Point to ponder

[No****]

Why is an older woman with a much younger man acceptable and she is titled a cougar, but a older man out with a younger woman is a pervert, pedophile.
I was out with my Grandaughter who i havent seen in a while. While we were eating dinner. People were walking passed our table saying things like "disgusting", "you should be ashamed of yourself", etc.

[xe****]

Was it people telling you disgusting things, or was it women? I don't see men telling you anything UNLESS they're being performative for the woman they're with.

[du****]

Your problem is giving a shit what others think

[Deleted Member]

I agree you just need to stop caring about what people think . My dom and I have an 11 year age gap which isn’t even that bad and people still talk shit. You just have to simply stop caring because why would their opinion even matter to you to begin with ?

[Ha****]

My take: The (historical) subjugation of women by men makes it so that the age dynamic of older woman/younger man does not feel as though it’s furthering that subjugation. Generally speaking, the reverse does not feel the same because it furthers the perceived power imbalance.

I think the mistake is assuming that the general/historical patterns apply to all individuals. Then there are the cases where both enjoy that power shifting further from balance and everyone else needs to mind their own damned business.

[We****]

Aside from the social taboo, I find that younger women attracted to older men seem inhibited. It’s more of a psychological failure to overcome for them than younger men who see MILFs as a conquest.

[Sindri8me]

Off the top of my mind... The historic, systemic, and cultural power imbalance. Gender based *** statistics. The cultural objectification and dehumanization of women and their bodies. The patriarchy. The male gaze. The Epstein list...
Like, dgmw grandpa, you do what you want with whomever you want as long as it's between consenting adults. But lets not kidd ourself by acting like these two things are exactly the same. In a perfect world, sure. But this ain't it.

[Deleted Member]

Or maybe people can just simply mind their own business instead of assuming every relationship is like that 😑 if everyone involved is a consenting adult why do you care?

[Deleted Member]

Who gives a fuck what people think

[ta****]

I call BS.

[MasterAidan]

as someone who is attracted to older women, and has talked to and been with women way older than me, like my first slave in person was 27 when I was 20, it’s actually seen as less acceptable, and they actually face more pressure from society like of being seen in a negative way like that.

[No****]

It used to be the opposite. In the old days a woman was married off to a much older man. Like a 18 yr old to a 54 yr old. It was common practice. But you never saw a younger man with an older woman.. that was scandalous.
My first Dom and I had an age gap of 30 years and no one said a thing.

[Deleted Member]

7 minutes ago, No1UNo2day said:

It used to be the opposite. In the old days a woman was married off to a much older man. Like a 18 yr old to a 54 yr old. It was common practice. But you never saw a younger man with an older woman.. that was scandalous.
My first Dom and I had an age gap of 30 years and no one said a thing.

Exactly many years ago my ex at the time was 39 and I was 18 I lost my virginity to her

[ho****]

U r exactly right my friend

[Apophis72]

People are generally disappointing, they have preconceived moral compass that is steered by the media. They see themselves as having the right to pass comment on anyone/couple that falls outside this compass., "your a pedophile" , "your a predator" , ect. they do this without the knowledge of that dynamic/relationship, eg. the author of this subject being out to dinner with his granddaughter.
A simple meal out is turned into something lude and perverted by people with no clue, just the supposed right to comment.
I was told by a 36 year old female on this site, that I (a dominant with more than 30 years experience) should leave the site and go to a dating site for the over 50s, as this site is for young people. It's this type of media driven trash talk that people think they have a right to comment on anyone male or female about their morality not lining up with the morality of the general norm.

[Apophis72]

My 2 Cents........
if you are a younger female that likes/prefers older men, then as long as you are consenting, and the relationship is not abusive (physically or emotionally), then that relationship has every right to exist. We are part of a community that lives outside the norms of society in general, yet we have to conduct ourselves in relative secret, unless it's a media entertainment for the rest of society to masturbate over.
You are who you are, and your life has little to do with others outside yours, life is to be enjoyed and celebrated, not crushed to fit the square peg of social norms.

[Ri****]

I'm 47, and currently talking with a girl on here who's 26. I didn't go looking for an age gap, I saw someone I thought was attractive, said Hi, and got chatting. We get on really well, have matching energy, similar interests, things just clicked, she's really bright, light, funny.

She's telling me that she thinks she's lucky to have found me, and I feel like the luckiest man alive.

Age doesn't matter, 2 humans that get on together and want to be with each other does.

And as for other people's opinions...well they can either accept and be happy, or go boil their own head.

[al****]

In my experience, and I’ve only dated younger women, the people that have a problem with it are the older women. The best relationships I’ve had have been with women much younger than myself.

I lived in Eastern Europe and Kenya, Africa and older men dating younger women is the norm.. it’s totally accepted - even expected.

[oe****]

It's because the same older woman are going for the same age bracket. It even further lowers their chances.

Don't quote me on this but I think after 39-41 their chances of finding someone drops astronomically!
9/10 it's a woman who holds issue with this.

[oe****]

Correction it's age 30-35 that their chances start dropping astronomically

[Apophis72]

Perhaps it’s because an older man is a safer option, as far to many 35 to 45 year old males are just looking for sex not a relationship, and they hide this

[Apophis72]

Stats show that Married males between 35 to 40, will use subdefuge to have sex outside of their marriage

[Apophis72]

35 to 45

[Cl****]

I'm 13 years old than my friend. She chose me. Even though I was older. Been together 10 plus years and a daughter 8. I'm 46 now. I get hit on by more younger women my whole life. Age doesn't matter (no babies). Respect do.

[BW****]

Clap cheeks. No you don’t