Five Body-Positive Tips for Building Self-Esteem

On 3/24/2021 at 5:21 PM, Starling808 said:

Lol, here we go...of course we realize and understand health risks of obesity and we don’t need it pointed out to us by strangers and yes it is mean to do it. With all due respect, You don’t get to decide what is offensive to others.  The health issue is between us and our doctors.  Lots of normal weight people also have various health problems but since you can’t see them you don’t take it upon yourself to comment or think about their health, right?  Oh look at that guys high cholesterol, I better say something!  Oh my god, that person has a tumor, I better get them to the oncologist!  No..this is about fat phobia for you under the guise of so-called caring.  Just say nothing and if you’re not attracted then leave us alone. Did you know that 95 percent of people who lose weight regain it and that’s actually more harmful to health than not having lost it in the first place?  It’s complex. Read up on obesity science or talk to a bariatric surgeon if you really truly care about our health and want to learn. Otherwise just treat us like anyone else Bc we already know about the health risks and telling us we have “beautiful faces” is backhanded. Don’t do it. It’s like saying lots of poor people are hard workers. It’s like saying people should find you unappealing but your saving grace is this.  

And this is the kind of response that we've all become so very accustomed to finding! Ffs! Talk about jump down someone's throat,! If you dare to stop yourself for 5 seconds before sounding off at people maybe the guy was actually genuinely giving people a compliment?? Lol  not everyone is seemingly as nasty and calculated as you can be certainly not everyone has a double meaning in their response get a life

From experience, i believe you just have to go with the crowd that wants you, me personally i like bbws.

Sex for me with a bbw is more pleasurable and they have the best Vagina's ever, always soaking wet, i think it has to do with them having lots of estrogen, the women sex hormones

I find that i usually cannot last longer during sex with bbw's because of their exceptional vagina's

Cheers

Thank you!

It seems BBW is ok, but BBM really isn’t. You are beautiful and sexy. Especially in lingerie.
As a overweight male, no one was interested. I lost 45 pounds and have started to put on muscle. Now people are interested.
But, I just accept it as it is.

Love this .really good read and helpful x

So long as people realize and understand the health risks of obesity. It's not mean to point these things out. It's simply acknowledging fact and truth. I come from an obese, overweight family and have grown up around this. You can be nice and kind to overweight people, while still acknowledging the health hazards of obesity. Any doctor would agree, I'm sure. But plus size women often have very beautiful faces.

What about advice for guys?

Awsome

Yeaaa

What a wonderful article. We are all beautiful. Perfectly imperfect! ♥️

Practice practice Practice! I used to think the same and its not true. The first step in my opnion is allowing yourself to take compliments from others. Dont turn them down, say they are wrong, or try to counter the compliment. Smile swallow your initial reactions and say thank you. Allow others to see your beauty. The second is to get naked in front on a mirror and say kind things to your body as if it were your best friend. You dont have to believe them, just say them over and over for minimum 10 minutes a day. After practice you will start seeing yourself as beautiful. Lastly, follow people in your social media with body types like yours! You feel negative about your body because you dont see beautiful people in your size well look for them! Insta has loads of beautiful plus size big bodies 😍❤ its not easy work, and you won't feel fabulous everyday, but you can love yourself and change your perspective on yourself ❤

Sometimes things cant be changed, how we look at our selves. Ive tried lol

Love! Great article and tips! Not only for fat bodied folk but for people of all sizes! Insecurities live within all of us, and fester keeping us from flourishing into our beautiful amazing true selves. Flaunt what you have and celebrate all bodies ❤

I feel fabulous after reading this.  I've always been edging toward Goddess-shaped but while I didn't have as many men friends as my slimmer sisters, I've certainly had my share.  (Usually attracted by the size of my bust.) My lord likes a 'good handful of woman' and shows that he likes but it's good to hear such positive words from another Goddess-girl and it is true - there's plenty of lovely lingerie and goodies in plus sizes. Thanks, Victoria.

Loved reading the suggestions for help, I've always felt big and fat and been ridiculed for being much larger than most people, and have because of this always struggled with my self esteem, Its only recently and with help from some truly lovely people that I've started to see my worth,
I'm looking forward to trying your tips and seeing how they help! 

Yeah it does seem the main Fetish mags and fetish models like in Bizzare magazine are very slim & perfect & somewhat boring because of it too)