, any sexual partner I have will think my body is disgusting, and too large, but I started to post photos of myself in just my bra and panties and that has helped me a little. I hope that helps but I think your very beautiful
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Great topic which will always throw up a mix of replies!!!

From my experience a lot of this is down to how someone feels about themselves......  when you catch yourself in the mirror and ..... !

I am in fairly good 'shape' (maybe not health) and I still experience those mirror moments and I also know it is partly due to how I 'see' myself / 'think' of myself.  On the flip side there are times when I see my reflection and realise I am doing OK.

I was diagnosed type 2 diabetes (some yrs back) at that time and pre that I did used to eat pretty much what I wanted - i felt I had a fair diet (veggies and fruit were part of it) - I did some exercise (some swimming / cycling) but I did put on a bit of weight - not a huge amount , but enough for me to recognise a 'rounder' tummy in those mirror moments!!   My struggle was the biscuit / cake / crisp cupboard....  it was all too easy to reach out a grab a biscuit (and another and then 2 or 3 more) .....  I also found work stress added to my need to reach into this cupboard or to consume a large bag of crisps on a journey home.  Mentally that cupboard defeated me - i didnt think i could ever resist the 'lure' of that cupboard...  

Fast forward some yrs and having changed my diet with reference the diabetes and having a regular exercise routine - over time I have come to change most of the above..  the cupboard is still there but it is generally empty - I cut certain food stuffs from my diet.  I am in the best shape of my life (maybe not the best health though) and that has helped me to a degree with the reflection that looks back in the mirror... yet i can still have those moments where i think... 

So maybe this is a long term project.......  We can all make these changes to some degree....  it isn't easy and it isn't quick... it happens bit by bit, over time....   I just have it in my mind now that what I do is a mix of what I consume and what I need to do (exercise wise) in order to maintain a balance for my body.   I have never been strict about it... if i want a biscuit I will have it...    I just try not to binge on 4 or 5 or half the packet!!!   But it can be done.

 

Re self esteem - I feel this is more complex  (it is for me)......   I get the fat belly thing , yet I also know of people who are larger and are very confident about themselves
I have talked with a few people who as above have said that taking photos of themselves and publishing the ones they are happy with has helped them to some degree.......  I also know that many people (maybe all of us) take many many shots and the sift through them like crazy to find the shot that they are happy with ;)
Similarly a number of women (i have known) have also liked corsets and lingerie bodices (and similar)..

I am / have been a commercial photographer as part of my work.... as part of my play I have done a number of kinky / erotic / play type shoots.....  it has been rewarding when the people i have shot have told me that they have been surprised by the end results and how much they liked them and how those images have helped them with their 'self image'


So lots of things to try..... long term it is a goal and take it step by step....  make one little change and then adjust and then try and add another change ....


And after all that I need coffee and cake!!!   (maybe just coffee)

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edit changed GAOL to GOAL !!!!!!
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No one made statues of skinny people. Meat in the right places is the best thing ever. I like em pale n curvy the most!
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For me, I love lingerie, it always boosts my confidence. Also leather and latex!! one of my favorite parts about kink is the aesthetics and fashion ❤️
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I read something on a profile earlier today that sums it up well.

Women are like back roads, the more curves the better.
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I like the full lace body suits found on any typical kink wear sites like Love Honey etc. Niceky hides all the bits I don’t want to think about during play. There are also some great corsets you can find, as well as leather body straps - on many popular Etsy stores hosting kink wear. Those always look super hot on top of the suit and corset type bustiers.
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