What a surprise!

[Jimmmy]

5 minutes ago, kiseu said:

Oh boy... after reading the comments, it turned out complex for me. I am with the cautious people, but if you are happy, feel fulfilled, safe... SAFE, and not ending up in the hospital... HOSPITAL, then go for it!👍

Eine sehr ausgewogene Antwort und gute Ratschläge. Vielen Dank!

[se****]

Bitte. Sein vorsichtig Dich. Er ist Dein Kryptonit, aber alles Gute.❤

[Jimmmy]

5 hours ago, kiseu said:

Bitte. Sein vorsichtig Dich. Er ist Dein Kryptonit, aber alles Gute.❤

Ja, alle ist Gut: ich bin nicht Superman! 

[se****]

15 minutes ago, Jimmmy said:

Ja, alle ist Gut: ich bin nicht Superman! 

Sorry, but I thought you were German... alles Gute in my sentence "All the best".😅 German is hard, but people complain more about French. I know you do not want to hear this🙈, but please keep one eye open to all the things the good hearted, cautious members mentioned.❤

[Jimmmy]

16 hours ago, kiseu said:

Sorry, but I thought you were German... alles Gute in my sentence "All the best".😅 German is hard, but people complain more about French. I know you do not want to hear this🙈, but please keep one eye open to all the things the good hearted, cautious members mentioned.❤

Thanks for this.  I’m aware that you were saying “All the best”. I was saying that it’s all good, Kryptonite won’t affect me adversely because I’m not Superman!

[Jimmmy]

So nearly 3 months on, here’s an update:

I’m delighted to say that it’s still going VERY well. The D/s situation has settled to a level that works for both of us and it’s really good. The overwhelming negativity I received on this thread may have been well intentioned by those writing it, but it’s been irrelevant as I vet my playmates so carefully, and this adventure has been really successful, with absolutely no concerns on my part. We’ve become good friends, with MASSIVE benefits!

Having met up on at least a dozen occasions, it’s given us a chance to progress and explore. My Boss is totally focused on doing to me exactly that which I like, and he constantly pushes my boundaries. It’s been a journey of incredible discoveries. And mind blowing pleasure. And he’s such a nice guy, too. Intelligent, articulate and interesting, respectful, but demanding too. He certainly understands the concept of control and I have been totally restrained, bound, plugged, gagged and thoroughly used and ***d, to the mutual pleasure of us both.

Sustained, prolonged periods of mechanised and manual penetration and fisting has been a regular feature, taking me to new highs of intense pleasure. The combination of physical stimulation with the mental control of physical restraint leads to the greatest experiences.

Never have I felt threatened though. Never have I felt at risk of physical ***. It’s been, and continues to be, just incredibly exciting and rewarding. And I’ve been taken to places I’ve been before, in my head, and quite a few that I haven’t…

I’m really happy. Further updates to follow in due course.

[Jimmmy]

And here we are, 6 months on. Still going well.

I am very much my Boss’s boy and he is definitely The Boss when we are playing. He dominates me totally and I’d better do as I’m told. It’s pretty awesome actually!

We have a huge range of toys and equipment and I regularly get restrained, gagged and comprehensively penetrated for extended periods with big objects, which brings both of us immeasurable pleasure. I love it. Especially the feeling of utter submission and ***ness. It’s what I’ve wanted for years and he loves doing to me that which I want done to me. It’s a very mutually agreeable arrangement!

There’s no *** here though. It’s all by consent. I am pushed beyond my limits sometimes and the scale is thus recalibrated. But I’m never injured or hurt. I am given tasks to complete sometimes, when I’m at home, and some play sessions are by video call. That actually works out well, surprisingly. 
I want to please my Boss and he rewards my good behaviour. I still don’t consider this a “lifestyle” arrangement though: it’s just kinky play that scratches an itch for both of us.

For quite a while I only played with him, at his place, somewhat infrequently. I grew to be out of practice and our sessions became less relaxed as a result of my apprehension at having something huge pushed into me when it hadn’t happened for a while. So now I’m in regular training and our play sessions are just awesome. I can properly relax, preparation is a quick process and I’m able to please my Boss easily. We’ve used fucking machines with large diameter toys and we’ve used manually operated toys too. Inflatables have also featured, together with gags and straps. Poppers is an important part of our play for me and it heightens the feelings.

We have no conditions on each other and are both free to play with whoever we want, but neither of us have played with any other playmates yet, since we met.

This is what fun should look like. There’s no “healing”. No “therapy”. No “triggers” or other baggage to complicate anything. It’s just fun without limits and I love it! Highly recommended…

[Jimmmy]

It was early May last year that I posted the OP on this thread. Here we are now some 15 months later, and all is well, absolutely incredible, in fact!
 

My Boss has his health issues that cause him discomfort and sometimes he just can’t play. I make allowance for that. But when we do play, pretty regularly, it’s amazing! To have built trust with a playmate over a long period can lead to activities that bring levels of satisfaction and sheer unbridled joy that simply aren’t possible with brief fleeting encounters.

 

To all the naysayers: you were all so wrong on this one, but thanks for your well-intentioned advices.

 

To those who were supportive and excited for me: Thank you!

 

This is an adventure that gets more exciting with every meet and the level of extreme play we have reached is beyond anything that I ever could have dreamed of, or even fantasised about. When you find a playmate that is so in tune with you, who gets just as much out of a session as you do, with you both fulfilling each other’s needs and wants so fully, it really doesn’t get any better than that.

 

All of this experience goes to prove that you sometimes have to take a punt. You have to seek out that person that you don’t yet know, the one that is going to be that incredible playmate that you click with so comprehensively. It’s worth the effort when it happens.

 

And for the record, I’ve never been physically hurt, threatened or otherwise ***d outside of the mutually agreed boundaries we’ve set. My Boss is first and foremost my trusted and deeply respected friend. We don’t have official exclusivity over each other, but why would I want to play anywhere else when it’s so good here? It’d have to be a pretty special offer…

When you find a playmate like this, it’s absolutely magic!

 

[Jimmmy]

Further update:

The “D/s lifestyle” thing has all but disappeared from our relationship now, but there’s still very much a D/s vibe when we’re in playing mode. It’s absolutely the case that I do as I’m told, within our agreed limits. 

My “Boss” has become a very good friend to me, with exceptional benefits! It’s a mutually beneficial arrangement that is continuing to work well for both of us.

The play we engage in has become ever more extreme, and consequently more exciting. Not that I’m lacking anything, but I want to share these experiences with others, so I’ve had permission to play away too, with conditions. It’s all good. Very good .

Further updates to follow in due course…