Point to ponder

[Ki****]

I’m 40 and she’s 20…

[ne****]

I’m sorry but I find this difficult to believe. Unless you were touching her inappropriately I can’t even imagine anyone saying something to a man and his granddaughter.

[Cl****]

Wrong. Not looking 4 younger. But it's no different then a woman dating or Fucking a you guy. Nobody said they were chasing kids. I've had women come at me, and they still come at me after telling them my age. So for a woman who considers herself grown (21 plus). But l9ng as a woman is talking about what's in their bucket. Then there's no problem. All facts. It Works both ways.

[Cl****]

Most men who grow up. I've seen the same girls who were there age looking for older guys. Not the ***rs. Why is that woman? But then when they get some age on them. Then they want that hometown friend then. You are not thinking about age.

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1 hour ago, ClapCheeks said:

Most men who grow up. I've seen the same girls who were there age looking for older guys. Not the ***rs. Why is that woman? But then when they get some age on them. Then they want that hometown friend then. You are not thinking about age.

Ooga booga

[1i****]

21 hours ago, Apophis72 said:

People are generally disappointing, they have preconceived moral compass that is steered by the media. They see themselves as having the right to pass comment on anyone/couple that falls outside this compass., "your a pedophile" , "your a predator" , ect. they do this without the knowledge of that dynamic/relationship, eg. the author of this subject being out to dinner with his granddaughter.
A simple meal out is turned into something lude and perverted by people with no clue, just the supposed right to comment.
I was told by a 36 year old female on this site, that I (a dominant with more than 30 years experience) should leave the site and go to a dating site for the over 50s, as this site is for young people. It's this type of media driven trash talk that people think they have a right to comment on anyone male or female about their morality not lining up with the morality of the general norm.

And the people that pass judgement are secretly wanting the things they're passing judgement on.

[ey****]

8 hours ago, neenbean said:

I’m sorry but I find this difficult to believe. Unless you were touching her inappropriately I can’t even imagine anyone saying something to a man and his granddaughter.

same. I've otherwise refrained from commenting on the thread because I find it difficult to believe the scenario.  

[Cl****]

You right. Not all men are looking for a younger woman (21 plus and legal, but you see it every day). Younger chasing older. On both front. I'm done. Just the truth.

[Ga****]

It’s because of the power dynamics. A much older woman dating a much younger man is still problematic. it’s just more socially accepted because due to societal norms, men have greater power simply due to the fact they’re men. Age gaps are almost always problematic in one way or another, regardless of whom is older.

Don’t be gross, date in your age range.

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16 minutes ago, GageL said:

It’s because of the power dynamics. A much older woman dating a much younger man is still problematic. it’s just more socially accepted because due to societal norms, men have greater power simply due to the fact they’re men. Age gaps are almost always problematic in one way or another, regardless of whom is older.

Don’t be gross, date in your age range.

By that same psychology then d/s relationships with a female sub and male dom are all wrong . Do you see how that makes no sense ?

[TJ****]

It's sour g***s from people who missed out

[TJ****]

Damn they made that word look way worse lok

[Ki****]

The dirty looks I get while out in public with my 20 year old girlfriend makes me laugh loud enough so the person giving the look hears how much it bothers me that they feel some type of way. But I might have other kinks like making the public angry with my poor decisions 😂

[Ga****]

Yesterday at 11:06 PM, BlueDream said:

By that same psychology then d/s relationships with a female sub and male dom are all wrong . Do you see how that makes no sense ?

Entirely different. But go off, king.

[ey****]

Personally speaking.  I tend not to care about folk in age gap relationships - but - there is something often amiss when someone flips from one much younger partner to another over and over.

But for wider views.

Some is perceptions, fairly or otherwise - an assumption that someone is preying on naivety, etc.  And the power dynamics will always be there as others have said.

Mind, I will say I have often seen guys stating they are specifically looking for someone younger - I seldom see women stating they are specifically looking for someone younger.  

[ca****]

I disagree with the opening line of the OP (unless of course it is his 'opinion'.)

Now if some people think as the OP states I expect that is down to their choice  / opinion, which then leads onto do you give a 'feck' about their opinion.

