Rope/handcuff play

[Johnny-3026]

I’m new to tying people up or handcuffing. I assume most people do this sort of thing with someone they trust there anything that makes you feel unsafe/uncomfortable amidst the action? Is there anything you don’t like having done or think guys should do more of while being in that position? I understand it is subjective but I’d still like to hear people’s opinions.

[kg****]

I enjoy little check ins :) How are you feeling?” “Can you wiggle your fingers and toes?” “Is anything too tight or uncomfortable?” “Do you need water or a break?” Best wishes <3

[to****]

I do enjoy being cuffed and having my mouth used like a well you know but not to hard I do kinda like to be able to talk the next day at work

[Rick_sensual405]

Check ins are great. Trying having an assortment of materials incase, sometimes cuffs and rope can be daunting. Make your captive feel in control, go over what is going to happen to them and show them you have made proper precautions (quick release ties, medical sheers). Make if fun and playful for them, verbally or sensually tease them. Most important of all discuss aftercare and do said after care, especially with more intense scenes. Be safe and have fun.

[PL****]

I have very strict hard limits when first being tied by a partner. They change to soft limits and eventually may even go away as being a limit at all once full trust is established. One example is when first being bound No cock gets to fuck my hours when tied. This starts as a hard limit, but changes as trust is built.

[Pa****]

A few of thoughts:
- Use padded handcuffs. Otherwise, it’s possible your partner may end up with some soft tissue damage.
- Do a “dry run” Talk each other thru what will happen and more importantly, how.
- Find out if there are any physical limitations and/or preferences . Try placing the hands above, behind, attached to an anchor, etc.
- As the previous post highly recommended, check in, early and often.
- The fact that you’re asking questions says a lot about you!
- Restraint Play done right adds yet another layer to the D/s dynamic!

Have Fun!

[Te****]

With inexperienced bottoms and or if your inexperienced yourself, take your time. I've tried to get a testing play in first wirh lots of feedback within the play when starting out. You both need to be communicative for this. Some subs will become non verbal so a slower built approach is safer. Once the initial getting to know each other is over with an additional post play feedback you can begin to get a bit more playfull without so much preamble. Subs don't always want to know the script but they do want their limits respected. The time it takes to build the trust and to be knowledgable of each others limits is the investment that will pay handsome benefits as plays and the dynamic develop over time. This is my view, I'm sure there will be plenty that differ.

[tr****]

I mean obviously what everyone above has said.
My added 2 cents:
Start with sturdy areas for your first time tying. It feels like it makes sense to start on wrists and legs because theyre what you want to be tying. But they've got a lot of tiny bones and tendons so if you get something wrong it goes really wrong. Doing a chest or hip harness though has less chance of permanent damage when youre playing around with it and learning how to tie, where to knot so its comfortable, and how tight you can go.
Dont start doing restrictive ties until 1) you can trust your partner to safeword if they need to and 2) you can trust yourself to see signs if they dont safeword

[Etiam_mi_rex]

Bondage is one of those things where you'll want to do two things. Take the time to learn how the body can be injured through bad knots or placement. You don't want to damage nerves, for example. The other is to read lots of stories from subs. Eventually, you'll find subs who's mentally matches you subs and you'll be able to understand their mindset as to what bondage does for them. This will help you to learn more effective harnesses to use.

[Deleted Member]

Practice practice practice when it comes to rope. Shibari is edge play. Don't make the bedroom where you start practicing. Practice on yourself lots. Learn about nerves. There's so much to look out for: nerve issues (severe damage can happen), monitoring circulation, constricting (I got injured in a suspension this way), and also hugely the emotional/psychological safety of your rope bottom. If you're with a newer rope bottom start very slow increments to avoid the vagus response. Also be aware of the emotional drop that can happen after. Also, be sure to continuously do check ins as your rope bottom may start to go non-speaking as they drop into sub space. I recommend the stoplight system, but also ask how they are feeling and if anything feels uncomfortable. Oh and ALWAYS keep a pair of rope shears nearby. I'm a big fan of Bound Studio and they have online video courses as well.

[Deleted Member]

P.S. I'd recommend going the purchased bondage route for safety unless you have the time to commit to learning rope. For all things good in this world no metal handcuffs. -- if you decide to go the rope route make sure you know signs something is going wrong or needs adjusted. (Ex. Tingling or numb sensation on specific parts of the hand mean very different things)

[Yi****]

I would say practice your knots on your spare time. I like role play. Maybe you and your partners do too. A little drama goes a long way for example, if you dont have all the supplies or experience.

[Deleted Member]

A book called " Shibari Suspensions" by Gestalta is a good, inexpensive starting point, it's available on Amazon. There is also a YouTube channel called "Twisted Monk" their videos are easy to understand