[Stallingfoot]

Idk, I guess it's because older men have more mature/developed brains (especially if we're going by under 21s/25s) and might be more controlling/different/manipulative, though I'm pretty sure older women dating younger men has been accused of before, may be the same reason as the one I provided, I guess it's less controversial since women may not be as controlling or manipulative as men. And I'll say this, I am a younger man and I only planned on finding girls in my age range (18-22) on this site since I thought it would be weird to talk to a more mature women at my age. A 30 year old women did send me a spank (likely not seeing my profile description) and I dm'd and asked her stuff (she doesn't find my 10 year gap weird and also likes both older and younger men so I decided I was fine with it and sent her a friend request, we still speak today)

Edited Wednesday at 02:01 PM by Stallingfoot

[it****]

I don't think it has anything to do with mental age as it does with physical capability. The idea of a woman, grown or otherwise, forcing a younger (legal age) guy is asinine in society's eye. However, a man forcing a young (legal age) girl is seen as her being too weak to defend herself against his advances. That, mixed with the maturity that she brings, is easy to see as *** and not consent.

[it****]

Just now, itsahme_potato said:

I don't think it has anything to do with mental age as it does with physical capability. The idea of a woman, grown or otherwise, forcing a younger (legal age) guy is asinine in society's eye. However, a man forcing a young (legal age) girl is seen as her being too weak to defend herself against his advances. That, mixed with the maturity that she brings, is easy to see as *** and not consent.

Maturity that he brings*

[Apophis72]

6 hours ago, itsahme_potato said:

I don't think it has anything to do with mental age as it does with physical capability. The idea of a woman, grown or otherwise, forcing a younger (legal age) guy is asinine in society's eye. However, a man forcing a young (legal age) girl is seen as her being too weak to defend herself against his advances. That, mixed with the maturity that she brings, is easy to see as *** and not consent.

What if the younger female has chased the older male?. This is where you have to be careful about preconceived morality. The relationship between between two people people as long as it is not abusive both mentally and physically has every right to exist, whether that is older, male, and and young female, or older female and younger male.
More and more younger females between the age of 18 and 28 are seeking older males. This is where I pointed out earlier in the thread where the media is steering people’s moral compass, without the knowledge of that dynamic/relationship.
None of us has the right to interfere in a relationship/dynamic that is not abusive either mentally or physically, or pass judgement on the people in that relationship.
The opening context of this thread, was a grandfather took his granddaughter out to lunch, and people were passing comment without knowing what the relationship was between them. This level of moral high ground behaviour should be a lesson to all of us, if it’s not abusive either mentally or physically than that relationship is none of our business morally or otherwise 

[it****]

48 minutes ago, Apophis72 said:

What if the younger female has chased the older male?. This is where you have to be careful about preconceived morality. The relationship between between two people people as long as it is not abusive both mentally and physically has every right to exist, whether that is older, male, and and young female, or older female and younger male.
More and more younger females between the age of 18 and 28 are seeking older males. This is where I pointed out earlier in the thread where the media is steering people’s moral compass, without the knowledge of that dynamic/relationship.
None of us has the right to interfere in a relationship/dynamic that is not abusive either mentally or physically, or pass judgement on the people in that relationship.
The opening context of this thread, was a grandfather took his granddaughter out to lunch, and people were passing comment without knowing what the relationship was between them. This level of moral high ground behaviour should be a lesson to all of us, if it’s not abusive either mentally or physically than that relationship is none of our business morally or otherwise 

I completely agree! I was just putting in another viewpoint. Women are seen as incapable of protecting themselves in society, so people feel the need to step in whereas men are seen as infallible when it comes to protecting themselves, which leads to this misconception.

[Apophis72]

I’m sorry, but that’s absolute media driven nonsense, you do not have the right to step in on any relationship if that relationship is neither abusive physically or mentally.
I know primal submissive on here that would lay most of the dominance out cold, and for that matter some of the brats too

[it****]

32 minutes ago, Apophis72 said:

I’m sorry, but that’s absolute media driven nonsense, you do not have the right to step in on any relationship if that relationship is neither abusive physically or mentally.
I know primal submissive on here that would lay most of the dominance out cold, and for that matter some of the brats too

Oh, absolutely! By no means are (most) women actually that fragile, it's just what society has deemed as true.

[Apophis72]

Society has nothing to do with it. Socially all the men have been marrying young women for 100 years.
It’s only in recent years when media thinks it has the right to drive societies norms. The problem is people have a perceived right to interfere and they do not have the right.

[it****]

20 minutes ago, Apophis72 said:

Society has nothing to do with it. Socially all the men have been marrying young women for 100 years.
It’s only in recent years when media thinks it has the right to drive societies norms. The problem is people have a perceived right to interfere and they do not have the right.

It has everything to do with society. At some point, we decided that protecting our daughters was more important than marriage. Especially in today's world, where marriage is less and less important and movements like the #metoo movement are a thing.